Using FaceBook to Locate Babies for Adoption

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The other day, ABC ran a segment in Good Morning America about using Facebook for adoption.  See the following link:

http://abcnews.go.com/US/adoption-facebook-gains-favor/story?id=15654509

Couples are actively using Facebook to adopt, and we are routinely seeing this to expedite adoption in Columbus and throughout Ohio.

Many prospective adoptive parents were reluctant to get personally involved in the search for a birth parent who was willing to place her baby for adoption, preferring instead to delegate this important task to an agency or lawyer.  Some believe that if an adoption is meant to be, it will just happen.  Do you believe in magic?  Times have changed.  More couples are refusing to wait on an agency or lawyer to locate a child.  There is no rule that says you must wait to locate a birth mother willing to place her child for adoption.  Prospective adoptive parents have options. 

Today the high demand for infants for adoption and birth mothers greater involvement in the match-making process means that passive adopters are likely to wait for years.  Prospective parents are overcoming shyness and willing to publicize their search for a child to the outside world.  More couples are taking the lead in the search for a birth mother willing to place her baby for adoption.  They are using direct networking through Facebook and YouTube.  By playing an active role in locating a child for adoption, couples can receive more information since they are directly involved.

A very fast and effective way to locate a birth mother for adoption is to use direct networking through media such as Facebook and YouTube.

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What is Gestational Surrogacy?

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Almost every surrogacy procedure is a gestational surrogacy procedure. In this type, a surrogate carries a child that was conceived using eggs and sperm from a couple or from donor eggs and sperm.

In traditional surrogacy the surrogate carrier’s own egg is used and combined with sperm from the male partner through intrauterine insemination (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF). In this case, the surrogate is biologically related to the child.

In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate is not biologically related to the child. Gestational surrogacy is considered less risky since the child she is carrying is not biologically related.

To protect the rights of all parties, a contract must be drawn up before beginning the surrogacy process. The couple will pay the surrogate a fee that is agreed upon before the procedure begins. The couple may also pay for preparation, screenings, pregnancy related expenses, medical expenses, agency fees, delivery fees, etc.

The ideal surrogate has had her own child or children and should be an adult. Using a surrogate that has had a child shows she is capable of carrying a child to term and lessens the chances of the surrogate becoming emotionally attached to the child. In order to find a surrogate, many couples consult fertility clinics, websites, lawyers, or other agencies.

When choosing an attorney to assist with a surrogacy matter, do so carefully. Not every attorney is experienced in surrogacy. Tommy Taneff is a former Probate Court Magistrate who has handled surrogacy matters for years.

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Surrogate Will Help Mother Create Grandchild Using Deceased Son’s Sperm

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A woman recently lost a son who died in a night club fight. That grieving mother is now preparing to create a grandchild using her deceased son’s sperm. Shortly after Marissa Evans’ son died, his sperm was collected and will be combined with an egg from a donor and implanted into a surrogate.

Nikolas died after he was struck outside an Austin night club. The son hit his head after falling to the ground and died approximately 10 days later. The mother chose the egg from a donor who resembled her deceased son’s facial features, education and interests. The egg donor and the surrogate who will carry the child are two different people who live in two different countries. The egg donor is from Russia.

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House Bill 92

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House Bill 92 now allows an adult to be adopted if the adult is the child of the spouse, as long as the adult child consents to the adoption.

This means that a child can finally become a regular member of the family. Previously under Ohio law, an adult could only be adopted if he had established a parent-childlike relationship as a minor. If a couple had married and decided they wanted to combine their families, parents could only adopt the other parent’s minor children. But what to do in a situation where you have remarried and your new spouse has an adult child who wishes to become bound to this family? Previously under Ohio law that adult child could not be adopted.

Now House Bill 92 allows each spouse to affirm the other’s children and put all the kids on the same footing.

To see House Bill 92 as passed by House, cut and paste the following link to your browser:

http://www.lsc.state.oh.us/analyses129/h0092-ph-129.pdf

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Don’t Forget Your IRS Refund for Adoption!

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The Federal adoption tax credit has been enhanced for adoptive parents and prospective parents. The adoption tax credit has been increased to $13,170.00. It is now fully refundable! This means even if you did not owe federal taxes, you will get a refund.

You can qualify for the adoption tax credit whether you do a domestic or foreign adoption and whether or not the child has special needs.

The expenses that qualify include legal, medical, adoption fees, Court costs, and travel expenses. The IRS outlines what qualifies at their website. You must have documentation for your expenses with receipts. Some parents who are in higher income tax brackets may not be eligible.

Disclaimer. I am not a tax preparer. This information is presented for you to share with your tax preparer.

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Couple Put Up Billboard to Locate a Baby for Adoption

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In Michigan, a couple who is looking for a baby for adoption, put up a billboard advertising their attempt to adopt. Rather than waiting to locate a baby through an agency, they decided to become proactive to find a prospective birth mother on their own.

Although the couple was also networking by asking family, friends and relatives to help, they decided to expand their efforts and target a much larger audience by buying a billboard ad and putting it up on Interstate 75 in Grand Blanc, Michigan. The billboard message was simple. It read “LOVING COUPLE LOOKING TO ADOPT” and listed the couple’s names and phone number. The couple stated that since posting the billboard they have received numerous calls.

Under Ohio law, such advertising is considered illegal. Although many of us lawyers consider the Ohio law that prohibits advertising to be a violation of first amendment rights, to my knowledge this has yet to be challenged.

Ohio law does recognize networking efforts to locate a child. Some couples even decide to advertise out of state. Aggressive networking does work in locating prospective birth mothers interested in placing their baby for adoption.

When choosing an attorney to assist with an adoption matter, prospective clients should do so carefully. Not every attorney is experienced in the adoption area. Just because an attorney has done a step-parent adoption does not mean he is familiar with the intricacies of a private/independent adoption.

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Adoption Tax Credit Expanded

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IR-2010-100 – The Internal Revenue Service issued guidance on the expanded adoption credit included in the Affordable Care Act.

The Affordable Care Act raises the maximum adoption credit to $13,170 per child. It also makes the credit refundable, meaning that eligible taxpayers can get it even if they owe no tax for that year. In general, the credit is based on the reasonable and necessary expenses related to a legal adoption, including adoption fees, court costs, attorney’s fees and travel expenses. Income limits and other special rules apply.

In addition to filling out Form 8839, Qualified Adoption Expenses, eligible taxpayers must include with their 2010 tax returns one or more adoption-related documents, detailed in the guidance issued today.

The documentation requirements, designed to ensure that taxpayers properly claim the credit, mean that taxpayers claiming the credit will have to file paper tax returns. Normally, it takes six to eight weeks to get a refund claimed on a complete and accurate paper return where all required documents are attached. The IRS encourages taxpayers to use direct deposit to speed their refund.

Taxpayers claiming the credit will still be able to use IRS Free File to prepare their returns, but the returns must be printed out and sent to the IRS, along with all required documentation.

Related Items:

  • Notice 2010-66
  • Revenue Procedure 2010-31
  • Revenue Procedure 2010-35

Disclaimer: Please consult with your tax preparer.

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How to Avoid Adoption Scams

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Adoption scams are rare, but occasionally happen. Usually when prospective adoptive parents are desperate to adopt they fail to do due diligence and the necessary homework.

To minimize the risk of being scammed in an adoption, the following suggestions should be considered:

1. Ask tough questions and question the qualifications and methods of locating a baby with the professionals you may work with.

2. Never pay large up-front fees.

3. Only work with professionals whose information and qualifications can be verified.

4. Avoid working with individuals with untraceable telephone numbers.

5. Avoid the urge to wire money to someone who needs it immediately.

6. Get specific answers to all of your questions.

7. Avoid individuals who give evasive answers or few details.

8. Beware of anyone who guarantees a baby within a specific amount of time. Most professionals will not made such promises.

9. Avoid anyone who is pressuring you.

10. Use your common sense and always go with your gut feelings.

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Social & Medical History: About Adoption Birth Parents

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When prospective birth parents are met with, social and medical histories are collected. Medical releases are also requested and may be forwarded to the birth mother’s doctor and hospital before or after the delivery to obtain medical records. All history is sent to you so you may share this information with your doctors. Every attempt is made to get an accurate history, but we rely solely on the birth parents for this information. Therefore, history provided cannot be guaranteed. We do not withhold any negative information. You may consult with independent medical, genetic, and social work experts regarding social and medical information.

Some information about birth parent(s) may be verified using other services. Approximate costs are:

  • Drug Screens - $50 – 100
  • Criminal Background Check – $50 – 100

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The Surrogacy Alternative to Adoption

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Many childless couples and single parents choose surrogacy so they can have a baby that is genetically related to one or both of them.

Surrogate means substitute. A surrogacy involves an agreement where a woman agrees to become pregnant and give birth to a child for the intended or contracted party. Typically a surrogate is compensated for the service of carrying a child through delivery.

A donor egg IFV involves the process where the egg from a donor is mixed with the sperm from a biological father in a laboratory. If an embryo is produced, it is cultivated or grown in a lab dish and then transferred to the recipient’s uterus.

Typically an egg donor is chosen by looking at a donor with similar traits, such as hair and eye color, height, talents, intellect, and/or athletic ability. A typical surrogate is 21 to 35 years of age. Some may be married and may have had previous normal deliveries and healthy babies.

The surrogacy process involves a screening of the surrogate for infectious diseases and genetic conditions. Surrogates should also be tested for addictions and/or substance abuse. A complete social and medical history is obtained. A normal obstetric history is preferred. A thorough physical examination is also done to maximize the chances of success.

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Adoption Tax Credit Gets Better

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In 2010 the Adoption Tax Credit now becomes a refundable credit. This is fantastic news for adoptive families.

This means families can now claim the credit in one lump sum on 2010 taxes even if their total tax liability is less than the adoption tax credit.

It gets even better. The change also applies retroactively to families who finalized their adoptions as far back as 2005 and who still have the adoption tax credit to carry forward.

The maximum adoption tax credit per child increases to $13,170 in 2010. Under the expanded benefits, the refundable tax credit allows families who owe no taxes to receive the funds from the government.

Disclaimer: Please consult with your tax preparer.

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Post Adoption Release of Information

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Procedures and information available differ for pre January 1, 1964, adoptions; January 1, 1964, to September 18, 1996; and September 18, 1996, and thereafter adoptions.

R.C. 3107.38 provides that for adoptions prior to January 1, 1964, the adopted person may submit a request to the ODJFS for a non-identifying copy of the adoption file or file a petition with the Probate Court pursuant to R.C. 3107.41.

R.C. 3107.41 provides that for adoptions between January 1, 1964, and September 18, 1996, an adopted person twenty-one years or older may file a petition with the Probate Court for the release of certain information.

R.C. 3107.45 to R.C. 3107.53, and R.C. 3107.66 liberalize access to post September 18, 1996, adoption records. An adopted person age twenty-one years or more, an adoptive parent of an adopted person eighteen to twenty-one years, a birth parent or sibling age twenty-one years or older, may obtain from the ODJFS information authorized by other parties.

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Open Adoption

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An attorney or agency arranging an adoption has a duty to advise the parties of the right to enter into a non binding open adoption.  Open adoption allows the exchange of information, including identifying information.  The Probate Court may not refuse to approve an adoption because of an open adoption agreement.  An open adoption is not legally enforceable.  An open adoption agreement cannot:

  • Share parental control
  • Deny access to social or medical history
  • Deny adoptive parent or child a copy of child’s adoption file
  • Deny parties non-identifying information
  • Provide that open adoption is binding or enforceable

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Post Adoption Contact With Birth Parents

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The birth parents are given no identifying information about the adopting parents unless you have arranged an open adoption. Birth parents may inquire through our office about the child’s well-being or request a photo. While life may go on for the birth parents, the pain does not end. The exchange of status letters and photographs between the birth parents and the adoptive parents can be arranged through the office. For many prospective birth parents, the knowledge that they may have this type of exchange will not only ease their minds, but it may help them to make the decision to follow through with an adoption plan.

I know you will be preoccupied with the child. However, please take time to remember the birth parents. Many times I am asked by the birth mother, “how are they, how is the baby, are they happy, are they excited?” but my words are not good enough. Please send the birth parents a nice note and picture of the child if the birth parents request for this wonderful gift of life. This small token of appreciation is priceless. It assures the birth parents that the emotional toll taken to go through with the adoption was worth the pain and that they chose the right adoptive parents.

It is wise to mark your calendar and provide a status letter and photographs at one, three, six, nine and twelve months. There is no legal obligation to do so but one should always keep a moral commitment.

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GETTING A SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER AND EXEMPTION FOR ADOPTED CHILD

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After finalization of your adoption you will need a Social Security Number to take a personal exemption for your child. Because adoptive parents often do not have necessary records (Adoption Certificate or new Birth Certificate) this can be a problem. Some adoptive parents have successfully obtained a Social Security Number by walking into their local Social Security Office using the Adoption Placement Certificate or Final Decree of Adoption.

Another option is to obtain a temporary Social Security Number also known as an adoption tax payer identification number (ATIN) for a child without these documents for parents who are awaiting a Final Order of Adoption. They can claim the child as a dependent and take the child care credit if available. To obtain a ATIN, contact the IRS for Form W-7A. For more information, consult with your tax preparer.

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Insurance Coverage for Adoptions

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A large portion of adoption expenses for a newborn are for medical costs. Most of the time there are insurance and/or other sources available, such as:

  • Birth mother’s insurance through employer
  • Birth mother’s parent’s insurance if she is a minor or student
  • Adoptive parent’s insurance
  • Adoptive parent’s employer benefit programs
  • Adoptive parent’s 401K plan
  • Medicaid/Healthy Start coverage if birth mother is low income
  • Child may be eligible for ADC/Healthy Start coverage. If child is ward of an agency and/or special needs, a targeted adoption through an agency may be received.

Although a birth parent may be covered by Medicaid/Healthy Start, there have been cases where the Department of Job & Family Services has denied or refused to pay for coverage or where the hospital/doctor has declined to accept Medicaid payment for medical services in an adoption. The rationale behind these occasional denials is that it is unfair to obligate taxpayers with the responsibility of paying for your adoption medicals.

If your insurance covers the child, determine whether coverage begins at birth or date of placement. Unfortunately, most policies only provide coverage effective as of date of placement which may affect payment of the hospital bill. Insurance coverage for adopted children should cover all pre-existing conditions as of the date of placement. Verification should be obtained in writing.

ERISA

Any group health insurance plan that provides coverage for dependent children should provide the same benefits to adopted children. Coverage should begin at time of placement and not be contingent on finalization of the adoption.

FAMILY LEAVE ACT

The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) requires employers provide time off and continue benefits without risk to losing employment. For information on the FMLA to adoption, ask for a brochure from Resolve at 1310 Broadway, Somerville, MA 02144, Attention: FMLA Guide.

TAX DEDUCTION

Payment for the adoptive child’s medical costs may be deductible. See I.R.C. §152(b)(2), §213 and Kilpatrick v. Commissioner, 68 U.S.T.C. 469 (1977). Consult with your tax preparer.

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THE FOLLOWING ARE TYPICAL EXPENSES THAT COULD BE ASSOCIATED WITH YOUR OHIO ADOPTION

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  • Birth mother’s prenatal care
  • Baby’s hospital expenses
  • Birth mother’s hospital expenses
  • Birth mother’s living expenses
  • Anesthesiologist for birth mother
  • Prescriptions
  • Pediatrician’s exam
  • Prenatal medical records
  • Hospital medical records for birth mother
  • Hospital medical records for baby
  • Counseling for birth parent
  • Foster care for baby
  • Court costs for Home Study
  • Court costs for Petition to Adopt
  • Attorney fees for adopting couple:  Pre-Placement/Home Study Process/Adoption
  • Attorney fees for birth mother
  • Miscellaneous expenses (original birth certificate, parking, mileage, long distance, phone charges, hospital portraits, etc.)
  • TOTAL: $8,000 – $15,000

Effective 4/7/09 House Bill 7 added birth mother’s living expenses to the list of approved payments connected with a child’s permanent surrender, placement, or adoption. The living expenses cannot exceed $3,000.00 and must be incurred during pregnancy and up to 60 days after the child is born. Payments from the petitioner to the birth mother for living expenses must be made through the attorney or agency arranging the adoption.

The total adoption costs depend strongly on insurance coverage. Almost always the birth mother has Medicaid/other insurance coverage and this usually dramatically reduces the estimated medical expenses. Also, the adoptive parents’ insurance usually covers the baby’s charges, further reducing the overall cost of an adoption closer to the average range of $8,000.00 – $15,000.00. In addition, the TAX CREDIT (see below) can reduce your overall adoption cost to virtually nothing!

Obviously, this could vary if the birth mother has no insurance coverage, has a c-section, delivers twins and/or is located out-of-state.

The Federal Adoption Tax Credit IS available to families having an Adjusted Gross Income of less than $182,520.00 annually in 2010. This may reduce the overall expense of an adoption by as much as $12,170.00. A partial credit is available for families with annual earnings up to $222,520.00. An additional $1,500.00 State Adoption Tax Credit may exist. If you earn more, you will not qualify for the credit. Although the credit generally is allowed for the year following the year in which the expenses are paid, a taxpayer who paid qualifying expenses in the current year for an adoption which became final in the current year, may be eligible to claim the credit on the current year return. Any unused portion of the FAT credit the year of the adoption can be carried forward and applied to future taxes for five years. See IRS Publication 968 entitled Tax Benefits for Adoption. The adoptive parents can also take $3,000.00 Child Credit for each child in the year adopted. Consult with your tax preparer.

The adoption tax credit has recently been expanded and increased. The new law increases the adoption tax credit and adoption assistance exclusion by $1,000.00, makes the credit refundable, and extends the credit through 2011. The increase is retroactive, meaning that any adoption occurring after January 1, 2010 is eligible for this higher credit. The credit is now refundable. This means that even families that owe zero taxes can receive the full tax credit in the form of a tax refund to help with their adoption-related expenses.

In the case Adoption of Infant Girl Banda, 53 Ohio App. 3d. 104 (Franklin Cty 1988), the Court stated. . . that the adoptive parents’ payment of fees should not be contingent upon the outcome of the adoption.

According to Ohio Revised Code §3107.055 all costs associated with adoption must be disclosed to the Court. According to DR 7-102(B)(2), an attorney is required to disclose fraud to a tribunal and may refuse to aid or participate in conduct believed to be unlawful despite obligations to represent the client zealously. In other words, passive participation by silence is not allowed.

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HOW TO PREPARE AN EFFECTIVE PROFILE/LIFE-BOOK

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Nothing will ever be harder to do in your endeavor to adopt than to create a compassionate and effective Profile/Life-Book. You are not creating this to make you feel good about you. You are creating this to make the birth parents feel good about choosing you. Remember, a birth mother who places her child for adoption is making the ultimate sacrifice for her child, one that few of us would have the courage to make. A birth mother makes an adoption plan because she loves her baby, not because she is a bad person or an unfit parent. This act is the most unselfish, loving, caring and giving decision anyone could ever make.

The documents we provide at our first meeting may be included in your Profile/Life-Book. They should be typed and may have identifying/non-identifying information. You should also answer the Questionnaire and may write a Dear Birth Parent Letter. Give specific examples about each other and talk about each other. Preparing a Profile/Life-Book will provide prospective birth parent(s) with much more background information. The answers should be warm and address the points discussed in your material. When you are finished, read the Profile out loud to each other. You should also attach/incorporate photographs. Your Profile/Life-Book looks best when it reads, looks and feels like a magazine.

The Profile/Life-Book should project:

  • Family
  • Stability
  • Financial security
  • Sense of humor
  • Strong marriage
  • Love to share
  • Experience with children
  • Why you want children
  • Respect for the birth parents
  • How much you appreciate the birth parents
  • Your goal is not to necessarily make you look good but to make the birth parents feel good about themselves for choosing you!

PROFILE/LIFE-BOOK UPDATES OR CHANGES

Keep in mind your Profile/Life-Book will be given to prospective birth parent(s). We ask you to be open and completely honest. If things change in your life, i.e. you get pregnant/have a baby, you must update your Profile/Life-Book. We cannot present an inaccurate Profile/Life-Book to birth parents. If your life changes (and it will), you must update your Profile/Life-Book so it is honest and accurate.

WILL BIRTH PARENTS CHOOSE YOU?

I have never had anyone not adopt who stuck with it. Every family will appeal to some birth parent. If you stick with it, you will become parents. Waiting for a birth parent to choose you may take longer if:

  • You practice an unusual religion
  • You have a limited adoption budget
  • You have a non-traditional lifestyle
  • You will only adopt a boy/girl

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Couple’s Adoption Wish Comes True On Facebook

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Written by Molly Thorsen Connolly

Molly Connolly is a new parent after adopting a son with her husband, John, earlier this year. After years of trying to have a child, she and John found a birth mother through Facebook after discussing their struggle on the service. This is their story.

On Dec. 30 at 11 p.m., my husband and I were sitting in our basement watching TV. We were both feeling worn out and dejected and were trying to numb our anxiety. I had just recovered from the flu and was feeling guilty about not going home to spend time with my father, who was in the hospital following a serious brain injury and possibly would not live to see the New Year.

The decision to stay in Chicago, as opposed to traveling to Minnesota, was not just based on the fact that I was so sick that I could barely get out of bed. My husband and I were also in the process of adopting a baby boy who was due on Jan. 17. Just three months earlier, we had connected with our birth mother, Valerie, through a group we created on Facebook.

Over Christmas we spoke to Valerie, who had also been in the hospital and doctors were speculating that she might have Crohn’s disease. In addition to this diagnosis, which was causing her extreme discomfort and dehydration, the doctors were monitoring her for possible cervical cancer.

Since our communication with Valerie was sporadic at best, we had no idea how she was doing. She lived in Florida and we had only met her once. Recently, when she did contact us, sounding weak and in pain, she wouldn’t tell us how she was doing, but instead told us that the baby was OK. “Don’t worry about the baby, Molly,” she would say. “He’s fine. They keep checking him and there is nothing wrong with him.”

The only thing that might happen with the baby is the doctors might have to deliver him early. We felt horrible that we couldn’t do anything for Valerie and her pain all the way in Chicago, and we also knew that we might be called at any time to go to Florida.

While John was flipping channels, trying to find something else for us to watch, I struggled to give us both a pep talk.

“She said that at worst, the doctor will induce labor on Jan 25, and she then has a three-day waiting period before she can sign the papers. So, really within 28 days, we will know. We can wait 28 days, right? It’s been years. We can do 28 days,” I said.

I remember John staring at me. Usually at this point he would jump in and we would try to psych ourselves up. “Sure! 28 days! That’s nothing!” he would say.

But this time, he looked pensive. He looked sad. He took an audible deep breath. He looked directly at me, his blue eyes looked dark, his mouth turned down in a frown.

“Do we need to start talking about what we do if this falls through?” he asked.

I closed my eyes. I didn’t want to think about it. At this point, I thought my answer would be no. I didn’t think I could go through it again. The years of “trying”, the medical procedures, the miscarriage and the failed adoption a year before–it was too much.

I opened my eyes and was about to speak when the phone rang. We both jumped. John picked up the phone and checked the caller ID.

“It’s Michael!” he said. His eyes were wide with surprise. (Michael is Valerie’s stepfather who had been in touch with us throughout the adoption effort.)

“Pick it up!” I said. I gestured to the phone anxiously.

“Hello?” John answered. He put the phone on speaker.

“Are you ready to be a daddy?” Michael asked. His voice was filled with excitement and he continued, “Valerie is on her way to the hospital right now. I hope your bags are packed!”

After John hung up the phone, I wish I could have captured the look on both of our faces with words. I have never felt a jolt of relief, disbelief and utter wonder all at once. We both started laughing.

“Really? Is this really it?” I finally said.

In the next few minutes we had a flurry of additional phone calls from Michael and a call from Valerie’s mother, Dawn, who we later learned was driving 90 miles per hour in order to get to the hospital. We could hear Valerie in the background moaning in pain and then Dawn held the phone up so we could hear Valerie.

“I’m sorry!” she wailed. “I wanted you to be here but I’m not gonna make it! I’m so sorry!” She screamed between waves of pain.

“Honey! Just get the hospital and don’t you think twice about us. We are on our way and we’ll get there as soon as we can!”

As soon as we hung up, the whole situation became a comedy routine. We both jumped up and kept bumping into each other.

“You check flights!”

“I’ll pack!”

“Call Patrick about the dogs!”

“We need that car seat from Ann!”

“What are we going to do about our car?”

John called and woke up his 20-year-old nephew who hopped in his car without a second thought to come take care of the house and dogs. I ran around upstairs packing for us, my mind completely blank on what to pack for a three-week trip to Florida in January.

When I arrived in Florida, I opened my suitcase to find not one, but two bathing suits, two wool sweaters, two T-shirts (again for 21 days), 13 pairs of black socks and little else.

John booked two one-way tickets for us to Orlando at a reasonable price.

“Honey this is great,” I said as I looked at the one-way, direct flights. “Except it is for NEXT WEEK!” We scrambled to rebook.

Since the baby would only be 3 weeks old when we left Orlando, we were advised that even if an airline would let him fly, it was not safe to fly with him especially because it was the height of flu season.

We sent a text message to our neighbor who came by at midnight with a car seat for us. We called John’s sister and asked her if she and her husband would drive our car to Orlando if we flew them home. They said yes without the slightest hesitation.

And then at 1 a.m., the phone rang again, and it was Michael. “Check your email mom and dad. I just sent you a picture of your baby boy!”

Epilogue

The most amazing thing for John and me was the flurry of excitement and joy in the days that followed. The core of our story however, is that our birth mother, the woman who brought our darling son into our lives, found us on Facebook.

In marketing ourselves as adoptive parents, we created a group on Facebook in July of 2009 called, “John and Molly looking to Adopt” and we asked our friends and family to join. Our Facebook group linked to our adoption website, www.johnandmolly.net, as well as to our adoption agency.

Back in October, when Valerie decided she was going to place her child for adoption, she asked her mother to assist her in finding a family. Her mother, Dawn, searched for “looking to adopt” and our Facebook group came up in her web search results.

From there, Dawn was able to see our group and link to our page, and subsequently recommend us to Valerie.

Looking back, it’s clear the availability of our public Facebook group in search engines was a key ingredient to our success. But more than that, Facebook provided a way for Dawn and Valerie to see more about who we were because we were open about some information about ourselves on our profiles

They were able to see that we had over 150 friends who supported our adoption efforts and were rooting for us to be parents. They were able to read on the group page about how difficult it had been for us when an earlier adoption fell through, and see how our friends had posted encouragement and support to keep trying.

And when the wonderful day came, when Valerie placed her baby boy in our arms and entrusted us to raise him, we were able to share the good news and pictures instantly with our dear friends on Facebook.

When we returned home to Chicago there were dozens of cards and presents waiting for us. The most amazing thing to me is this event put me in touch with friends from every phase of our lives who were watching the news unfold on Facebook—elementary school through college, previous work colleagues , clients, neighbors, even complete strangers who were friends of friends.

The community of support we achieved, using Facebook, is not just what helped us to find our birthmother, but also what provided us the emotional support to continue our adoption efforts in the first place.

We are grateful to our friends and family, and the wonderful people at Family Resource Center in Chicago and Heart of Adoptions in Florida . We are thankful that we live in an age where communication helped make our miracle come true.

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The Homestudy or Preplacement Process

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Before a child can be placed in a home the prospective adoptive parent(s) must be investigated and pre-approved through a home study. In private adoption, this is usually done by the Probate Court in the county of residence of either the adoptive parents or the birth parent or by a licensed agency if this is an agency adoption. Some Probate Courts accept an agency home study.

A Preplacement Application will be completed with references that are unrelated and able to comment about your ability to be an adoptive parent. After the Preplacement document is completed, it is usually signed in the presence of a Notary.

Also letters of recommendation, preferably from individuals not listed on the Preplacement Application, should address:

  • How long the references have known you
  • Why you would make a good parent
  • How you relate to children

The Probate Court/Agency requires you and any other adult household member have a physical exam within the last year. Please obtain a letter from your physician regarding your health or have the provided medical form completed.

Ohio law requires a criminal background check for every adult household member. All requests for Ohio civilian background checks be submitted electronically through use of WebCheck or other approved methods. There is a $22.00 charge per person for the search. The results take approximately thirty (30) days. There are more than 400 WebCheck locations now available to persons seeking background checks. These locations are listed by county on the Attorney General’s website at:

http://www.ohioattorneygeneral.gov/Services/Business/WebCheck/Webcheck-Community-Listing

You may go to the location nearest you to have your fingerprints scanned. Please then have them forward the results to our office as soon as possible.

Ohio Revised Code §2151.86 requires that anyone who has not lived within the State of Ohio for a consecutive five-year period must also have a nationwide background search through the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI). Electronic FBI submissions can be processed more quickly. The locations mentioned in the website above will indicate whether they can perform an FBI webcheck at that location. There is a $24.00 charge per person for the FBI search.

Convictions for felonies, drug offenses, or sex related charges could preclude a parent from adopting, even if these convictions have been expunged. See Ohio Revised Code §2151.86. If you have been charged, convicted or expunged of any crime, you must disclose this information to our office.

After we receive all of the above documents, they are filed with the Probate Court. Shortly thereafter the Court case worker will call to arrange a home study investigation by a convenient personal visit to review your Preplacement Application, physical and mental health, emotional stability, employment history, and financial matters to determine if a proposed placement would be in a child’s best interest. This may be required even though you may have had a home study on file in another county Probate Court or done by an agency.

If all is well, the Court will approve you as prospective adoptive parent(s) usually within 15 or 30 days. Some Probate Courts will accept another Probate Court’s home study or an agency home study. The Home Study is valid for up to two years. However if you do not adopt within the first fourteen (14) months, it may need to be updated when you do go to adopt your child, with an additional filing fee at that time.

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Adoption: Woman nurses baby before adoption

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Joliet birth mother wants best for her newborn daughter

By DENISE M. BARAN-UNLAND For Sun-Times Media

It never occurred to Barb, 22 of Joliet, not to breast-feed her daughter, even though another family was adopting the baby.

After participating in the Will County Health Department’s WIC (Women, Infants and Children) program, Barb, who wishes to remain anonymous, attended the program’s breast-feeding classes and learned of the health benefits of breast-feeding for baby and mother.

So after Barb gave birth on April 30, she nursed her baby for three days then put her in the arms of the adoptive mother.

Barb continues to pump and dump her milk. She hopes she can find a nearby milk bank that will want her milk.

“There are plenty of babies who need breast milk, but their mothers either can’t or won’t nurse,” Barb said.

Decision questioned

Plenty of well-meaning people criticized her decision to briefly nurse a baby she would not raise.

“They thought breast-feeding would create an emotional bond that would make it harder to give her up,” Barb said. “But I’d been carrying her inside me for nine months. I felt her moving around inside me. That bond was already there.”

Barb and her boyfriend were only 21 when they learned she was pregnant. Both were working. Barb was also taking online classes to become a pharmacy technician. Neither one, Barb felt, was mature enough to provide high-quality parenting to an infant.

“A lot of pregnant 16-year-olds keep their babies, but they want to hang out with their friends all the time,” Barb said. “I think you give up that right when you become a mother.”

Adoption debate

Supporting a baby required making tough choices. Barb would have to quit her job; her boyfriend would have to work two jobs; or they both would work and leave the baby’s care to a succession of friends and relatives. None of the options settled with Barb.

Barb also feared the stress of raising a baby, along with reduced sleep and income, would lead to arguments over parenting styles and their loss of independence.

To prove her point, Barb set her alarm clock to every two hours around the clock and discovered she was not emotionally ready for that lifestyle.

“It would not have been right to keep her,” Barb said. “I love my daughter very much and so does my boyfriend, but we couldn’t be happier for her. Sometimes I get an emotional rush and start crying, but I know we made the right choice.”

Choosing right family

Barb knew adoption was not a dismal option. Her mother grew up with adopted parents.

Barb particularly wanted her daughter to experience a childhood similar to her own, so she requested the baby be adopted by a Catholic family. Equally satisfying for Barb is that the family has a 4-year-old girl; Barb and her sister were four years apart.

With an open adoption arrangement, Barb, as birth mother, is still an active member of the baby’s family. She’s just not the parent who rears the baby.

For pregnant women unable to responsibly raise a baby, Barb highly recommends open adoption. “Adoption is no longer good-bye forever,” she said.

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Foreign Adoptions Tricky

Written by Doris O’Brien

How many times have parents in a fit of exasperation told disobedient children “I’d like to send you back!” The only catch is that there’s no place to send them, except up to their room or into a corner.

Apparently, that wasn’t a problem for Torry Hansen of Tennessee. Eight months into an exhausting struggle with her adopted 7-year-old Russian son, whom she named Jared, Ms. Hansen had had quite enough. For $200 she arranged with airline personnel to see that the recalcitrant kid was flown back to Moscow and met there by someone of authority. (TV footage of Jared in Russia showed him about as fazed by all of this as Macaulay Culkin in “Home Alone!”)

A friend of mine, concerned that her young teen-aged grandson was planning to travel to Chicago alone, asked me what I thought of the little boy sent back unaccompanied to his native Russia. I said there must have been another way to handle the situation. She agreed.

But not everyone does. Another local teacher/grandmother believes there are times when a strange child gets so obstreperous as to be a danger, and that those who handled the adoption surely noticed such tendencies without alerting Ms. Hansen.

No child is guaranteed, whether adopted or birthed. And every parent-child relationship is unique. What distinguishes this one from others, however, is that it caused an avalanche of Soviet anger against America. The incident may now be old news, but it still festers, and will likely bring about changes in the Russian government’s policy for future international adoptions — if any are even permitted.

The trouble is, however, that Russia has an estimated 740,000 orphans, and the natives aren’t taking in enough of them. Americans adopted over 1,500 Russian children in 2009, the largest number after China and Ethiopia. Presumably, most of these adoptions turned out well. But whenever a problem develops, others seem to come to light, like the never-ending procession of Tiger Woods’ romantic partners.

It’s been revealed, for example, that 14 Russian kids adopted by American families have died of abuse since 1996. The fact that many American children suffered the same fate, and that even a larger percentage of orphans were abused by Russian families does not mitigate the tragedy. To some degree, we expect a higher standard of behavior from those who consciously make the effort to bring a child from elsewhere into their lives.

Finding suitable homes for orphaned kids is hard enough. But an added complication is that many Russian orphans suffer from fetal alcohol syndrome. In a past column I wrote about the excessive consumption of vodka in Russia, a dangerous habit that is spreading among our own young people. Babies born with this disease unwittingly suffer the sins of their parents, making them harder to place in adoptive homes. Often the child’s symptoms may not even be revealed for fear of rejection.

That’s basically the argument of Torry Hansen, who blames the WACAP adoption agency for not leveling with her. The agency, in turn, insists that its clients are fully informed about those they adopt, and that Ms. Hansen could have sought help from a stateside representative, rather than take the drastic measure she did. Admittedly, there is little follow-up on adoptions once a child ships out of Russia.

Adoption has always been regarded as a noble act. At its best it brings love, a sense of belonging, and greater opportunity to unclaimed children. Incidents such as the return of Jared — and the attempt of unauthorized church members to spirit children out of earthquake-ravaged Haiti — have unfairly given a bad name to adoption by Americans.

As a result of Torry Hansen’s actions, Russian agencies are keeping some 3,000 American families in limbo about the status of adoptions already in progress. Perhaps if the laws of our own land involved less red tape for adopting U.S. children, there might be fewer reasons for our citizens to face the Red Menace abroad.

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Adoption: Ohio House Bill 411

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Ohio House Bill 411 would amend Ohio adoption law to allow an adult to be adopted if the adult is the child of the spouse of the adoption petitioner and the adult consents to the adoption.

Currently, Ohio adoption law says that an adult can be adopted if the adult is disabled, mentally retarded, had a foster child care giver or child step-parent relationship with the adopters as a minor, of if he or she were in the permanent custody of a children services agency at the time he or she turned 18 and consents to the adoption.

In some situations after a couple marries they may want to combine their families. Under current Ohio adoption law, the other spouse’s adult child cannot be adopted if they were 18 at the time of the marriage. If, for example, a husband and wife get married and one spouse wants to adopt the children of the other and the other spouse might have some children that are minors and some that are adults, only the minor children could be adopted and not the adult children. Or, if a spouse remarries and changes her name, she may wish to have her minor children adopted and their names and birth certificates would be changed. However, if there was an adult child in this scenario, the adult child would be excluded and left out.

This pending legislation would cure this defect in Ohio’s adoption laws.

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Navigating the Foreign Adoption Process

Daytime Columbus Interview regarding navigating the foreign adoption process

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More Teens Choosing to Forgo Adoption

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Posted: Jan 08, 2009 on NewsChannel10.com

Texas boasts one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the nation, and more of those teen moms are opting to keep their baby.

Nationwide, including the Texas Panhandle, adoption rates are at their lowest ever, with fewer than two percent of pregnant girls choosing to go that route. Catholic Family Services says they think part of the reason teens are choosing to keep their child is because there is not the teen pregnancy stigma there once was. Perhaps another reason… Teen pregnancy is often glamorized in the media, with more and more young, unwed movie stars having children.

Adoption Supervisor Holly Campidilli says, “these babies still cry, they still get sick, they still need formula, they still need diapers, and a lot of teens and single parents aren’t in the situations that these stars are in with a lot of resources, so definitely I think they’re seeing the positive.” The latest teen birth rate numbers we have are from 2006, but in that year, there were 63 births for every 1000 women, between the ages of 15 and 19.

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New Adoption Law Will Help Foster Parents and Pregnant Moms

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By Mandie Trimble, WOSU (2009-01-28)

A new state law aims to make adoption easier in the state of Ohio. The legislation makes it easier for foster parents to adopt and could lessen burdens on mothers who choose to give up their babies for adoption.

Ronda Hobbs and her husband, Robert, had their first child 15 years ago. But the couple felt their family was incomplete, and they started trying to have another baby. But Hobbs could not get pregnant again. So the couple decided to become foster parents in hopes of being able to adopt one of them. Six years and ten foster babies later, Hobbs said it happened. They were able to adopt a little boy named Samuel.

“It’s been a roller coaster,” she said.

Up until now state law has not made the process any easier. Under the old law, foster parents had to wait a year before they could apply to adopt a foster child. The new bill, signed by Governor Ted Strickland earlier this month, cuts that waiting period in half.

Hobbs said the new bill would have been particularly helpful with their second adoption in 2007.

“Our Joseph, his parents just abandoned him. They never came back, never called to even see anything about him. And he should have been able to be adopted at six months,” she said.

Columbus adoption attorney Tommy Taneff worked on House Bill 7. The waiting period for foster parents exists to give birth parents and other family members a chance to regain custody of the child. When asked if six months was too soon for a foster family to adopt, Taneff said, no.

“If it was up to most people they’d want the adoption done within a month. They can always ask for more time, and the probate court always has discretion to give more time especially if it’s in the best interest of the child. So, I’d rather see the law shrink the amount of time that a child has to wait for permanency, for finality, for a permanent family,” Taneff said.

The state also could save some money. As a foster parent to an infant, Hobbs said she received up to $12,000 a year. In theory, the state will save money by allowing foster parents to adopt sooner. But Hobbs underscored it’s not about the money, it’s about the children.

“The children deserve to start their life as soon as possible. The children are in limbo. A few of the children that we had, they were older, and we would drive them down to visit their parents and they just never would show up. It’s devastating to a child when their birth parents do not show up and just walk away from them. And to do that for longer than six months? It’s sad,” Hobbs said.

The Bill also helps pregnant women who choose adoption for their babies. Old law prohibits birth mothers from receiving any money other than reimbursements for medical and legal expenses. The new bill allows for adopting parents or agencies to pay up to to $3,000 for living expenses during pregnancy and up to six months after birth.

Taneff said because of the old law up to half of local pregnant moms choose out-of-state couples for their child because those states allow for living expense payments.

“We have Ohio couples that want to adopt. And why shouldn’t they be allowed to adopt babies from Ohio birth mothers. It makes sense whenever we can keep Ohio birth moms’ babies in Ohio for Ohio couples. It just helps everybody all around,” he said.

A 22-year-old woman living in Marion was in that very situation five years ago. She asked to be identified only as Kelley for privacy. She was a junior in high school when she got pregnant and chose to put her child up for adoption. But because of the cost of the pregnancy, Kelly said she chose a couple in Texas to adopt her daughter. Texas law lets pregnant birth moms receive payment for living expenses. She said if that had been the case in Ohio her daughter could be living in-state right now.

“I would have greatly reconsidered placing my child in Ohio if I would have gotten help. It would have paid for gas in my car to get to the doctor’s appointments or to school. It would’ve helped for maternity clothes because those aren’t cheap and you only wear them for a couple of months,” Kelley said.

And for birth mothers who choose an open adoption the bill may make it easier to keep the child in Ohio and easier to stay in touch…something Kelley wishes she could do.

“Placing her in Texas it’s kind of difficult because I don’t really get to see her. I mean I talk to her parents a lot and they e-mail me, and they send me pictures of her and stuff which is really nice. But it would’ve been nice for her to be in Ohio I think looking back now, but…”

The bill goes into effect in April.

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Adoption agencies break rules, escape punishment

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AJC investigation: Weak oversight on private adoption agencies

By Alan Judd, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

She was 24, a fair-skinned, curly haired brunette from California’s San Joaquin Valley. She quit school after the 11th grade but wanted to go back to become a teacher or maybe a corrections officer. She said she liked “shopping, swimming, going out.” Her favorite food: Mexican. Her favorite places: the mountains and the beach. She smoked while she was pregnant.

For Krista and Luis Arduz, she represented their best hope for a baby.

Early last year, the Kentucky couple agreed to adopt the California woman’s infant through a Georgia adoption agency. Like many modern private adoptions, this was to be a complex multi-state transaction, conducted mostly through e-mails and cellphones, Web sites and text messages — not to mention wire transfers involving thousands of dollars.

And the way it unraveled sheds light on the state’s weak oversight of the 336 private agencies that arrange adoptions and foster care and operate group homes in Georgia, an investigation by The Atlanta Journal-Constitution shows.

Just three times since 2008, the Journal-Constitution found, has the state imposed penalties against agencies that exclusively handle adoptions: two fines and one license revocation.

The newspaper’s review of more than 1,500 reports of inspections and investigations found that regulators repeatedly forgave violations of rules fundamental to safe adoptions: failing to check parents’ criminal records, for instance, or not documenting safe environments in adoptive homes.

Several agencies received citations for failing to show that payments to birth mothers covered only legitimate medical or living expenses. At least one agency — Valley of Hope Adoption Inc. of Woodstock, with which the Arduzes worked — was cited for having money for a birth mother’s expenses deposited into its executive director’s personal bank account.

None of those violations resulted in penalties.

State law allows fines as high as $25,000. But officials say they prefer to persuade agencies to comply with the rules than impose harsh penalties.

“We try to work with as many agencies as possible so there are viable options for Georgia’s children,” said Keith Bostick, director of the Office of Residential Child Care, which regulates adoption and foster care agencies.

“It is a balancing act,” Bostick said. “Often it’s not black, it’s not white — it’s gray.”

Valley of Hope is one of many agencies that existed in the gray area.

The agency eluded punishment for almost two years, even though state officials knew it was violating adoption rules. But the state didn’t share information about the agency with the public until late 2009.

Erin Chaffee, Valley of Hope’s founder and executive director, declined repeated requests for an interview. In an e-mail to a reporter late Friday, she said, “Adoption is a highly personal and confidential business and for those reasons it is not appropriate for me to engage in a discussion with you.” In another e-mail Saturday, she added, “We have helped over 100 clients adopt successfully and only a handful of clients have had failed adoptions.”

The Arduzes knew nothing about Valley of Hope’s regulatory history when they made the first of several payments that were to total more than $31,000. Neither did Brea and Jonathan Freeman, a Nashville-area couple whose own attempt to adopt through Valley of Hope overlapped the Arduzes’.

In late 2008, the Freemans decided to expand their family of three biological children and one adopted child. They considered several adoption agencies before settling on one that had only recently gone into business: Valley of Hope.

“We found them on the Internet,” Brea Freeman said recently. “I could find nothing bad about them, at the time.”

‘Free gift’

Valley of Hope broke the rules even before it completed its first adoption.

Chaffee, a licensed social worker who had worked for another adoption agency, established Valley of Hope in January 2008 as a for-profit business. State law requires adoption agencies to operate as not-for-profit organizations to guard against the appearance of baby selling.

Chaffee accepted the agency’s first adoption application fee from prospective parents in June 2008 — two months before Valley of Hope received a state license allowing it to do so, records show. In her e-mail Saturday, Chaffee said regulators “had trouble understanding” that she was working with those parents through a separate consulting company.

As at other agencies, an adoption handled by Valley of Hope could be expensive — $40,000 or more — and lacking guarantees. Birth mothers may change their minds at any time, leaving adoptive parents with little to show for their financial and emotional investments.

But on Valley of Hope’s Web site, Chaffee reassures both prospective parents and birth mothers. She describes Valley of Hope as a Christian mission offering the “free gift” of “everlasting life.” All children, the Web site states, are “wonderfully made by the Creator.”

Elsewhere Chaffee takes a more secular tone:

“So many couples come to us after spending a lot of money on their adoption without success, or they tell us they have been waiting forever to adopt and nothing has panned out,” Chaffee writes. By working with birth mothers in “states that have favorable adoption laws,” she says, prospective parents could expect a “match” in four to six months — half as long as at many other agencies.

On the Web site, several clients praise Chaffee and her agency.

“We were so happy with the level of personal service and support we were given at Valley of Hope,” a couple identified as Paul and Miriam of New Jersey say. “Erin was always available to talk to us, and seemed almost as excited as we were about the whole process. We could not believe that she found us a match after TWO WEEKS!!”

Another couple, identified as Pamela and Jason from Canada, wrote to Chaffee: “When we contacted you, we had come close to losing the dream of becoming parents. Now the pain is almost forgotten.”

‘My baby’

Krista and Luis Arduz also dreamed of becoming parents once more.

But Krista, a physician’s assistant in a dermatology practice, was in her 40s, and her last pregnancy and delivery had been difficult. She feared she would not be able to conceive again. Adoption, she said recently, seemed the best alternative.

In early 2009, the Arduzes hired an adoption facilitator to help sort through the Internet’s hundreds of posted “situations” — pregnant women offering their babies for adoption. The couple settled on what seemed to be a good match: a baby due April 17 to a 24-year-old California woman offering her child for adoption through Valley of Hope.

Chaffee faxed the Arduzes a contract, which they signed Feb. 13, 2009, the same day they wired $12,500 to Valley of Hope for the adoption fee. A few hours later, Krista Arduz said, Chaffee wanted another $2,000 sent immediately for the birth mother’s expenses. It was Friday afternoon, too late to send the money from the Arduzes’ credit union. Chaffee wouldn’t wait, Krista said. So the Arduzes wired the money from a Western Union outlet.

The birth mother, by then seven months pregnant and living on food stamps and Medicaid, remained in her small, remote hometown. She was married and had two boys, a 3-year-old and a 10-month-old. Her husband, who was not the father of her sons or the unborn child, did not know she planned to give up the baby, she wrote in a birth-mother questionnaire that Valley of Hope shared with the Arduzes. The biological father, whom she knew only as “Joe,” wasn’t aware of her pregnancy.

The birth-mother form posed a question: “If you could, what would you tell the baby about yourself and your decision?”

She answered: “I love you and I think I did what was best for the future of child.”

The next question: “Why are you placing this child for adoption?”

Her response: “I am not in any way financially stable or in the position to bring a baby into this world to suffer because I can’t provide.”

Still, she wrote that although she would allow the adoptive parents into the delivery room, she wanted to hold the baby first and to spend time alone with the child. She said she would let the adoptive parents name the child, so long as they told her what they planned to call “my baby.”

From the start, Krista Arduz said, everything was complicated and confusing. The Arduzes had so many questions: When should they buy airline tickets to pick up the baby in California? How long should they expect to stay there? What kind of relationship might they have with the mother?

“No guidance,” Arduz said of Valley of Hope’s responses to their inquiries.

“It would be nothing to call them two or three times and never hear back from them,” she said. “We were very frustrated.”

Cautionary tale

In Nashville, Brea and Jonathan Freeman were frustrated, too. When they began working with Valley of Hope in late 2008, they had been impressed. Brea Freeman had imagined Chaffee as someone who could be a close friend if they lived in the same city. And Chaffee had called frequently with possible adoption matches, exuding what Freeman called “a sense of urgency.”

But, she said, Chaffee began asking whether the Freemans might exceed their self-imposed $20,000 cap on adoption expenses. After they said no, Brea Freeman said, they heard from Chaffee less often, a criticism made by others in complaints to state regulators. “If there was a chance you might be willing to spend money,” Freeman said, “she would call you back in 30 seconds.”

Freeman took copious notes of her conversations with Chaffee and saved dozens of e-mails. Her documentation, which she shared with a reporter, depicts an increasingly muddled and contentious adoption.

The Freemans thought they had been “matched” with a birth mother in Atlanta. Valley of Hope later told the couple the match had been only preliminary.

By early April, the Freemans were worried. The birth mother’s due date came and went. Chaffee was supposed to arrange a telephone conference call between the birth mother and the Freemans, but that fell through. Communication from Chaffee became less frequent.

“When you get matched with somebody, it’s like being pregnant and waiting to give birth,” Brea Freeman said. “To pull the rug out from under us, it was devastating.”

On April 5, Chaffee e-mailed the Freemans to say the birth mother was waffling. But she said she hoped to keep the adoption on track by acting “more like a friend” to her, and reminding her that by keeping the baby, she would forfeit the money for her expenses.

“She made comments like, ‘I have to do the plan,’ meaning the adoption plan, and then later said, ‘I really don’t want to give up my baby,’” Chaffee wrote in an e-mail to Freeman. “I explained to her in great detail about the benefits of an open adoption.”

Freeman felt uncomfortable with Chaffee’s strategy. The next day, she and her husband backed out of the adoption.

The woman kept her baby. After Freeman complained about the outcome, a Valley of Hope caseworker sent her an e-mail describing the woman as “not stable,” adding that her erratic nature was why the agency had not asked the couple to pay fees in advance.

By e-mail on Saturday, Chaffee said: “I have never pressured a birth parent to place a child.”

Freeman discussed the episode at length on her blog. She sees it as a cautionary tale.

“I couldn’t imagine,” she said, “looking my child in the eye one day and saying, ‘You know, the agency pressured your mom to give you up.’”

‘Everything was fine’

The Arduzes’ birth mother was due April 17. Krista Arduz booked a flight for April 15, reserved a room in the town’s new Holiday Inn Express, and waited for word about the woman’s latest visit with her doctor.

With five days to go, Luis Arduz e-mailed Chaffee: “I wanted to inquire if you have had contact … after her doctor appointment.”

Chaffee replied from her BlackBerry: “Her mom told me everything was fine at the appt, but no details.”

That weekend, the Arduzes got a call from a California lawyer who was handling legal work on the adoption. He had just heard that the baby had arrived at least a week earlier — and the birth mother had backed out of the adoption.

The child was born, the lawyer told the Arduzes, before Chaffee purportedly spoke with the woman’s mother.

The news enraged the Arduzes. Why, they wondered, had Chaffee not told them about the birth? Did she even know about the baby? If so, why had she misled them about the birth mother’s appointment with the doctor?

Chaffee says that when birth mothers change their minds, “the adoptive parents are notified as soon as the agency has confirmation of the decision.”

Regardless, last April 13, a Monday, Krista Arduz sent Chaffee a seemingly innocuous e-mail: “Wondering if you talked with [the birth mother] to find out about her visit to the hospital this past week. We’re anxiously waiting to know how she’s doing and would appreciate any info you have (even if you haven’t spoken with her).”

Chaffee wrote back: “I spoke with her Tuesday and everything was good. … Her doctor’s office said there was no new information since her last visit.”

On the telephone that evening, Luis Arduz confronted Chaffee about the mother’s decision. Chaffee, the Arduzes say, repeatedly said she didn’t know what she could have done differently.

Luis Arduz was incredulous.

“You,” he asked Chaffee, “are the last one to know?”

No evidence of fraud

Later in the month, Krista Arduz filed a complaint against Valley of Hope with Georgia regulators. Already, they were looking into a similar case that had been reported in March.

It wasn’t until July 7, though, that an inspector visited the adoption agency’s offices in Cherokee County.

Generally corroborating the Arduzes’ allegations, the inspector found numerous rules violations: a failure to document why money was wired to birth mothers, the depositing of mothers’ expense money into Chaffee’s bank account, a variable fee schedule that suggested different prices for different babies.

Other citations alleged that Valley of Hope had not adequately screened adoptive families. For instance, the agency didn’t check whether at least one prospective parent had a criminal record, didn’t document another’s mental health evaluation and could not show it had confirmed the character references for a third.

And, the inspector said, Valley of Hope still was operating illegally as a for-profit adoption agency. (It changed its corporate registration to non-profit in December 2009, records show.)

But the inspector recommended no punishment; she found no evidence of fraud, and concluded the agency had not intentionally broken rules.

Chaffee now denies violating the rules, although she never contested state citations.

By this February, officials determined Valley of Hope had neither corrected deficiencies nor submitted a plan to do so. “All of it added up to something that didn’t look right,” said Bostick, the chief state regulator.

On Feb. 15, the state revoked Valley of Hope’s license.

As far as Bostick is concerned, the agency is out of business. But its Web site is still active. It is advertising three “situations” to prospective parents on adoption sites, although Chaffee says her company is accepting no new clients. Regardless, she continues to operate her separate adoption consulting firm.

A closed chapter

The failed adoptions left the Freemans and the Arduzes in different places.

The Freemans worked with another agency, in Houston, and adopted a child later last year.

The Arduzes hired a lawyer to request a refund from Valley of Hope. Finally, they got back $3,000, half the money they had paid for the birth mother’s expenses. But they still are out $15,500.

With that, the Arduzes gave up on adoption.

“We lost so much money that I’m still paying for,” Krista Arduz said. “We sort of closed that chapter.”

Shortly after the adoption fell through, Arduz’s appendix ruptured. In bed for weeks with plenty of time to think, she wrote a letter to Chaffee — “woman to woman, mother to mother,” she said. She asked for a full refund, or at least an apology.

She never heard back.

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Russian girl survives awful first adoption to find love in a new home

By Jeb Phillips with The Columbus Dispatch 

Irina Palmer, 10, survived her experience with her first adoptive parents, Gary and Amy Thompson, but her adoptive brother, Liam, did not.

These are the facts in the murder of 3-year-old Liam Thompson:

Gary and Amy Thompson of the Far West Side traveled to eastern Russia in April 2003 to adopt a little girl and a little boy. They already had two biological children – one together, another from Amy’s first marriage – and wanted to expand their family.

By summer, the Thompsons were sick of the adopted kids, according to a diary that Amy kept. Even though they weren’t biological siblings, Amy wrote of them as a pair. Liam had a cleft lip and palate that had been badly repaired in Russia. Amy wrote that she felt nothing but indifference toward the girl.

She and her husband had considered getting rid of the adopted children “like dogs in a pound,” she wrote.

On Oct. 11, 2003, Gary put Liam into a 140-degree bath and held him there while he struggled. Amy, a licensed practical nurse, was at work at a nursing home. The Thompsons never took Liam to a doctor or a hospital for his severe burns.

During the next five days, as the boy’s skin peeled off, Gary kept Liam on a mattress in the basement. He died on Oct. 16, his third birthday.

Gary Thompson, now 38, pleaded guilty to murder and was sentenced to 15 years to life in prison. Amy Thompson, now 39, pleaded guilty to involuntary manslaughter and endangering children and was sentenced to 14 years.

The older of Amy’s biological children went to a foster family. The younger went with relatives. But there was a little Russian girl in that household, too, the one adopted with Liam.

The girl’s name never became public in all of the media coverage of the case. Investigators said she wasn’t abused, but the Thompsons had neglected her. She was small and weak. Columbus homicide detective Patrick Dorn, who handled the case, remembered her as “abnormally withdrawn.”

Her name – once Irina Alexandrovna Pavlova, then Irina Thompson – is now Irina Elizabeth Jean Palmer. She’s 10 years old and is so strong that she can push herself up from a headstand to a handstand. She’ll let you feel her biceps, just for extra proof.

Pink is her favorite color. She wants to be a veterinarian or a zookeeper. She once ate five clementine oranges in a single sitting. She likes Taylor Swift.

“And Justin Bieber,” says her sister Cache Palmer, 9.

“And Miley Cyrus,” says her other sister, Jessica Palmer, also 9.

The Palmer girls are not about to let one sister talk without chiming in. While Irina answered questions on Wednesday evening about her favorite sports – lacrosse and gymnastics – Cache left the room for a minute and then reported that the girls have 32 trophies among them. Jessica said one of her trophies is the shiniest.

Don and Nadine Palmer already had adopted Jessica and were foster parents to Cache when Irina arrived at their Powell home in November 2003. Liam had died about three weeks earlier. Irina was about to turn 4.

Don, who is now 57, has two older children from a previous marriage. He thought, once upon a time, that that was plenty. The girls make fun of him for that now.

A caseworker with Franklin County Children Services who knew the Palmers thought they might be a good fit for Irina. Don, a retired manager for UPS, is the quiet, big-lug type. Nadine, 52, who once worked as a paralegal, smiles and laughs and talks every bit as much as her girls.

“They just have this warmth and this love,” said Thomas Taneff, the Columbus lawyer who handled the adoption case.

When they heard Irina’s story, the Palmers wanted to take care of her.

Russian adoptions occasionally end in horror stories like Liam’s, say Taneff and others who deal with them. Russia threatened to suspend adoptions to the United States this month after an adoptive mother from Tennessee put her 7-year-old on a plane, alone, back to Russia. She sent a note with him saying that he had psychological problems and she no longer wanted him.

Barb VanSlyck, a Columbus-based adoption counselor, said some Russian children develop emotional problems living in orphanages, and adoptive parents might not realize that. Health records and information about biological parents can be spotty and don’t prepare adoptive parents for the difficulties they might face, VanSlyck and others said.

In her diary, Amy Thompson wrote of Liam and Irina that “I am mad at them for being so much damn work, (angry) at them for not just fitting in and for having no personality.”

Irina was sweet from the time she joined the Palmer family, but she wasn’t affectionate the way Jessica and Cache were, her mother said. Jessica and Cache have been in the Palmer family since they were babies. For a long time, Irina didn’t quite trust that the Palmers were her “forever family,” her parents said.

She constantly seeks out people, making new friends, looking for more attachments, Nadine said. Before Irina talked about her favorite color and the sports she plays, she talked about her best friend, Haley, and a lot of her other friends. The next day, she got her mom to e-mail the names of friends she had forgotten to mention.

Irina also wants to know about her “tummy mommy” and what she looked like as a baby. The Palmers have no pictures of her before she came to them and not much information about her family in Russia.

But she knows that she is a Palmer now, and a gymnast, and a lover of sleepovers with her friends. Her parents call her “Irina Beana” and “Bean Bag.” Her father has laid down the law for all of the girls – no boyfriends until they’re 19.

“We’ll see how that goes,” he said. He sounded hopeless.

Irina remembers Liam. She remembers the basement he was kept in after he was burned. Nadine used to walk by the girls’ room and overhear Jessica and Cache:

“Tell us about Liam,” they would say.

Irina also remembers Amy and Gary Thompson. She knows what they did.

When their names come up, her parents – who have raised Irina and the two other girls to be cartwheeling, chattering, loving daughters – try to focus on the good.

“We always say that if Amy and Gary hadn’t gone to Russia, we wouldn’t have Irina,” Nadine said.

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BUDGET CUTS TO OHIO’S ADOPTION SERVICE HURT CHILDREN WHO NEED HOMES

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Budget cuts to Ohio’s adoption services will make it more difficult for the 3,000 children who need an adoptive home.

The state budget signed by Gov. Ted Strickland cut $43 million (or 40%) from adoption services, decreasing financial assistance and training available to prospective adoptive parents.

The most damaging cut removed the state Website that displayed photos of foster children and stories about them. The Website is one of the most effective tools. Because we live in a technological society, most prospective parents use the Website to find out about potential children available for adoption or foster care. The State Website has been replaced by a directory of county agencies.

Many adopted children have special needs and go to families of modest incomes. The cuts will decrease adoption as an alternative to foster care, which costs taxpayers significantly more. Cuts in subsidies to parents who adopt are also likely to decrease adoptions.

Thomas Taneff was admitted to the Ohio Bar in 1988 and has been practicing law for 22 years. He is a graduate of The Ohio State University and Capital University Law School. Mr. Taneff was a Judicial Law Clerk and Franklin County Probate Court Magistrate. He practices in the areas of estates, probate, estate planning, guardianships, adoption and surrogacy throughout the State of Ohio, including interstate and international adoptions. He has handled more than 2,000 adoption cases and was awarded the United States Congressional Adoption Award in 2005. He is also the Macedonian Honorary Consul to the United States.

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Adoption: Am I Too Old To Adopt?

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No. You are never too old to adopt. Anyone who is legally competent and at least 18 years of age or older is eligible to adopt. In fact an age limit on adoptive parents has long since been repealed.

The age of prospective adoptive parents has been creeping up as baby boomers put off having children until they either finish school or got into their careers. Also, many prospective adoptive parents didn’t find their present partners until later in life.

One of the advantages of adopting later in life is that older parents can offer emotional and financial stability.

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Adoption: Safe Havens for Abandoned Infants

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In 1999, the Texas legislature enacted the first law addressing infant abandonment. Nicknamed “Baby Moses laws” after the biblical story of Baby Moses whose mother placed him in a wicker basket to save him from death, infant safe haven laws have been enacted in roughly 47 states and Puerto Rico. The purpose of safe haven laws is to encourage parents who abandon their child to leave the infant with persons who can provide the care needed for their safety and well being.

Ohio’s Safe Haven Law

No two state safe haven laws are exactly the same. Safe haven laws vary in the maximum age at which an infant can be surrendered, who may surrender an infant, and to whom the infant can be surrendered. Most states exempt parents who safely surrender their infant from criminal liability by either declining to prosecute a parent for child abandonment or providing that the surrender of a child under these circumstances is an affirmative defense in any prosecution of the parent or his/her agent for any crime such as abandonment or neglect against the child.

In Ohio, an infant who is thirty days old or younger may be voluntarily surrendered by that child’s parent to a peace officer, hospital employee, or an emergency medical service worker. Prior to the enactment of Amended Senate Bill 304 of the 127th General Assembly, Ohio would only permit an infant seventy-two hours or younger to be voluntarily surrendered without the threat of criminal penalties. The intent of the bill, which became effective on March 24, 2009, was to allow a parent more time to safely surrender the infant rather than abandon the infant under unsafe conditions or subject the infant to potential abuse or neglect.

 Unless the infant has been surrendered in a condition that reasonably indicates abuse or neglect, the parent who delivers the child is not guilty of a criminal offense, is not subject to criminal prosecution, and has the right to remain anonymous. Once the child is delivered, a rebuttable presumption is established that it is not in the child’s best interest to return to the child’s natural parents.

The safe haven provider (i.e., peace officer, hospital employee, or emergency medical services worker) to whom the child is delivered is required to perform any act necessary to protect the child’s health or safety and must notify the local public children services agency that a surrendered infant is in their possession. The provider cannot coerce the parent to reveal the identity of both parents or pursue or follow the parent after the child has been delivered. If possible, the provider can make available to the parent forms that are intended to collect medical information, as well as provide written materials that describe services that are available to assist parents and newborns, but cannot force the parent to complete the forms or take the written materials.

The public children services agency takes emergency temporary custody of the infant and must prepare case plans, conduct investigations, conduct periodic administrative reviews of case plans, and provide services for the surrendered child as if the child were adjudicated a neglected child. The infant may then be eligible for placement in foster care and ultimately for adoption.

Criticism of Safe Haven Laws

While safe haven laws appear to be a safe and humane response to the problem of child abandonment, they are not without their critics. Safe haven laws have been seen as a “band-aid approach” to a much larger problem. Many child welfare experts, for instance, cite the lack of a comprehensive strategy for the prevention of infant abandonment and the need to integrate these laws into a much larger effort to improve services for those women most at risk of abandoning their child.

Others question the effect on fathers’ rights. The abeyance of criminal prosecution and the anonymity enjoyed by the abandoning parent or their agent can often conflict with the rights of the other parent. The father may not even know that he is a parent or that the mother is abandoning the child. Critics believe that safe haven laws should provide the unwed father his due process rights to notice and an opportunity to be heard.

Some adoption advocates have their reservations about safe haven laws as well. Safe haven providers cannot compel an abandoning parent to disclose family and medical history information and the lack of this information can affect the child’s adoption prospects later on.

Others believe that these laws encourage abandonment by women who would not do so otherwise because it seems easier or less invasive than receiving counseling, help with parenting skills, or making an adoption plan. Safe haven laws have been said to propagate “baby dumps” by making it convenient for mothers to abandon their infants and shirk their responsibility. It is thought that these laws send a signal that there is no need to assume responsibility for actions taken and that discarding one’s child is acceptable behavior.

The most damning indictment of safe have laws is that they simply don’t work. In spite of the number of states who have enacted safe haven laws, abandoned infants continue to be found on porches, doorsteps and near trash piles.

Throwing the Baby Out With the Bathwater?

The abandonment of children is certainly not a new phenomenon; reports from the mid 1800s indicate the occurrence of over 900 abandonments over a period of ten years in New York State alone. Safe haven laws, then, may be seen as a new(er) approach to an age old problem. They may not be able to completely prevent the unsafe abandonment of children, but can serve as a valuable part of a comprehensive strategy addressing the issue of abandonment. Admittedly, safe haven laws do have their disadvantages, but when the lives of children hang in the balance, their value cannot be disputed.

In spite of its critics, safe haven laws do work. In Ohio alone, the Department of Job and Family Services found that 63 babies have been safely surrendered since enactment of Ohio’s safe haven law in 2001. While Ohio’s safe haven law didn’t prevent the recent abandonment of a newborn by the side of a road, it has resulted in the safe surrender of children who could have been left in a much more vulnerable location or under dangerous conditions. Ohio has been pleased with the success of its safe haven law and has recently extended the time in which a parent may safely abandon an infant to an authorized safe haven provider from 72 hours to 30 days to encourage more parents to pursue this option.

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Gay Adoption: The Latest Across the Country and In Ohio

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On several different fronts the battle for and against gay adoption is once again being fought across the country. From the polls in Arkansas, to a Florida courtroom to the floor of the Tennessee legislature, people on both sides of the issue are fighting it out. Each battlefield however is producing very different results.

On November 4, the country’s primary focus was understandably the historic election of Barack Obama. But in the state of Arkansas the electorate wasn’t only casting votes for its elected officials. Voters there also passed a measure banning unmarried couples living together from serving as adoptive or foster parents. The measure, which was aimed primarily at keeping gays from becoming foster or adoptive parents, surprisingly received nearly 57-percent support.

The measure’s sponsor, the Arkansas Family Council, positioned the measure as a battle against a “gay agenda” and the strategy appeared to have worked. Exit polls taken on Election Day showed the measure was supported by residents identifying themselves as evangelical or born-again Christians. Rural voters by and large also supported the measure.

Those who opposed the ban included Arkansas Governor Mike Beebe. Opponents like Beebe pointed to a current lack in foster homes as reason enough to vote against the measure. With its passage they now fear children in need of homes will be the ones who suffer the fall out. According to state officials, 1000 children in Arkansas are presently waiting to be adopted. The ban will in effect reduce the number of homes available. Children in need of parents and guardians will now likely have to wait even longer.

With those concerns in mind, opponents of the new Arkansas law filed a lawsuit at the end of December, asking a judge to strike the measure down. The lawsuit contends the new law violates federal and state constitutional rights to equal treatment and due process. The suit also argues the measure disregards the best interests of children while keeping children in state custody at additional and unnecessary costs to taxpayers.

Very similar arguments are what compelled a Florida judge to overturn her state’s long standing gay adoption ban. Ironically, the Florida ruling was handed down just three weeks after the Arkansas vote. A Miami-Dade Circuit Court judge found a Florida law that has banned adoptions by gay men and lesbians for over three decades unconstitutional. The judge said prohibiting homosexual adoption was not in the best interest of children and that the law violated equal protection rights for both children and prospective parents. Advocates for gay adoption say the Florida ruling also makes very clear that the evidence points to the fact that children raised by gay parents fare just as well as those raised by straight parents.

And now, the Tennessee legislature is weighing in on the issue. On January 30, a bill was introduced that would prohibit Tennessee couples-both gay and straight- who aren’t married from adopting. Unless a couple is actually married, they would be prohibited from adopting. The bill does not affect singles who adopt.

In fact across the country gay individuals have a far easier time adopting than couples. However in more than 20 states, it’s ambiguous as to whether the second person in a couple can also adopt their partner’s adopted or biological child if the person is gay. States like Utah, Michigan, Mississippi, and New Hampshire all have laws that do ban joint adoption.

It has been two years since the Ohio legislature took up the gay adoption issue. A bill introduced then would have fallen in line with the measures Florida recently overturned. Its intent was to bar all adoptions and foster care by gays and lesbians. The bill didn’t go far though, never even making it to the hearing stage. Presently Ohio permits single adoptions by gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender individuals. Ohio law does not clearly prohibit joint gay adoption either. However, second-parent adoption, where one parent already has legal rights of the child and a second parent is petitioning for joint rights, is not allowed.

Ironically adoption advocates on both sides of this issue often cite the same concern when arguing their position on the subject of gay adoption: The quality of a child’s life. Advocates of gay adoptions claim that thousands of children need loving homes and to forbid gay adoption is to reduce the overall number of homes available. However, groups against gay adoptions contend that gay adoption is an affront to conventional family values and that it’s in every child’s best interest to have both a mother and a father. Some of those same anti-gay adoption groups insist children raised in homosexual homes, especially females, act out sexually and that self-identity issues are prevalent. But The American Academy of Pediatrics and other gay adoption advocates point to the fact that there is no credible evidence that shows having gay parents harms children. Proponents also argue that for the children who never get placed in an adoptive home the future is often bleak and many of these children who leave the foster care system without ever finding a permanent family end up on the streets, or in jail, without a job or family to support them.

In the meantime, statistics provided by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services indicate there are approximately 129,000 foster care kids across the country. It is these children who hang in the balance, all in need of a stable home. For each of them, these continuing battles may very well make the difference as to when they finally find it.

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Decline in Foreign Adoptions

Though the number of American foreign adoptions has tripled since the early 1990s and peaked in 2004, these adoptions have dropped in the past three years, declining 15% in the last two years alone. This decline is partially due to stricter adoption policies in China and Russia, previously the top two counties for American foreign adoptions.

China, the top country for foreign adoptions since 2000, has increased waiting time for adoptions to 24 months or more. In addition, the country has experienced an increase in domestic adoptions, allowing them to restrict foreign adoptions to financially stable, healthy married couples between 30 and 50 and exclude single, obese, or unhealthy prospective adoptive parents.

Russian officials prohibited all foreign adoptions for several months this year by suspending adoption agencies and are slowly beginning to recertify them. Russia, like China, is also attempting to increase domestic adoptions within the country.

Foreign adoptions from Haiti and South Korea have also experienced drops, while adoptions from Guatemala, Vietnam, and Ethiopia have increased. However, experts expect numbers in Guatemala to decrease as the government plans to introduce new adoption regulations in response to fraud and extortion claims as part of the Hague Convention on international adoptions. While the new regulations are being put in place, Americans are urged not to initiate Guatemalan adoptions.

Some experts find this decrease in U.S. foreign adoptions from previously popular countries to represent positive changes, such as increased interest in inter-country adoptions and an investigation and awareness of new countries. Others, however, view it negatively, suggesting that the changes in China and Russia reflect a trend encouraged by international children’s organizations, such as UNICEF, to care for children within their own country, even when such services are less than adequate.

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Surrogacy: Some Words of Caution

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Written by Connie Shapiro, PhD

Surrogacy has been in the news for a number of years. I well remember how early media coverage focused on heart-wrenching problems, such as a surrogate mother who chose to retain custody of the baby rather than to honor the agreement she had with prospective parents. Gradually I have seen the media focus becoming more positive, with recent stories of Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick welcoming their second child who was born to a gestational surrogate. Given the desperation felt by many infertile couples, I believe surrogacy has become highly appealing to couples who can afford it. And with the demand increasing, a number of fertility physicians have been responsive to couples’ efforts to pursue this option. However, the legal issues involved in surrogacy have not been clarified to keep pace with the increasing demand by hopeful couples for medical assistance in helping a surrogate conceive. I believe this “legal lag” needs to get just as much media attention as the medical successes in helping infertile people become parents. The following article is an excellent step in that direction, encouraging prospective parents to do careful homework on how they can protect themselves from the legal pitfalls that they could encounter.

A front page December 13 article in the New York Times highlighted the issues potential parents face when turning to surrogacy as a means to bring a child into their lives. The article emphasized what so many infertile people know from experience, namely that there is no legal consistency in how different states handle surrogacy. To illustrate the inconsistency, the article states some real-life examples. On one end of the spectrum, there is California, where courts have upheld the validity of surrogacy contracts. On the other end is Michigan, which holds that surrogacy is contrary to public policy and that surrogacy agreements are unenforceable. In between are about 10 states that allow for surrogacy but preserve restrictions, with the majority of states being “silent” on surrogacy, effectively creating legal uncertainty about how intended parents can proceed when their initial plans with a surrogate are challenged. The article did go on to say that fewer problems occur in those circumstances when prospective parents have a genetic link to the offspring, but also pointed out that potential trouble spots can occur in several situations including: when surrogacy arrangements are handled by for-profit agencies, when a woman has not given birth to her own child before becoming a surrogate, when the prospective parents have not been psychologically screened and when there has been no preapproval by a court in a process that would include a home study. For the approximately 750 babies born each year in the U.S. through gestational surrogacy, the legal limbo has potential ramifications for all the players in the effort to provide a healthy and loving home for these babies.

So, what lessons can we learn from this, given that legal protections will be slow to develop and, even when they do, different states will offer different enforcements? First, it is clearly important to choose a nonprofit agency that utilizes protective guidelines. Second, prospective parents should familiarize themselves with existing guidelines developed by organizations such as the American Bar Association, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology. Third, it is important to recognize, as the New York Times article emphasizes, that surrogacy is controlled mostly by fertility physicians who stand to profit financially from the procedures they carry out. Also, many of the 100 agencies in the U.S. that coordinate surrogacy arrangements do not adhere to guidelines that would protect prospective parents in case of a dispute. Given that a successful surrogacy can cost between $80,000 and $120,000, prospective parents are in a position to lose not only that money, but also the hope for a newborn to carry home.

What I have taken from this information is that prospective parents need to do careful homework and proceed with caution before choosing surrogacy as a path to parenthood. As attractive as surrogacy may be at first glance, I believe the bottom line is that prospective parents must be vigilant and legally careful in negotiating this particular path to parenthood — both to protect their rights and the well being of potential children.

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Empty Nest Adoption Trend

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As their adult children move out, get married and begin families, many “empty nest” parents, whether single, widowed, or married, are choosing to adopt children of their own. Many counties value older parents, and therefore many older adoptive parents chose to adopt intentionally. Some also chose to adopt older children or teenagers, who involve less physical lifting and are less likely to affect sleep schedules.

Agencies report that while it is more common than ever for older couples to adopt, general adoption statistics continue to grow and therefore “empty nest” adoptions are merely staying proportional to all other adoptions.

Critics of this growing trend suggest that older couples who adopt are subjecting their children to the risk of making end-of-life decisions and losing their parents at a young age. They worry that older parents may be seeking a second “baby experience” but will lack the patience and energy necessary to raise a child.

Oppositely, supporters of the trend site that this demographic group is a new source that can provide loving homes for many children who would otherwise live in orphanages or foster care. In addition, older adoptive parents have parenting experience and expertise which can assist in providing a prosperous environment for children.

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Lawyer’s Advice: Adopting A Haitian Orphan

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NBC 4’s Ana Jackson talks to a local attorney about the challenges of adopting Haitian orphans.

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Chances for Foreign Adoptions Plunge: Better Economies Overseas Help Parents Keep Kids

BY BONNIE MILLER RUBIN, CHICAGO TRIBUNE

CHICAGO — For years, Americans hoping to build families through adoption looked overseas because the path was more predictable and less complicated than domestic adoption.

But in recent years, the landscape has changed dramatically, experts say.

Three of the most popular countries — China, Guatemala and Russia — have scaled back, tightened rules or temporarily halted adoptions as they struggle to establish more transparency and accountability.

Countries also have raised the eligibility bar, excluding more prospective parents based on income, marital status and even — in the case of China — body mass index.

Even if a couple manage to slice through the bureaucracy, there’s the price — which can hit $40,000 in some countries, double what it was 10 years ago and a deal breaker for many families.

“It’s never been so difficult to adopt internationally,” said Julie Tye, president of the Cradle in Evanston, Ill., calling it the most challenging climate that she has seen in a decade.

A decrease in available children has caused up to 25 of American agencies to close or merge since 2000, according to the National Council for Adoption in Alexandria, Va.

“The days of a large sending country are over,” said Chuck Johnson, the council’s vice president.

The current picture is a stark contrast to a nearly two-decade-long overseas baby boom, which started in the early 1990s and peaked in 2004 with almost 23,000 adoptions by U.S. parents. But since then, the numbers have steadily declined, with only about 12,750 international adoptions in the U.S. in 2009 — the smallest total since 1997, according to State Department data.

A major shift came in 2008 with the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption. The treaty — signed by 70 countries, including the United States — has been widely supported by accredited agencies as an important step in eliminating concerns of baby-selling and coercion. Such allegations were common in Guatemala and Vietnam.

Although the pact certainly slowed the process by implementing more safeguards, other factors explain today’s realities, as well.

Russia had routinely allowed about 5,000 or more adoptions to the U.S. annually, but that figure has shriveled to about 1,500 simply because the nation is in less turmoil than it was after the fall of communism, analysts say.

China — which sent almost 8,000 kids to the U.S. in 2005 — accounted for just 3,000 adoptions last year. The decrease can be attributed, in part, to a robust economy and a larger middle class, giving couples more financial stability to raise kids and afford fines for having more than one child, experts say.

“It used to be that if you met the requirements, you would have a child in 12 to 18 months … but no more,” said Tom Jackson of Sunny Ridge Family Center in Bolingbrook, Ill., and Munster, Ind.

His agency had such a backlog a year ago it stopped taking applications for its China program — and has no idea when it will reopen. In 2003, Sunny Ridge completed 84 Chinese adoptions, versus 16 last year.

And just about everywhere else, there’s a new emphasis to first look for prospective parents at home, with nations like South Korea and India pouring more resources into domestic adoption.

In fact, only Ethiopia is on an upswing. That country, which figured in a mere 289 adoptions in 2004, now ranks second with almost 2,300 U.S. adoptions.

Jackson said parents are reconsidering their options and looking at special-needs children, older children and sibling adoptions — both in the U.S. and abroad.

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Surrogacy: The Most Important Factors To Learn About Being A Mother Surrogate

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Written by Rachel Lee Reynolds

Advancements in technology have provided numerous benefits to human life, making work easier and general quality of life far better than before. Apart from improving the quality of living, technology has also paved the way for the broadening of human perspectives allowing technology to be a tool in the perpetuation of the human species. One of the medical advancements which has raised controversial issues is mother surrogacy. Read on to find out more information about it.

In a nutshell, being a mother surrogate is a term that refers to a woman who bore and gave birth to a child who is either her own offspring or a fully developed fetus implanted into her womb. Surrogacy is usually an option taken by couples who are unable to bear their own children. In some instances, surrogacy is an option taken by unmarried women who have been wanting to become mothers even without domestic partners or by same sex couples.  Also, high profile infertile individuals make take this option and can afford to pay for commercial surrogacy, a term which may derogatorily be called “womb for rent”.

There are two general kinds of surrogacy. The first one is traditional because the mother surrogate is the biological mother of the child. The other is called gestational surrogacy as the mother surrogate’s womb serves as a host of the embryo being implanted until it becomes a fully developed fetus. In traditional surrogacy, the sperm needed to make fertilization happen can be taken from the male parent who requests a child or can be from a donor. In the gestational surrogacy, the mother surrogate cannot be called the child’s biological mother since she is only a host of the developing embryo.

Since surrogacy is a bit different from adoptions, this practice is marked by legal controversy. However, many countries even in US states have their own legal provisions concerning the legitimacy of the children born out of surrogates and their intended parents. To avoid lawsuits, some states require pre-birth orders to identify the intended parents of the child. This is to avoid legal disputes which were common before.

Another controversy is sparked by the feminists who liken mother surrogates to prostitutes. They describe surrogacy as patriarchal violence as it disrespects the bodies of women using them as “commodities” and degrades the babies being born. However, the feminists view against surrogacy is being ignored since most people believe that having children, whether biological or not, completes the family. Studies show that most surrogate mothers are not emotionally attached to the children they gave birth, unlike the intending parents who want the children in the first place. The series of studies have refuted the popular speculation that surrogates tend to be closer to the children they gave birth to since they were the host of the children for several months.

Whether morally good or bad, the source of the controversy is the fact that surrogacy is a non-traditional method of child bearing. Despite the different views regarding surrogacy, the most important thing is that the children born out of mother surrogates are given all the rights, respect and love which they rightfully deserve to have in order to live harmoniously in the world.

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Surrogacy: 4 Easy Steps To Become A Surrogate

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Written by Rachel Lee Reynolds

Childbirth could be the most miraculous and joyful experience that people may have in their lifetime. What if this dream of having children is unable to come true because of the misfortune of infertility? The couple may experience their worst nightmare but will eventually find respite with the involvement of someone who would want to become a surrogate mother. This person is someone who is kind-hearted and generous enough to lend her womb to bear a couple’s bundle of joy and might just be the best answer. It is however challenging and fearful to be a surrogate mother or couple at that and this is the reason why the correct steps should be followed for a successful surrogacy procedure. What follows are these steps:

Screening the Application

To become a surrogate, the potential surrogate would have to apply to their chosen surrogacy agency. Once the application is received, a representative from the surrogacy agency would contact the applicant. After the applicant has been asked questions, a permanent counselor will be assigned to provide guidance during the whole process. At the first meeting with the agency, the applicant will be screened thoroughly. Once the applicant passes the screening, the applicant will receive an invitation to attend a group support meeting that may be available and have a background check. The applicant will meet with a representative of the agency to ensure that the pregnancy medical expenses will be covered by the applicant’s insurance policy. They will also have a medical screening by a fertility specialist whose expertise is working with surrogate mothers.

The Match-Making

The agency will present profiles of prospective couples to the would-be surrogate, previously matched based on the information gathered during the application screening. The would-be surrogate has the opportunity to choose the couple to work with. The would-be surrogate’s profile will be sent to the prospective couple and an initial meeting with a counselor will be set once both parties agree. After both parties have decided to work together, an agency attorney will be assigned to draft a contract and send it out to be signed. Once both parties sign the contract, the couple will be required to deposit the surrogacy fee and other possible expenses held in trust by the agency.

Medical Care

A fertility specialist associated with the agency will explain to the would-be surrogate all the procedures of the surrogacy program, whether artificial insemination or in vitro fertilization. Further questions about the process will be readily answered. The would-be surrogate will also be monitored throughout the medical process.

The Pregnancy and Childbirth

You will have the freedom of informing the couple of the exciting news as soon as the pregnancy is confirmed. You should choose an obstetrician that is approved by your medical insurance or continue working with an obstetrician you already have an existing working relationship with during the pregnancy. You may start doing doctor’s visits at least eight (8) weeks during your pregnancy. It may be suggested by the agency that you keep in touch with the couple at least once every two (2) weeks since most couples would want to take part during the pregnancy.

The couple will be completely responsible for the caring of the child as soon as the baby is born. While in the hospital, both surrogate mother and couple who may have established a bond would take turns with the baby. It could become emotional for the surrogate mother because she would have to part ways with the couple and the baby once the child is released from the hospital. The joy she has given to the new parents of the baby she selflessly carried is beyond compare. Inspiration, support and lasting friendships may be established with other surrogate mothers once the amazing story on how to become a surrogate is shared in the group support meeting.

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House Bill 7: Summary of Adoption and Child Welfare Provisions

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Changes in Adoption Laws

House Bill 7 provides additional financial support to the birth mother consenting to the adoption of her child. In addition to the payments of allowable expenses related to the adoption or placement of a child such as medical or legal expenses, prospective adoptive parents may now pay up to $3,000 of the living expenses incurred by the birth mother for the duration of her pregnancy and for 60 days after the child is born. The payment of these living expenses must flow through the attorney or agency arranging the adoption, but will ultimately provide much needed financial support for birth mother.

The bill also contains a requirement that the Director of Job and Family Services must promulgate rules that will ensure that adoption and foster care home study procedures and content are in alignment. This will help promote efficiency and consistency for the adoption and foster care systems, which should help make the adoption process go more smoothly.

The length of time in which a child must live with a foster parent before the foster parent may submit an adoption application has been decreased from 12 months to 6 months. Also, a juvenile court no longer needs to consent to adoptions before a probate court can grant adoption petitions that include legal guardians or custodians. As a result of these changes, children will have the opportunity to be adopted at a much faster rate and the number of children awaiting permanent homes will likely decrease.

Where a parent has not been in contact with the child for one year and failed to provide for the child, consent by the parent is no longer forfeited; rather, under the new law, the court must find by clear and convincing evidence that the parent did not try to establish contact with the child or provide any support. In addition, the clerk of courts must send a notice to the parent stating the legal ramifications of the adoption and informing the parent of his or her right to contest the child’s adoption. While the use of the “clear and convincing” standard as opposed to the automatic forfeiture of rights may be seen as a means to impede rather than expedite the adoption process, its usage will provide the birth parent(s) with the ability to contest the adoption before their parental rights are terminated and in doing so may reduce the possibility of lengthy appeals.

Another change provides for the finalization of an interlocutory order not less than six months and not over one year from the date the adoptee is placed in the adoptive home instead of anywhere between six months and one year from the date the order is issued. This provision will decrease the time the court has available for observation, investigation, and review of home study reports while also decreasing the amount of time that the adoptive parents must wait before the adoption is final. Current law which allows the court to vacate an interlocutory order sooner for good cause relating to adoptions involving foster parents or relatives remains unchanged in the bill.

A juvenile court must now consider the ability of the adoptive parents to meet the needs of the other children living in their home.

The bill also adopts a new definition of “non-identifying information” by listing types of information that may be requested in relation to the adoptive parent. Prior to the passage of House Bill 7, Ohio law only addressed the type of information considered as “non-identifying” as that which pertained to the birth parent. Under the bill, the adoptive parent’s age at the time of adoption, an adoptive sibling’s age at the time of adoption, the heritage, ethnic background, religion, educational level, and occupation of the adoptive parent, and general information known about the well-being of the adoptee both prior and after adoption is considered to be information that does not identify the parties involved and therefore subject to inquiry. The bill does authorize an agency, attorney, person, or other governmental authority to reclassify any non-identifying information related to an adoptive family as identifying information on a case-by-case basis and to deny the request made for that information. In addition, House Bill 7 preserves the ability of a birth parent of an adopted person, a birth sibling over 18 years, or a birth family member of a deceased birth parent to submit a written request for non-identifying information as well as retains the definition of what constitutes such information, but stipulates that the birth parent must wait until the adopted child is 18 years of age before the information can be requested.

Changes in Child Welfare Laws

Under House Bill 7, a juvenile court may extend a temporary custody order for an additional time beyond that by which a PCSA or a PCPA may extend a temporary custody order by motion. The bill permits a juvenile court to extend a temporary custody order in increments of six months each, but under no circumstance may it extend the order for more than one year. In addition, the bill prohibits the court from extending the temporary custody order beyond two years from either the date when the complaint was filed or when the child was put in shelter care, whichever comes first and irrespective of any previous extensions. This provision allows a juvenile court more latitude in its disposition of the child, while safeguarding against the placement of a child in temporary custody for an inordinate period of time.

The new law mandates that a juvenile court must, under specific circumstances, place a child in a PSCA’s or PCPA’s custody. The child is required to be placed with a PCSA or PCPA if all of the following apply: 1) the court determines by clear and convincing evidence that the child cannot be placed with one of the child’s parents within a reasonable time or should not be placed with either parent; 2) the child has been in an agency’s custody for two years or longer, and no longer qualifies for temporary custody; 3) the child does not meet the requirements for a planned permanent living arrangement pursuant to current law; and 4) prior to the dispositional hearing, no relative or other interested person has filed, or has been identified in, a motion for legal custody of the child.

The law provides specifications concerning when it is necessary for the child to stay in residential or institutional care. If the child is unable to function in a family-like setting due to physical or mental disability and must therefore remain in residential or institutional care, the law specifies that the child must remain in such care for “now and the foreseeable future” beyond the date of the child’s dispositional hearing.

Finally, the new law provides an additional standard for the involuntary termination of the parental rights of a parent who has already had his or her parental rights terminated in regards to a sibling of the child in question. Under House Bill 7, the parent must prove by clear and convincing evidence that in spite of the previous termination, the parent can provide a secure, permanent placement and adequate care for the health, welfare, and safety of the child. While this provision allows the parent the ability to preserve his parental rights for the child regardless of the loss of parental rights in respect to another child, it also protects the child who is the current subject of a TPR proceeding by requiring the parent to meet a stricter burden of proof.

The passage of House Bill 7 effectuates many positive changes in Ohio adoption laws and will encourage adoptions in Ohio of children in need of permanent homes. With approximately 2,800 children waiting for adoptive families out of the more than 22,000 children in Ohio living in either foster care or some type of out-of-home placement, it is necessary to make the adoption process more accessible.

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Employee Adoption Benefit Packages

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According to recent polls, 47% of chief U.S. companies offer some form of financial support to adoptive parents, increased from 12% of companies in 1990. The specific packages offered vary greatly; in a 2007 survey of 762 companies, the average adoption benefit package includes five weeks of paid leave and a reimbursement of $4,700. Other companies offered anywhere between one week of paid time off and a $500 stipend to 16 weeks of paid leave and a reimbursement of $20,960, allowing for total coverage of an average international adoption. In addition, companies also supply employees with outside adoption information, support groups, and agency contacts.

Though a company must fund 100% of adoption benefits without insurance assistance, the cost of providing these benefits is relatively low, as they are not an ongoing cost. In addition, the benefits for employers who offer increased adoption benefits are numerous. These packages allow for the promotion of a family- friendly image among the community and to potential new employees, and, as 50% of Americans have either adopted children themselves or have close relationships with adoptive parents, adoption benefits allow companies to stay current with the changing American family.

Some adoptive parents report that without employer adoption benefit packages, adoption would be more difficult due to high costs. In addition, as more and more people consider adopting children, whether or not employers offer assistance is an important issue for potential employees.

A 3-5% increase in companies offering adoption benefit packages is expected in the coming years as well as continued expansion of benefits offered, such as increased incentives for parents who adopt foster children. Employers interested in creating employee adoption benefit packages are offered free assistance on The Dave Thomas Foundation’s website.

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Adopting Children From Haiti, Your Questions Answered

By CHRIS FRANCESCANI with ABC News

In the wake of the earthquake that devastated Haiti earlier this month, thousands of “Good Morning America” viewers have contacted the show, asking how they can help the many children orphaned by the quake. ABCNews.com spoke with U.S. government officials, aid organizations and non-governmental organizations to get the latest information on adoption of Haitian orphans.

Question: Can I adopt a Haitian Orphan?
Answer: No, not at present. In the wake of the earthquake that devastated the island nation earlier this month, new adoption applications for Haitian orphans are not being processed and are on hold indefinitely, according to the U.S. State Department. It’s unclear when the process will begin again.

Question: Why won’t the Haitian government allow the adoption of orphans?
Answer: The Haitian government is still in the process of identifying and registering children who were orphaned after the earthquake. In addition to concerns about child-sex trafficking, officials in Haiti need time to clearly identify a child as an orphan. Because of the number of missing and displaced Haitians, the process is long and arduous.

Question: Are any adoptions of Haitian orphans underway?
Answer: Yes. About 700 U.S. families who were already “far along” in the process are being allowed to complete their adoptions, according to Chuck Johnson, vice president of the National Council for Adoption in Washington, D.C. About 1,000 children are expected to be taken out of Haiti under the initiative, according to the U.S. State Department.

Question: What are the Haitian government’s requirements for prospective adoptive parents?
Answer: “It’s quite a lengthy and detailed process [with] a lot of very strict and rather unusual requirements that do not apply in most countries,” Michele Bond, the U.S. State Department’s deputy assistant secretary for Overseas Citizens Services, said. “You have to be married at least 10 years; you can’t be accepted as [adoptive parents] in Haiti if [you] already have a biological child, and you can’t be accepted if one parent is less than 19 years older than the child.”

So, for example, an adoption of a 10 year old would not be allowed if one spouse is 35 and the other is 28. Should prospective parents fall into any of these categories, they would need a presidential dispensation. “They would have to wait for the [Haitian] president to review your file, and then it goes to the courts there,” Bond said, adding that she doesn’t know of any other government that has such criteria. Information on same-sex couples was not immediately available, according to State Department officials.

Adopting Haitian Orphans

Question: How long does the process of adopting a Haitian orphan take?
Answer: It could take up to three or more years to adopt a Haitian orphan under pre-earthquake conditions. It’s unclear how long it would take now.

There are two parts to the process. The first part is a petition to the U.S. government to be declared eligible to adopt a child. That process, known as the I-600 process because of the name of the form, takes between 60 and 90 days, according to U.S. government officials and aid organizations. It involves a criminal background check, a medical background check and a suitability determination that involves visits to the home and interview with the prospective parents.

The second part of the process involves gaining approval from the Haitian government. That process takes two to three years, once the U.S. government approves the I-600 petition, according to U.S. government officials and aid organizations.

Question: Is that a long time compared to adoptions from other countries?
Answer: It is relatively long. Ethiopia, for example, matches adoptive parents to orphans in as little as 14 months, Johnson said, while countries such as China can take up to five years.

Question: Approximately how much does it cost to adopt a Haitian orphan?
Answer: The cost of adopting a child from Haiti can range from $10,000 to $25,000, according to Kathleen Strottman, executive director of the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Issues.

“The costs vary depending on the agency used and the services they provide (some are a one-stop shop, others do basic services) [the] State Department reports that the cost of the adoption itself is approximately $3,000 and the remaining are travel and agency fees,” Strottman wrote in an e-mail.

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Haitian Adoption: What It Says About America

Written by Jeff Katz, The Huffington Post

The New York Times published a magnificent story about the Heaton family of Roca, Nebraska (population 130), who are in the process of adopting two Haitian girls, ages 7 and 2. Like 900 other Haitian children just flown to the United States, these children had been in the adoption process for years, stymied by bureaucracy and inertia. Spurred by the humanitarian crisis of the Haitian earthquake, the United States has eased its visa requirements for Haitian children in the final stages of the adoption process. According to the Times story, when the Heatons landed in Omaha with their new daughters, they were “greeted by throngs of well-wishers toting teddy bears and balloons.”

I was moved by this but not surprised. The United States is the most open country in the world when it comes to adoption. In many parts of the world, blood means everything and people would never adopt outside their family. In the United States, we have a far more expansive view of family. In fact, half of all adoptions in the world are by Americans.

And it’s not just that Americans adopt. Americans adopt children that might be shunned in other countries. The younger of the children being adopted by the Heatons had a medical condition that left her brain partially exposed. The family made numerous trips to Haiti and hosted the child when she came to the United States for a medical procedure to correct the problem.

Kathy Heaton described her reasons for adopting. “We can’t think of anything we’d rather do than raise these children and make a difference.” The Heaton family is like tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands, of Americans, driven to adopt out of a sense of altruism. Last year Americans adopted 55,000 abused and neglected children from foster care. It is as simple as wanting to help a hurt child.

Perhaps the most interesting aspect to the story of the Haitian orphans is that it took a natural disaster of such tragic proportions to shake the bureaucracy. Many, like the two girls being adopted by the Heaton family, have spent much of their lives in an orphanage while waiting for the “system” to work. Why did it take such a tragedy to free these 900 children?

Unfortunately, there is a sad parallel between the plight of Haitian children waiting in orphanages and the 125,000 American children waiting in foster care to be adopted. That parallel is a system that too often acts as a roadblock instead of an emergency service responding to the urgent need of a child without a family.

Contrary to conventional wisdom, in the United States, there are far, far, more people interested in adopting children from foster care than there are children in need of families. Talk to people trying to adopt from foster care (and I have spoken to thousands) and you will quickly learn that there are far too many places in the child welfare system where the incentives for inaction outweigh the incentives for action. So children wait.

I have worked in this field for 20 years and I have seen countless examples of good people wanting nothing more than to help a hurt child heal. I have seen children in wheelchairs adopted. I have seen a child scarred by cigarette burns adopted by a woman who recognized those scars from her own childhood abuse. Last year I met an 18-year-old kid with “thug life” tattooed on his arms. He had just been adopted and when he spoke about his “mama” he wept.

We are blessed in this country to have an overabundance of families who want to provide homes to children in need. It should not take a catastrophic natural disaster to motivate us to sweep away the barriers that prevent children in need from having the families they deserve.

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The Nuts and Bolts of an Adoption Home Study

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Written by Babygirlmona and posted on Pound Pup Legacy Blog

Flexibility and a sense of humor are vital characteristics when raising children and they can come in handy during the home study as well. For instance, if you have the flexibility in your job and are willing to take off an hour early to meet with the social worker or to modify your schedule in some other way to make the meeting arrangements flow smoothly, that effort will be appreciated by the worker. As a parent to be, many more of these accommodations are in your future; therefore the social worker often believes you might as well start getting used to them!

The duration of the home study will vary from agency to agency, depending on various factors, such as how many social workers are assigned to conduct home studies, what other duties they have, and how many other people applied to the agency at the same time as you. You can do a lot to expedite the process by filling out your paperwork, scheduling your medical appointments, and gathering the required documents.

The cost of the home study depends on which kind of agency or practitioner is conducting the study. A public agency (often your local Department of Social Services) does not usually charge a fee for a home study, since it is supported by government funds. However, occasionally a public agency may charge a modest home study fee-once you adopt one of the agency’s children, you can usually obtain a reimbursement for this fee.

A private agency might charge from $1,000 to $3,000 for the home study, although it may charge no fees or charge lesser fees for home studies for children with special needs. For a non-special-needs child, the fee may cover an application fee and pre-placement services, but be sure to confirm this. For locating a specific child and providing follow-up or post-placement services, you will usually be charged a separate fee. These services could possibly be performed by a second agency. Fees for these additional services could range from $2,500 to $25,000. Many agencies allow the fees to be paid in installments. Again, be sure to discuss this thoroughly so that there are no misunderstandings.

A certified social worker in private practice often conducts home studies for independent adoptions. Fees for these are probably in the same range as those for private agencies. Independent adoptions are not legal in all States.

Remember, even though an adoption home study may seem invasive or lengthy, it is conducted to prepare you for adoption and help you decide whether adoption is really for you. The regulations serve to protect the best interest of the child and to ensure he or she is placed in a loving, caring, healthy, and safe environment. Once you accept that premise, it often becomes a lot easier to complete what is required of you. After all, the reward of withstanding a short period of inconvenience is great: many years of happiness and fulfillment raising a child to maturity.

Good luck to you in your pursuit of a child through adoption and with your adoption home study. With perseverance and a good attitude, you will be able to team with the adoption social worker to make this a valuable learning experience-one which will help you to do the best possible job in parenting the child who will join your family. After all, the adoption worker wants you to accomplish your goal of adopting, especially if one more child gets a loving, permanent, safe family.

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Adoption: What Does Jewish Law Say About Adoption?

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Written by Mike Adkins

In Judaism, adoption is an important as well as an intricate issue. Although the Jewish Law recognizes adoption as a legitimate way to build a family, it also evokes conflicting messages, known as halakhah, in regards to adoption. Emphasizing greatly on bloodlines and ancestry, Judaism prioritizes tradition with respect to adoption.

A child that is legally adopted under the Jewish Law and is being brought up in a traditional Jewish household is not considered an adoptee. In regards to the Jewish religion, the adopted child is considered part of the family. However, for a Jewish family that wishes to adopt a non-Jewish child, there is always an additional filter that respects the Jewish tradition through generations of Jewish families.

Under the Jewish Law, an adopted child is duty-bound in the laws of death and mourning in the event of a loss of a close relative, namely mother, father, sister, brother, spouse, son or daughter. Considered as an immediate family, the adopted child recites the traditional mourner’s prayer (Kaddish) for 12 months and is obligated in the laws of mourning.

Jewish adoptive parents should carefully consider how they communicate respect for the Jewish religion to the adopted child without diminishing the importance of the birth parents’ religion. Particularly, when it comes to open adoptions and the birth family is not Jewish, the child is likely to raise questions about the Jewish religion, the birth parents’ religion, the differences between the two, why they exist, which is better etc. In these cases, both adoptive and placing parents should communicate in a respectful way and should follow a common way on explaining all these questions to the child without prejudices and conflict.

In many cases, there are conflicts between the different factions of Judaism, namely Orthodox, Reform, Reconstructionist and Conservative. Under the Jewish Law, an adopted child whose birth mother is not Jewish should be officially converted to Judaism. However, if the birth father is Jewish, Reform and Reconstructionist Jews do not proceed to conversion, while Orthodox Jews recognize conversions performed solely by Orthodox Rabbis.

All these complexities create additional challenges in regards to adoption under the Jewish Law. For children who are not born Jewish and have different race and culture in their genes, it is a difficult challenge to connect with a Jewish family, particularly when outsiders question this connection. There are cases that Chinese children are adopted by Jewish families and because their characteristics are so unique, they have been told that they are not Jewish. The same has happened with blond children with blue eyes, who do not look like typical Jews and again their identity has been questioned by third parties at school or even at the synagogue.

For all adopted children is difficult to create a solid identity. Jewish adoptive families should help children who are not born Jewish to develop a strong Jewish identity. On the other hand, they should respect the challenges that evoke from the birth family’s religion. There are cases that Jewish children have celebrated Christmas with their birth parents because the Jewish adoptive parents have accepted that their child should make his or her own choices. In any event, communication is the key.

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International Adoptions: Adopting a Haitian Orphan

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By Ana Jackson, Reporter for NBC4

COLUMBUS, Ohio

The United Nations Children’s Fund estimates there were 380,000 Haitian orphans before the devastating earthquake. Now it’s believed that there are thousands more.

But opening your home to a Haitian orphan isn’t as easy as you might think, considering the need for adoptive families.

“You’re not just going to be able to wake up and say I’m adopting a child today,” said Tommy Taneff, a local adoption attorney.

While there are plenty of orphans available, Taneff says working through the Haitian government to get the process going will be difficult.

“There are lawyers that are missing that are dead, judges that are missing that are dead, and paperwork that is in shambles as well,” said Taneff.

Taneff explains that’s not the only roadbump. He says getting pre-approved for adoption is a long and cumbersome process, especially for international adoptions. You could spend up to two years and up to about $45,000 trying to rescue an orphan, despite the fact that some have already been airlifted to the United States. Taneff says the orphans who were brought to the states have been in the pipeline for adoptions and their paperwork is almost completed.

If you’re willing to take on the challenges of adoption, Taneff points out that young Haitian children aren’t the only ones who need homes.

“It’s those teenagers that need families that have the highest risk of getting drug into the sex trade, alcoholism and prostitution,” said Taneff.

Taneff says if you’re going to pursue an international adoption, make sure you work with an attorney or agency that is familiar with the process. Ask for references and check licenses to make sure an attorney or agency is credible.

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Local Couple Heartbroken After Adoption Scam

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By Ana Jackson, Reporter for NBC4

DELAWARE, Ohio – Imagine being an adoptive parent, just weeks away from receiving a child from a birth mother, only to find out the mother was never pregnant.

It’s a scheme that has fooled and broken the hearts of Midwest couples.

Shawn and Laura Mickens fell victim to the scheme.

They have been searching for a baby for the last 18 months and already lost out on a previous adoption opportunity.

So when they saw an ad for a local birth mother who was supposedly due in three weeks, they jumped at the chance and scheduled a meeting right away.

“She got so attached to us. She was rubbing her belly, calling it by the child’s name even though she wasn’t really pregnant. She just looked pregnant,” Shawn said.

The couple said the mother agreed to sign all of the paperwork necessary for the adoption but then suddenly stopped calling.

The Mickens posted their story on online adoption forums and found that nine other couples had fallen victim to the very same scheme.

“We’re trying to give a child a good home, and she’s ruining the adoption process for these families. She’s breaking their hearts and making them think twice if they really want to do this,” Laura said.

Adoption attorney Tommy Taneff said similar schemes are rare, but couples should always do their homework on a birth mother.

He said couples should run background checks and do Internet searches and always should work with an adoption attorney to prevent problems.

The Mickens said they will continue to pursue adoption despite the disheartening scheme.

In the meantime, they are working to get the word out about the scheme.

They said local authorities decided the case was too weak to pursue in court.

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Americans for Open Adoption Records

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Written By Rose M. Garland and posted on NewsBlaze.com

Americans for Open Adoption Records posts about reasons why any adopted person should have access to their own adoption records. Adoption records can be illuminating for an adoptee. They may show information that most non-adoptees take for granted, such as race, single or twin birth, other siblings, mother and father’s names (if available), and also some potentially important medical history.

I knew my birth-family for the almost 11 years I spent in foster care until my official adoption at 14. Therefore, I have had access to medical information and medical history that may not be accessible to many American’s who were adopted at much younger ages, or who were a part of closed adoption proceedings. However, my younger birth sister was adopted young and part of closed adoption proceedings. She already had 3 children before I met her in her 20’s, and was able to tell her to screen for Epilepsy. Her oldest child had already had a severe seizure and because of this knowledge, she was armed with the knowledge to screen her other children for Epilepsy and for other genetic diseases.

An adoptee has the same right to know their medical history as anyone else does. If the adoptee is aware of heart disease or diabetes in their immediate birth family, they can be forewarned to be screened for these illnesses. A woman might want to know if there are genetic triggers that may complicate a pregnancy. Open adoption records would be helpful for doctors who would have a basis to go on when treating patients who were adopted.

Even something as simple as knowing your race or races can be a huge advantage. There are different illnesses that certain races are more susceptible to than others. I cannot imagine any person not wanting to be forewarned about potential health risk factors.

Sometimes records contain information that is not health-related, but gives the adoptee information they may not have expected. For example, I was able to view my own adoption records, and was touched by some of the information in them that I had never known.

Social workers have chronicled my life almost as long as I have been alive. One excerpt from my own record was, “Rose is almost 3 years old. She is a quiet child who tries to take care of everyone. She follows her mom around and mimics her actions, including trying to vacuum. She tries to get her mother to sit down while she takes care of her.” This is interesting to me, because I was put into foster care just after that. The information from this record, not only gave me a childhood story that I’d never had, but taught me more about the reasons that the removal into foster care was a necessity for my own well-being.

AMFOR and organizations like this, have a worthy purpose. Knowing what is in your adoption records is one more step into knowing important information about who you really are.

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The Price of Adoption

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Posted on Think Christian on December 14, 2009 by Amy Adair (Guest Blogger)

“How much did she cost?” the cashier at the grocery store asked, pointing to my daughter.

I nervously shifted Evie, on my hip and swiped my credit card. My husband and I had just gotten home from Beijing, China, with our new daughter and I wasn’t prepared for prying questions from strangers.

“How much did you pay for your car?” I shot back.

She wrinkled her forehead, frowned, and was obviously offended by my question.

“I’d just heard that it was $100,000 to adopt from a China,” she hissed.

“It’s not $100,000,” I sighed. “She didn’t cost a penny. We did, however, pay a social worker and an agency to help facilitate the adoption.”

As I headed back to my car, I had a sinking feeling that more people would ask the same question. I was right. The first week Evie was home, my dentist, a neighbor, and a stranger at the park all wanted to know: How much?

It is true, adoption isn’t cheap. There are a lot of fees that add up quickly. We paid for a home study, visas, passports, immigration papers, plane tickets, and hotels. Quite honestly, it is a financial sacrifice. But so are other things that people don’t question, like sending your child to college. People find a way to do it. Much like financing a college education, there are grants, loans, and federal tax credits available to adoptive parents.

I wonder, though, what’s the cost of not adopting? It was never God’s intention for children to grow up in an orphanage without the love of a mother or father. Clearly God weeps for those who suffer, especially the fatherless. In fact, in Matthew 19:14, Jesus berates his disciples for turning children away from him. Jesus invites the children to stay and declares that the kingdom of Heaven belongs not to the grown-ups but to the kids. It is one of the many beautiful pictures in the Bible that illustrates God as our Abba or Father.

It is also a call to action. Just as Jesus welcomed the children, he asks us to reach out to the neediest to the least of these.

Imagine what would happen if every Christian world-wide cared for orphans? I know not every Christian is called to parent an orphaned child. But I do believe that Christ calls every Christian to care for and support the fatherless. That could be praying for an adoptive family, supporting an adoption cause, or sponsoring a waiting child.

Financing an adoption isn’t the price tag that should shock people. It’s the cost of standing by and doing nothing that should leave Christ-followers speechless.

(Amy has written children’s books, a teen magazine column, interviews, and adoption applications. She is the proud mother to two boys who are 7 and 4. Her latest adventure led her to Beijing, China, with her husband Jonathan where they met their newest addition to the family, a two year old little girl.)

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Social Barriers Remain for Adoption

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By David Castellon with Visalia Times-Delta and Tulare Advance-Register

Of the hundreds of teenage girls going through unplanned pregnancies that Karen Pringle deals with in her job, few — maybe 1 percent — tell her they plan to put their babies up for adoption.

Pringle and others who work with teenage and pregnant girls in Tulare County say rarely does the subject of adoption come up. And when it does, the girls and young women often don’t think much of the idea.

Pringle is perinatal services coordinator for the Tulare County Health and Human Services Agency.

Maricela Lupercio, director of Latinos4Life, an anti-abortion group based in Visalia, said adoption seems to be particularly taboo among Hispanic girls and young women.

She recounted a recent conversation with a woman who had an abortion at 15, became pregnant again and gave birth to a child.

She now is pregnant for the third time at 19 and was considering another abortion, Lupercio said. “I asked her if she had ever considered adoption, and she said, ‘Oh, no. I could never do that.’ ”

Lupercio said that for some girls, particularly Hispanics, adoption has a bad image — even worse than abortion for some.

“As far as I know and [among] the people who I know and I’ve met, in the Hispanic culture, it’s not as common to adopt babies,” she said.

So a lot of Hispanic girls often aren’t exposed to adoption and never see the positive outcomes of it, Lupercio explained.

They believe “adoption is some taboo thing to do,” and it just doesn’t enter their minds as an option in dealing with unplanned or unwanted pregnancies.

Sharon Phillips, a school nurse who teaches health and sex education classes for 12 Tulare County school districts, the closest being the Tulare Joint Union High and Farmersville Unified school districts, agrees.

“I never hear adoption [brought up] very much,” she said.

Sex education instructors contacted for this report said abortion or adoption aren’t part of their curriculums. And if students bring those subjects up during their classes, their responses usually are limited.

For example, “If they were to ask me, I would tell them where they could go to ask about adoption,” said Aracelly Oros, program coordinator for the Proteus Inc. Community Challenge Grant, which provides comprehensive sex education classes to Visalia middle and high schools.

It’s not something many parents or friends of pregnant teens want to hear either, said Shyla Erich-Smith, a Tulare-based adoption attorney.

“It seems to be a theme that I’ve heard that they’re being pressured to keep the children by their peers, by their parents. There just seems to be a cultural thing in this area,” she said.

And that pressure can lead to some bad decisions, including girls hiding their pregnancies — or at least trying to — so they can have their babies adopted without family and friends finding out, Erich-Smith said.

During her murder trial in October, Nancy Ortiz testified she had hidden from her family three pregnancies, secretly had given birth over nearly two years and had abandoned all three newborns in her Orosi neighborhood.

One of those babies died of hypothermia.

Ortiz, 24, convicted of second-degree murder and child abuse, claimed she never considered abortion or adoption because she didn’t believe her family would have allowed her to do either, even though she was an adult.

Erich-Smith said she’s had several clients who have hidden their pregnancies by wearing baggy clothes, as Ortiz did.

Many pregnant minors aren’t aware that the law says they can make decisions about their babies that their parents can’t override even though they aren’t adults, said Peggy Schulze, adoption services manager for Chrysalis House Inc., a Fresno-based adoption agency.

Still, even with the law on the minor parents’ side, some still give in to family and peer pressure in deciding whether to keep their babies, Erich-Smith said.

Adding to the pressure on young parents is the belief that once they arrange an adoption, they never will see their children again, Schulze said. “It just doesn’t seem a positive choice.”

But that’s not necessarily true, as those sorts of “closed adoptions” aren’t the only options available, she said.

“A closed adoption is where [a mother] may or may not choose the adoptive parents, but there is no identifying information exchanged, there is no contact after placement. That is very, very rare now. Most women don’t choose closed adoption,” Schulze explained. “Most women want to know how their child is doing down the road. They want updates. They want pictures, and we explain to them they have this right.”

As such, the birth mother — and the baby’s father, if he chooses to be involved — have options ranging from periodically receiving photos and updates on the child to having occasional visits with the child to becoming extended family, depending on the agreement made with the adoptive family, Schulze and Erich-Smith said.

In addition, the birth parents can set guidelines for choosing the adoptive parents, including religion, race and whether there already are other children in a household.

In adoptions arranged by lawyers and adoption agencies, mothers can choose to meet with potential adoptive parents and pick who will get their babies.

If birth parents don’t want to deal with a lawyer or private adoption agency, the county’s Health and Human Services Agency also has an adoption unit, said Kathleen Trevino, the agency’s adoption team leader.

“They can give us some parameters [for selecting adoptive parents], but a lot of our families aren’t looking to do open adoptions like the private agencies,” she said.

Health and Human Services doesn’t have as extensive a list of people looking to adopt as adoption lawyers and adoption agencies may have, Trevino added.

Parents working to adopt their children through the county would have to surrender those children to the county through a relinquishment process that can begin before the child is born but can’t be finalized until after the birth and the mother has been released from the hospital.

Adoption lawyers and adoption agencies may offer counseling to the birth mothers and fathers before and after the adoptions, and Trevino said her office’s social workers can provide counseling or refer the parents to Tulare County Mental Health Services if they need more extensive treatment.

Newborns given up through California’s Safe Surrender Program also may be put up for adoption, though parents have a 14-day cooling period to change their minds and reclaim their children. After the 14 days, parent may still be able to regain custody of their surrendered children once authorities determine they are fit to care for them.

In some cases, parents may not have choices about adoptions if their children are removed from their custody because of abuse or neglect.

“In most cases, we try unification” to bring the families back together, which may involve parenting classes, substance-abuse counseling or the resolution of the situations that resulted in the children being removed, said Charlotte Wittig, a Tulare County Superior Court commissioner whose duties include overseeing adoptions of children who have become county dependents.

In the year ended last June 30, 123 children who were county dependents were adopted, down from 204 in the previous year, according to Health and Human Services records. Since July 1, 70 county dependents have had their adoptions finalized.

By David Castellon with Visalia Times-Delta and Tulare Advance-Register

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Adopted Children, By the Numbers

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The New York Times, Motherlode Column

By LISA BELKIN

Whenever the subject here is adoption readers point out that while the difficult cases make the news, most adoptive families are happy and most adopted children are healthy and well-adjusted.

Today is the final day of National Adoption Month, and a fitting time to take a look at the report “Adoption USA: A Chartbook Based on the 2007 National Survey of Adoptive Parents” which was released recently by the Department of Health and Human Services. Based on interviews with parents of 91,642 adopted children, its authors describe the report as “the first ever survey to provide representative information about the characteristics, adoption experiences, and well-being of adopted children and their families in the United States.”

Among its findings: the overwhelming majority of families whose children came to them through adoption are doing just fine.

Eighty-five percent of the children are described as being in “excellent or very good health”, the same as the general population. Eighty-one percent of the parents described their relationships with their child as “very warm and close,” while 42 percent say those relationships are “better than ever expected,” and only 15 percent say they are “more difficult” than they had expected.

In some categories adopted children can be considered measurably better off than the average American child.They are, for instance, more likely to be read to daily when they are younger (68 compared with 48 percent), to be sung to or told stories every day (73 compared with 59 percent), or to participate in extracurricular activities as school-age children (85 compared with 81 percent).

That does not mean that there are not bumps and difficulties on the adoption path. While only the minority of adopted children have “special health care needs” (39 percent) or “moderate to severe health difficulties” (26 percent), or a diagnosis of asthma (19 percent) these are all higher numbers than those of the general population (which are 19 percent, 10 percent and 13 percent.)

Similarly, while “only a small minority of adopted children have ever been diagnosed with disorders such as attachment disorder, depression, attention deficit disorder or attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder, or behavior or conduct disorder,” the report says, the percentage of each of these appears higher in the subset of adoptive children than in the general population. (There are no statistics on the prevalence of attachment disorder in the general population, but 12 percent of parents of adoptive children report such a diagnosis; while 4 percent of the general population of children have been diagnosed with severe to moderate A.D.H.D., 14 percent of adopted children have; the statistics for “behavior or conduct problems” is 2 percent vs. 8 percent, while reported “problems with social behaviors is 9 percent vs. 14 percent. All these problems are more prevalent in children who were adopted out of foster care than in those adopted internationally or privately.)

As so many of you have said on this subject, no one case represents the whole of adoption. On the flip side, statistics like these can paint a large scale picture, but not capture the truth of your particular family.

Do these numbers ring true to you? Do you find them reassuring or worrisome?

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Other Adoption Options – Safe Haven for Abandoned Babies

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Written by Patricia Wen, Globe Newspaper Company

It was nearing dusk on the first Sunday of last December when a young woman carrying a newborn walked through the automatic sliding doors of Whidden Memorial Hospital in Everett and told a desk clerk in a calm voice: I can’t take care of the baby. I’m leaving her here.

The clerk called the emergency room. Linda Fuller, a veteran secretary, came out first, her heart racing. She knew about the state’s relatively new Safe Haven law, but had never been part of any dropoff.

Without hesitation, the woman, who seemed in her early 20s, handed the infant over to Fuller. She said the baby girl, who had hazel eyes and blond hair and was swaddled in a blue blanket, was less than two days old. Before Fuller could ask more questions, the woman turned and left through the same sliding doors.

“She seemed very resolved,’’ Fuller recalled.

The baby would later be given a tiny ankle hospital bracelet, which read: “Doe, Jane. Homeless.’’

Massachusetts was slow to embrace the idea of anonymous drop-offs for desperate mothers. When it passed the Safe Haven law five years ago, it was the 47th state to adopt such a statute. Critics expressed concerns it would legalize child abandonment, and that these babies would never know their biological origins because no answers were required from parents. On that December day, Baby Jane Doe lost virtually any chance of knowing her past as soon as the woman – referred to legally as the “Unknown Mother’’ – left the hospital.

But if the primary goal is to save babies from being left in dumpsters or on doorsteps – and to give these children a second chance through adoption – recent statistics suggest the law has made a difference.

Baby Jane Doe is one of 12 babies so far who have been surrendered under the law, which permits a parent to anonymously drop off any infant under a week old to any hospital, police station, or fire station, without legal repercussions. Most mothers have chosen hospitals as the refuge for their babies, and some have even been convinced by counselors from the 24-hour Safe Haven hotline (866-814-SAFE) to give birth anonymously in a hospital, rather than at home, to ensure a safe delivery.

Safe Haven officials said most of the mothers who have given up their newborns had contacted the hotline at least once with questions before they surrendered their babies.

The mother of Baby Jane Doe took good care of the newborn in the baby’s earliest days.

The preliminary assessment by the Whidden medical staff around 4 p.m. on Dec. 7 showed the baby girl was in robust health: She weighed about 7 pounds, showed strong vital signs, and was clean and well-nourished. The baby showed no signs of abuse or sickness.

Because Whidden Memorial had no pediatric or maternity wards, the newborn was transferred by ambulance that evening to Cambridge Hospital’s pediatrics ward. There, she was given tests to rule out drugs, alcohol or other foreign substances in her system. All came back negative.

Based on the age of the umbilical cord, the staff believed the mother delivered at home, and probably within four or five days – as opposed to one or two, as they were initially told.

“The baby looked beautiful and healthy,’’ said Dr. Assaad Sayah, chief of emergency medicine for the Cambridge Health Alliance, which oversees the Whidden and Cambridge Hospitals.

On Monday, the day after Baby Jane Doe was dropped off, the adoption supervisor for the Cambridge office of the Massachusetts Department of Children and Families, Ann Beck, arrived at her office to hear the news from colleagues. As required by law, hospital staff had called the agency to announce a new Safe Haven baby.

She was the 11th baby left under the law, and Beck’s second experience with such a case. Compared with the emotional and legal complexities of virtually every case in her office, Safe Haven baby cases are relatively simple. The biological parents are unknown, so the legal process of “terminating parental rights’’ proceeds like a formality. And babies – particularly healthy ones – are easy to place. Right away, they dispensed with the need for temporary foster parents.

“From the very beginning, you’re looking for a long-term permanent home,’’ Beck later said.

Amid the hundreds of files in her office, Beck instantly thought of one couple.

Irene Kasper, 46, worked as a cashier for an area municipality, and her husband, James, 51, was a landscaper. They were married four years ago. Given their age, they decided against having a child of their own, and went through the state’s training program to become adoptive parents. Adoption had special meaning to them too: James, as an infant, had been adopted through Catholic Charities. They initially told social workers that, given that they would be older parents, they preferred a child between the ages of 2 and 6.

In late October 2008, the state had placed a 2-year-old girl into their home for possible adoption. The couple was immediately drawn to the high-energy toddler. But after only two days, the child’s uncle surfaced seemingly out of nowhere, offering to take his niece. Almost as quickly as the girl arrived, the child was plucked from the Kasper’s home.

The couple was devastated, though they understood the priority given to relatives. Social workers felt badly for the Kaspers, and noted the compassion they showed.

“They understood, even though it hurt,’’ Beck said.

Irene Kasper was at her office desk going over paperwork when her telephone rang.

“We have a newborn who was dropped off,’’ said a social worker from Beck’s office just hours after they heard about Baby Jane Doe. “Would you be interested?’’

Irene was taken aback. She never thought the agency would offer a newborn to her and her husband, given their age. The social worker suggested the couple may want to visit the baby, who was on the fifth floor of Cambridge Hospital.

When Irene and James saw the baby, they were smitten. The girl seemed calm in her bassinet, her complexion rosy and healthy. Irene snapped a picture with her cellphone.

The next day, barely able to contain her excitement, Irene phoned the social worker: “We are very much interested in that baby.’’

Baby Jane Doe would remain at the hospital another four nights for observation. Each night, Irene came after work to give the baby a bottle, change her diapers, and hold her in the rocking chair.

As soon as the couple brought the girl home, they decided she looked Irish and should have a typical Irish name, so they called her Caitlyn Rose. Irene is Portuguese on her father’s side, but Irish on her mother’s. Within two weeks, Caitlyn began sleeping through the night, her favorite mobile whirring and playing lullabies above her. The girl adjusted well to a family day care run by a friend of Irene’s.

In the months ahead, as Caitlyn began sitting up, playing with her rattle, and eating solid foods, the joy the couple felt was tempered by anxieties born of their recent past. They didn’t want to risk losing her if the mother suddenly reappeared. For this very reason, the couple had been discreet about revealing to others where they live.

They couldn’t bear the idea of life without the infant who was now calling them “Mama’’ and “Dada.’’

As they prepared for a Thanksgiving feast with family and friends this month, the Kaspers had an important date on their calendar: the Nov. 20 finalization of their adoption of their girl in Middlesex Juvenile Court in Cambridge, the same courthouse where James had been adopted as an infant. This was a big day for the couple because it would erase all their insecurities with one simple word – that the adoption would be “irrevocable.’’

The date happened to be National Adoption Day, and so they appeared in court with scores of other families, as well as state dignitaries. As Governor Deval Patrick, DCF Commissioner Anthony “Angelo’’ McClain, and judges gave prepared remarks to a packed audience, little Caitlyn rested on her father’s shoulder, wearing a black and pink dress and patent-leather Mary Jane shoes. When the song “We are Family’’ began playing over the loudspeakers, James lifted his hand to Caitlyn’s – and they did a high-five.

After a lengthy wait, the Kaspers were called to Courtroom Three. After Judge Gwendolyn Tyre reviewed the legal paperwork involving “Baby Jane Doe,’’ she turned to the couple holding their baby.

“The child’s name is now changed to Caitlyn Rose Kasper,’’ the judge declared to the smiling couple. “This adoption is final and irrevocable.’’

Elated that Caitlyn is now legally theirs, Irene and James said they know their daughter will someday be curious about her past. Irene has a special box where she keeps memories for Caitlyn – including the Winnie the Pooh outfit and white cap that she wore on the day she was dropped off.

James has felt the void of not knowing about his genetic past; he grew up without any information about his birth parents. When Caitlyn is old enough to understand, they plan to pay tribute to the woman who took loving care of Caitlyn in her earliest days, and then made an agonizing decision.

Irene has already thought about what she will eventually tell Caitlyn about the biological mother who walked out the automatic doors of that Everertt hospital.

“I give her all the credit in the world for what she did,’’ Irene said. “She took great care of this girl.’’

Patricia Wen can be reached at wen@globe.com

© Copyright 2009 Globe Newspaper Company.

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Economy May Be Impacting Adoptions

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By Kelli Wynn, Staff Writer for Dayton Daily News

U. S. Army Maj. Jason Schranks and his wife Susan looked through numerous DVDs to find their three new children.

“It was absolutely the hardest part in this whole process. How do you say, no?” Susan Schrank said of the experience she and her husband had looking at the numerous children eligible for adoption.

In the midst of their search, the Fairborn couple talked with their Ethiopian niece. When the niece, who now lives in Illinois, found out that her aunt and uncle wanted to adopt, she suggested they consider one of the orphanage friends she met before she was adopted.

The Schranks took her advice. Last December, they decided to adopt Yordanos, 13, and her 10-year-old sister Fortuna. They also decided to adopt a son, 7-year-old Girma. All three spent at least four years at an orphanage.

The sisters were placed in one orphanage after their uncle could no longer care for them. Girma’s older brother was taking care of him after their parents died, but his day laborer job made that impossible.

The new additions will bring the Schranks’ household to seven. They have two sons, 15-year-old Phillip and 9-year-old Andrew.

The Schranks decided on international adoption after moving to Ohio from Trinidad and Tobago in 2008. Jason Schrank was stationed to work there and the couple had also done some humanitarian work there, Susan Schrank said.

Local adoptions are declining

 

Despite couples like the Schranks and Jeff and Kate Wagner, fewer people are adopting locally, according to local court and children services officials.

Finalized adoption cases within the Montgomery and Warren County Probate courts have declined within the last two years while Greene County Probate Court has seen an increase.

In 2007, the Montgomery County Probate Court finalized 243 adoptions compared to the 175 cases finalized last year and 164 so far this year. Warren County Probate Court finalized 84 cases in 2007 compared to 77 in 2008. Greene County Probate Court had 109 adoption cases in 2007 and 155 in 2008.

Marsha Linkhart, the Greene County court’s chief deputy clerk, could not explain the increase for Greene County, but it might be a temporary blip. The court has finalized just 95 adoptions this year, Linkhart said.

The 2009 adoption total for Montgomery County includes 10 cases that were finalized in Probate Court Judge Alice McCollum’s courtroom on Nov. 13 during National Adoption Day. McCollum blamed the economy for the declining numbers over the last couple of years. Ann Stevens, spokeswoman for the Montgomery County Children Services, agreed.

“It’s been really tough since the recession,” Stevens said. “Everybody’s family’s budget has been affected by the recession, so we’re not seeing as much interest as we would like … People don’t have disposable income.”

State subsidy cut

 

Adoptions have also been hurt because the state has reduced the adoption subsidy, McCollum said.

Brian Harter, public information officer for the state’s Department of Job and Family Services, said the monthly adoption subsidy has decreased from $300 per child to $240.

The state also changed the reimbursement of non-recurring adoption from $2,000 to $1,000 for a child with special needs, Harter said.

The Schranks received some financial help from the U.S. military and grants from adoption agencies. Their three international adoptions were done through Adoption Advocates International, based in Washington State.

“There is a tax benefit to this. Most of our adoption expenses will be covered via tax rebate,” Susan Schrank said.

Jeff Wagner, 49, and his wife Kate, 42, said costs associated with adoption and parenting in general were never factors when they decided to adopt their boys.

“I don’t think that either one of us thought we have to make sure that we can give these kids everything in the world before we decide that we wanted to adopt them,” Kate Wagner said. “We just wanted to make sure that they have the basics and that we could provide for them on that level.”

The Wagners decided to become foster parents after they found out they could not have children.

“We always wanted kids,” Jeff said.

Contact this reporter at (937) 225-2414 or kwynn@DaytonDailyNews.com.

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Adoption Insurance

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Adoption disruption insurance (ADI) is often referred to as adoption insurance. Again the insurance is to help families within the U.S. adopting domestically to recover certain qualifying expenses if an adoption is disrupted or falls through.

Adoption insurance may cover out of pocket costs such as delivery expenses, birth mother’s legal expenses, homestudy costs and/or travel expenses.

Many situations can cause an adoption to fall through, including a miscarriage, complicated legal issues, or simply the birth mother changes her mind and cancels her adoption plan.

It is important to review the adoption insurance policy regarding the coverage limits, conditions, limitations, warranties, and especially exclusions.

Most adoption insurance is only offered for adoptions that are handled by an approved adoption attorney or agency and for only the adoption of a child under the age of 2 years and within the United States.

If the adoptive parents decide not to go through with the adoption, the expenses are usually not covered. The coverage only applies if the birth parent changes her mind.

If the prospective adoptive parents live in a State that qualifies for adoption insurance, but adopt a child from another State, typically the policy will provide coverage as long as the policy was purchased by a resident of the State in which it was offered. Again, typically international adoptions are excluded.

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How to Avoid an Adoption Scam

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There are several things prospective adoptive parents can do to avoid getting scammed by an adoption agency, adoption attorney or a birth mother.

First and foremost, check out your resources very carefully and ask for references. Ask lots of questions. A good agency or attorney welcome tough questions. One of the best ways to minimize the risk of a scam is to have a good attorney involved who can protect your rights.

Try to have a face-to-face meeting with your birth mother. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words, but a meeting in person with a birth mother is priceless. You will learn a great deal just from meeting in person with your prospective birth mother.

One of the other things you can do is order a copy of the prenatal records. However, make sure you are ordering the prenatal records directly from the Obstetrician and not simply allowing the birth mother to order the prenatal records.

Finally, prospective adoptive parents can also ask the birth mother for a drug screen, a criminal background and employment check on the birth mother, along with checking her out on the internet, i.e. Facebook, MySpace and Twitter, to see exactly what type of person with whom you are dealing.

In the end, you have to go with your gut feelings. Your gut feelings are rarely wrong.

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Adoption: Birth Father Issues/Rights

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DO I HAVE TO CONTACT THE BIRTH FATHER? A birth mother is not required to identify the father or inform him of her pregnancy. Even if the father later finds out about the child, he only has a limited amount of time before the adoption takes place to challenge the finalization of the proceedings. As experienced adoption attorneys, we will guide you through the process and to make sure you understand the process and your options.

CUSTODY ISSUES AND FATHER’S RIGHTS: While birth mothers are not required to identify or notify the father of their child, a father can demand consideration by the court in cases where paternity can be established.

Just because a father demands custody of his unborn child does not mean that he will be awarded custody by the court. We will work with you and the prospective adoptive parents in making sure you have effective legal representation should a father attempt to assert custodial rights to your child.

PROTECTING YOUR RIGHTS: If you would like to pursue adoption for your child without creating legal complications with the father, please call us today to schedule a free consultation. We will explain what the law says, how you can protect your rights, and what can be done to avoid lengthy, complicated legal battles.

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Adoption is a Loving and Caring Choice

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It’s natural for a birth mother to have second thoughts. Making an adoption plan for a child instead of having an abortion gives a child a chance in life, to become the world’s next great athlete, scientist, artist, business leader, or even President of the United States, like President Gerald Ford. When birth mothers aren’t emotionally or financially ready to raise a child, placing them in a loving, caring home with every opportunity available the ultimate gift of life and love and the most unselfish decision a woman could ever make.

If you have questions or concerns, you can speak directly with Tommy Taneff or schedule a free consultation to discuss how we can help you. We’re here to help you.

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Adoption for Birth Parents: What Will My Child Think of Me One Day?

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It’s normal for birth mothers to wonder if some day their child will understand the adoption plan. In 20 years as adoption attorney, my experience is that as children begin to mature, they recognize the advantage they wouldn’t have had they not been adopted. Far from resenting their birth mothers, most adoptees express a strong sense of affection and respect for the courage and sacrifice by their mothers in giving them a better future in a loving, secure and stable family.

If you have concerns about how your child will react to being adopted, we provide free, confidential consultations and can introduce you to our counselors and past birth mothers and adoptive parents if you like. Our network of counselors can help birth mothers work through doubts about themselves, concerns for their child, and other common issues in an understanding, compassionate setting.

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What is “Open Adoption”?

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Openness refers to the amount of contact and information which birth mothers and adoptive parents are comfortable sharing. A completely open adoption might include the exchange of photographs, letters, phone calls, even occasional visits. A completely confidential/closed adoption is where neither the birth nor the adoptive parents know any identifying information about each other.

Most birth mothers first like to read about prospective adoptive parents, talk with them by telephone and then meet the prospective adoptive parents in person. Some birth mothers want the prospective adoptive parents to visit with them a few times during the pregnancy and even attend some prenatal appointments.

After the baby is born, most birth mothers want to receive photographs and letters on how the baby is doing.

We can tailor an arrangement that suits your needs. All adoptive parents are happy to provide letters and photographs letting you know how the child is doing. For birth mothers who prefer not to receive updates, we can hold any pictures or letters in our file, in case you later change your mind about receiving them.

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Psychological Consequences of Abortion

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Some experts claim little, if any, effect is experienced, others disagree. See, the following website: www.afterabortion.info/psychol.html. Regardless of whether women experience psychological problems or not, many do. These can include depression, feelings of suicide, eating disorders, sexual dysfunction, and many other problems. Abortion can change a woman’s life forever. Abortion will not change the fact that you were pregnant. It is incredibly unselfish in allowing a family unable to have a child the chance to experience parenthood.

ADOPTION: IS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE: It is the most loving, caring and unselfish thing anyone could ever do. You have the opportunity to go on to college and complete your education, even becoming a mother again when the time was right.

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Adoption: How Are Adoptive Parents Pre-approved?

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We work closely with Court Investigators, Social Workers, and other Professionals in carefully screening prospective parents. We do thorough interviews with prospective adoptive parents to make sure they understand the love, care, and patience children need. We conduct periodic follow-ups to make sure everything is going well and provide birth mothers with updates.

We require prospective adoptive parents to undergo the following:

 

  • Criminal background check
  • Child abuse clearance
  • Financial disclosure assessments
  • Fire Inspection
  • Safety Audit
  • Medical examinations
  • Counseling
  • Home study conducted by a Court Investigator
  • Post-placement supervisory visits

 

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Adoption: Choosing Your Parents

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If there are specific qualities or attributes you are looking for in prospective adoptive parents – for instance, someone of the same faith or background as you, a stay-at-home mom, other children (or not), and etc. – we will do everything in our power to find the perfect match. No arrangements will be made unless you are completely satisfied.

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Adoption: How are Couples Chosen?

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We provide birth mothers with profiles of prospective adoptive parents who have been carefully screened and investigated. If a birth mother has any specific requirements of qualities she is looking for in prospective adoptive parents, we will do everything possible to find your perfect parents. In addition to providing a Profile/Lifebook with written information and photos about prospective adoptive parents, we can also arrange for the birth parent to talk by telephone or meet in person the prospective adoptive parents, to satisfy herself that she has the right family for her baby.

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Advantages of Adoption – For the Birth Mother, Child and Adoptive Parents

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  • A child gets a loving, caring home and a chance for a bright future
  • An unborn child gets a chance to live
  • Birth mothers incur no costs or expenses
  • Allows childless couple to raise the child they always wanted
  • The child gets a quality of life that birth mother may not be able to provide
  • Gives birth mothers a chance to realize their own potential by going/finishing school, having a chance to be young and free of parental responsibilities

I believe in working one-on-one with prospective birth mothers. Not only before the adoption but years later.

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Adoption: Helping a Pregnant Friend – Healthcare and Social Workers

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     Prospective birth parents can feel scared, confused and angry when they learn they are pregnant. If you have a friend who is struggling with her pregnancy, or if you are a social worker, healthcare provider, or counselor and know of a pregnant woman who is confused and looking for answers, referring her to our office is an easy way for her to get information and assistance, all free of charge. We will meet one-on-one with prospective birth parents to go over all options.

     For 20 years, I have helped prospective birth mothers find loving, caring parents for their children. Before considering an option like abortion, you can help your friend see how adoption might be a better solution, while allowing her to rest assured that her precious baby receives a loving home and bright future.

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Adoption Myths

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Myth 1: Adoptive Parents are Abusive: Adoptive parents are far less likely to mistreat their children than biological parents. Adoptive parents have to have criminal background checks and child abuse clearance, financial disclosures, medical examinations and court required home studies. Children who are adopted are assured of safe, secure, loving and caring homes.

 

Myth 2: Adopted Children Hate Their Birth Parents: In my 20 years of experience, this is the fear most often heard from birth parents. As an adoption attorney, I know this is completely untrue. Adopted children realize as they mature the sacrifice their mothers made. Many realize their mothers could have aborted or kept them in an unhealthy living environment. Once they realize the opportunities they’ve enjoyed and the security and love given to them by their adoptive parents, they respect and love their birth mothers for their courageous and unselfish act.

 

Myth 3: Adopted Children are not Well Adjusted: This is false. Most adopted children have questions about their heritage and where they come from, but this doesn’t prevent them from living happy, successful and fulfilling lives. This is why we encourage birth parents to put together a diary and or scrapbook to pass on to their child. As time goes by, myth, mystery and misinformation develop.

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Can I Adopt an Adult?

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 Adoption is commonly portrayed as an adult adopting a child.  But, in many states adults are permitted to adopt other adults.  Ohio law permits adults to be adopted under the following conditions:

· If the adult is totally and permanently disabled;
· If the adult is determined to be a mentally retarded person;
· If the adult had established a child-foster caregiver or child-stepparent relationship with the petitioners as a minor, and the adult consents to the adoption;
· If the adult was, at the time of the adult’s eighteenth birthday, in the permanent custody of a pubic children services agency or a private child placing agency, and the adult consents to the adoption.

 The policies behind these conditions favor care of adults who are unable to care for themselves and permanency for children who have experienced divorce and separation or who have grown up in the child welfare system of our state.  A child may be prevented by a biological parent from being adopted by a stepparent who they consider to be their mother or father.  Upon adulthood, however, this child can make the decision to legally recognize their stepparent as their parent.  There are also many children who are never placed in an adoptive home before reaching the age of 18.  The law provides for these children who are not legally available for adoption as a child to be adopted upon adulthood by their foster parent. 

 For all intents and purposes the law does not create new relationships between the two adults but rather appreciates the existing bond of parent and child.  The law permits adult adoption to recognize these important relationships and provide permanent families for these individuals.  These adoptions are just as exciting and comforting to families as child adoptions, particularly where the adoptee has not had the opportunity to experience the joy of a permanent family during their childhood.

 Adoption is not a means to an end.  The focus of adult adoption should never be financial gain but the promotion of security, acceptance and love for adult children.  Adult adoption in Ohio supports these tenements amongst families who care for adults that cannot care for themselves and families that continue to love and care for children who were not born to them.  This unique balance supports individuals through a lifetime and protects and promotes families in the State of Ohio.

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What Happens to the Baby During the Adoption Process?

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How long does it take to have an adoption completed after the child’s birth?
A legal placement of the child cannot take place until 72 hours after the birth of the child. The placement hearing usually takes 30 to 45 minutes. The child may wait in the hospital during that 72 hours or the birth mother may arrange for an early release with the prospective adoptive parents. Foster care is usually a last resort.

What happens if the baby is born with birth defects and the adoptive parents change their mind?
Birth parents should discuss this possibility and come to some agreement with the prospective adoptive parents before the baby is born. If the adoptive parents change their minds, the birth mother should have an alternative plan or perhaps a back-up adoptive couple. The birth mother is responsible until she can find an adoptive couple. In some cases, an agency may take over and keep the baby until a couple can be found. If the baby dies, the birth parent would be responsible for the baby’s expenses and for decisions about medical treatment and life support issues before adoption is finalized.

Why do some babies go into foster care before they go to adoptive parents?
Some babies got into foster care because birth parents need more time to think about their decision. Sometimes adoption agencies place babies into foster care so that they can have more time to terminate birth parents’ rights.

If the child were to go into foster care, how long would he or she be there?
When a private attorney handles the adoption, the child usually does not go into foster care unless the birth parent wishes. Generally, with attorney-handled adoptions, the child is placed as soon as possible after 72 hours have passed. Agencies are also eager to place the child as soon as possible, but may require more time to terminate the birth parents’ rights. Some agency adoptions may take 30 to 45 days. If there is no alternative, the child may be placed in foster care for that length of time until the child can be placed with adoptive parents.

If the child’s adoptive parents are suddenly killed not long after the child is placed but before the adoption has been finalized, who would be responsible for raising the child?
If the adoption has not been finalized, the birth parents may be contacted and offered the option of parenting the child, but the birth parents are not obligated to do so. When a birth parent places a child with an agency, the agency “holds title” to the child until an adoption is finalized. If the adoptive couple is suddenly killed before the adoption is finalized, the agency may simply choose another adoptive couple to care for the child. The agency does not have to consult with or get the birth parents’ permission again.

If the adoption has been finalized before the adoptive parents are killed, then, in the eyes of the law, the child would be treated as any other child whose parents have died, and would be cared for according to the wishes of the adoptive parents as set down in a Will. If there is no Will, any adult family member or relative could become the guardian of the child.

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What Birth Parents Should Know About the Adoption Process

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Do the birth parents choose the adoptive couple for their child?
Yes. Birth parents are responsible for choosing the adoptive couple, or the attorney or agency handling the adoption could assist them.

What happens if the birth father opposes the adoption?
The birth father first must register with the Ohio Putative Father Registry that is maintained by the Ohio Department of Job and Family Services within 30 days after the birth of the child. Also, he must file a formal objection to the adoption in court and be prepared to offer an alternative parenting plan. The birth father should hire an attorney to represent him.

What if the grandparents (parents of a birth parent) oppose the adoption?
The child’s grandparents cannot prevent a birth parent from following through with an adoption plan, even if the birth parent is a minor.

Do a minor birth parent’s parents have to sign papers in order for the birth parent to place the child for adoption?
No. However, some courts may require parental consent as a policy if the birth parent is 12 years old or younger. Otherwise, the consent of a minor in adoption cases is treated as though it were made by an adult under Ohio law.

Will the birth parent have to go to court to sign adoption placement papers?
Not necessarily. If the adoption is being handled by a private attorney, the papers must be signed in the presence of a probate court judge or magistrate. Because the court understands that adoption can be a very traumatic experience especially after having given birth, judges and magistrates handle the situation and questioning with empathy and compassion. On a rare occasion, the judge or magistrate will go to the hospital.

Otherwise, the court will wait until the birth parent is discharged from the hospital. The birth parent will have an attorney who can explain birth parents’ rights, and the probate court judge or magistrate can also provide explanations. With agency placements, the signing of adoption papers generally takes place at the agency office, but may take place in probate court as an extra precaution. Because adoption is such an important and permanent decision, it is highly desirable for an attorney to be involved when the birth parents sign the adoption papers, regardless of where the papers are signed.

If the birth parent goes to court, when will this take place?
A birth parent goes to court to sign the papers no sooner than 72 hours after the birth of the child and after having met with a social worker or assessor. If it’s an agency adoption, the birth parent may sign the papers at the agency office. It may be more prudent, however, to go through the court where a judge or magistrate is available to answer any legal questions the birth parent may have before the papers are signed.

Once a birth parent signs the adoption papers, can she change her mind?
A birth parent can try to withdraw consent to the adoption before the Interlocutory Order (usually 30-45 days after the child is placed in the adoptive home) or before the Final Decree goes into effect, which is six months after placement. To exercise this right to withdraw consent, a birth parent must present clear and convincing evidence that the “best interests of the child” have changed. A birth parent may also contest the adoption within one year after the Final Decree, if the birth parent can show that the adoption placement was based on “gross error or fraud.” However, attempts to withdraw consent or to contest an adoption are almost never successful.

Will the birth mother be able to see the baby in the hospital and/or visit with the baby elsewhere before signing the adoption papers?
Yes. The birth mother may see her baby as much as she wishes while the baby is in the hospital. She may also visit the child, wherever the child is, as much as she wishes before signing the papers.

Are the birth father, grandparents, etc., allowed to see the baby?
Yes, but only if the birth mother wishes. Before the papers are signed, only the mother has legal rights, not the father.

Can a birth parent name the baby, and will the adoptive parents keep that name?
A birth parent may name the baby on the original birth certificate, and a birth parent has a right to receive a copy of the original birth certificate. However, the adoptive parents are not required to keep the same name. The birth mother may allow the birth father to sign the original birth certificate and participate in naming the child.

May a birth parent have a picture of her baby?
The birth parent may order the hospital portraits. Also, adoptive parents are encouraged to provide status letters and photos to birth parents on a regular basis. However, Ohio law cannot force them to do so.

What may a birth parent send with the child (gifts, letters, books, etc.) and can the birth parent have the assurance that the child will receive these items?
Birth parents may pass such items to the adoptive couple through the adoption attorney or agency, although they cannot force adoptive parents to pass them along to the child. The birth parents may put together a scrap book with the birth family pictures to pass on to the child.

How long does it take to have an adoption completed after the child’s birth?
A legal placement of the child cannot take place until 72 hours after the birth of the child. The placement hearing usually takes 30 to 45 minutes.

What if the adoptive parents are from one state, but the birth parents are from another state?
Adoption attorneys as well as adoption agencies must obtain proper approval from the Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children. Make sure your attorney is skilled in interstate adoptions. Check with your local bar association for a referral, and ask the attorney about the number and frequency of the interstate adoptions he or she has handled.

Who pays for the birth parent’s medical costs?
All medical costs are completely covered by the adoptive parents whether through an agency or a private attorney. The birth mother’s or adoptive parents’ insurance may be used if available.

What expenses are allowed to be paid by the adoptive parents?
Under Ohio law, only the following expenses can be paid: medical expenses; counseling; attorney fees; and court costs. Gifts and/or incentives are illegal and cannot be provided.

What should birth parents know when working with a private adoption agency?
Birth parents who choose to work with a private adoption agency should understand that private agencies take the birth parents’ consent and permanent surrender of the child outside of court. Usually, the surrender takes place at the agency office, and often no attorneys are present. If no one is representing the birth parents or the adoptive parents, and no judge is overseeing the adoption process, problems may occur and the adoption may be overturned. To reduce this risk when working through a private agency, birth parents should take care to choose the agency wisely and make sure they have attorney representation.

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Reform Bill changes Adoption Law in Ohio

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A law which became effective in March 1996 (House Bill 419) changed the way adoptions are handled in this state. Two significant changes have to do with: 1) decreasing the amount of time a child must wait for an adoptive home, and 2) providing information about adopted children.

How have these changes helped to decrease the amount of time a child waits for adoption?
Before the new law went into effect, courts often found a child to be “dependent” on the state, but did not explain the reason. Since the reason was unclear, extra time had to be spent in finding appropriate placements for children. Now, if a court finds the child to be dependent, the court must give a reason.

An agency once had to wait six months to file a motion for permanent custody of a dependent, abused, neglected, unruly or delinquent child who had been in its temporary custody. Since House Bill 419 was signed into law, the agency no longer has to wait six months, but may file at any time. Since an agency must have permanent custody of a child before that child can be placed for adoption, the total time spent waiting for adoption can be decreased.

Juvenile courts must now decide how to deal with motions for permanent custody and record their decisions within 200 days of the time the motions were filed. Before, there was no requirement for permanent custody matters to be heard in court within a certain time frame.

A six-month waiting period is required before an adoption can be finalized. Now, if a child is being adopted by a foster parent or relative with whom he or she has already been living, then the time the child has spent in foster care applies toward the six-month waiting period.

Who is allowed to have adoption information?
House Bill 419 allows the adoptee, adoptive parents, and the birth parents to receive “non-identifying” information from an agency, probate court, or an attorney. (Non-identifying information might include a first name and some background or medical details, but would not include a last name, address, phone number, or Social Security number).

Also, agencies and attorneys are now permitted to review their own adoption files for administrative purposes, without having to obtain a court order.

At the time a child is surrendered for adoption, the birth parent may complete a form developed by Human Services to allow identifying information to be released to the adoptive child. This information is kept at the Health Department, and the birth parent may file a form as often as she wishes stating whether or not identifying information should be released to the child.

The Health Department may now help a birth parent to find an adopted child after that adoptee has reached 25 years of age if the child asks the Health Department to assist the birth parent.

Birth parents who have had their parental rights terminated by a juvenile court because of abuse or neglect may not receive identifying information about a birth child through the Health Department.

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Probate Court Screens Prospective Parents in Private Adoptions

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We are interested in adopting a child, and understand the court must approve us first. What requirements must we meet?
In many Ohio counties, the probate court will conduct a home study in order to investigate and approve prospective adoptive parents. (This may be handled by the probate court in your residential county or that of the birth parent, or the county of the licensed adoption agency in the case of an agency adoption.) In some counties, the probate court may authorize an agency to handle the investigative home study.

What’s the first step in the home study process?
You must complete a Pre-placement Application and list five references. These individuals should be unrelated and capable of expressing opinions about your ability to be adoptive parents. The completed application should be signed only in the presence of a notary public. You should also collect five letters of recommendation, preferably from individuals not listed on the Pre-placement Application. These letters should provide information such as how long the references have known you, why you would make good parents, and how you relate to children.

Must we have a medical exam?
Yes. The probate court requires you, your spouse, and any other household members to have had physical exams within the past year (from the time the pre-placement application is filed). Every adult and child in your household must obtain either a letter or completed medical form from a physician regarding his or her health or undergo a physical exam.

Does Ohio law require us to have a criminal background check?
Yes, for you, your spouse and any other adult household member. The Bureau of Criminal Identification and Investigation (BCII) requires that all requests for Ohio civilian background checks be submitted electronically through the use of WebCheck or other approved methods. It will take approximately 30 days to get results. You may go to the location nearest you to have your fingerprints scanned. These locations are listed by county on the Ohio Attorney General’s Web site at: http://www.webcheck.ag.state.oh.us/webcheckcommunity.htm.

Does the court require any other documentation?
Yes. You also must complete a Residency Certification form, stating the length of time you have lived in Ohio. Your attorney or agency representative must file this form, as well as the other documentation mentioned above, with the probate court. The court social worker will review the documents and then contact you to arrange a home study.

My spouse and I have lived in Ohio for only a year. Will we need more than an Ohio criminal background check?
Yes. If you or any of your adult household members have lived in Ohio for less than five years, you must also undergo a national criminal background search by the Federal Bureau of Investigation. Contact the BCII to obtain FBI fingerprint cards, have your local police station fingerprint you, then send a check for $24 per search and the fingerprint cards to the BCII. The BCII will, in turn, send the cards to the FBI, and will send the results to your attorney or agency when they are returned from the FBI. The BCII will then return all your reports to your attorney or agency representative in approximately six to eight weeks.

What kinds of criminal convictions might keep us from adopting a child?
Convictions for felonies, drug offenses, or sex-related charges may keep you from adopting a child, even if these convictions have been expunged.

What happens during the home study?
The court social worker will conduct a personal interview with you and your spouse and/or other household members and review your pre-placement application to determine whether you meet the minimum standards established under Ohio law to provide a suitable home for a child.

Is there a follow-up home visit?
Yes. The court social worker will return to interview the family after the child is placed in the home in order to determine whether finalizing the adoption is in the child’s best interests.

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Adoptions Raise “Right to Know” Questions

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What is an adoptive family allowed to know about the birth parents?
In Ohio, the adoptive family may obtain any “non-identifying” social or medical history including biographical information about both the child’s parents. (Non-identifying information might include a first name and some background or medical details, but would not include a last name, address, phone number, or Social Security number.) “Identifying” information about the birth parents can be provided to the adoptive parents only if agreed upon between the parties. Such information can be provided to the adoptive parents by the birth parents themselves, or by the agency or attorney handling the adoption.

How much can a birth parent know about adoptive parents, such as occupation, age, how long the couple has been waiting for a child, why the wait, etc.?
The birth parent may ask these questions, and adoptive parents can provide as much non-identifying or identifying information as they find personally acceptable, but they are not legally obligated to provide any information.

May a birth parent choose an adoptive couple based upon their religious affiliation?
A birth parent may review prospective adoptive couples and may select a couple based on religious affiliation. The birth parent can hope that the child is raised in a religious environment, but the law cannot force adoptive parents to practice a certain faith.

What is an open adoption?
An open adoption is one where all parties have complete identifying information about one another. Birth parents and adoptive parents must agree to the open adoption; none of the parties can be forced to provide complete information. A semi-open adoption involves an exchange of non-identifying information.

Can a birth parent ask that the adoptive files be sealed?
Adoption records are automatically sealed until the adopted child reaches the age of 21. Birth parents can refuse to allow adoption information to be released, or they can file a Release of Information allowing the records to be opened when the child reaches adulthood. If the adopted child is between 18 and 21 years of age, the information is released, upon request, to the adoptive parent. If the adopted child is 21 years of age or older, the information is released to the adopted child directly. It is always possible that new legislation might change the age restriction, so birth parents should keep abreast of the current laws.

Will the adopted child be able to get information about the birth parent from the adoptive parents?
Yes, if the adoptive parents choose to share this information. Otherwise the child may have to wait until he or she is 21 years of age and the birth parents have filed a release with the Bureau of Vital Statistics.

What, exactly, does the birth parent’s adoption file contain and who has access to it?
Generally, the file contains a copy of all social/medical information and legal pleadings. Only the attorney or agency handling the adoption and the birth parent have access to the file.

If an adopted child decides, at some point, to search for the birth parent, will the adoption agency or attorney contact the birth parent before the child does?
This can be done if the birth parent wishes. The birth parent should make this wish known to the adoption agency or attorney.

May a birth parent write the adoptive parents a letter explaining the reasons for placing the child for adoption, and will the birth parent be assured that the adoptive couple will receive and read it, and share it with the child at an appropriate time?
A birth parent may write such a letter, and hope that the adoptive parents will share the letter with the child. While adoptive parents cannot be forced to read such a letter or share it with the child, they may appreciate the option.

Will the adopted child be able to find the birth parent if he/she decides to search?
Usually, the child will only be able to find a birth parent who wants to be found. Under current Ohio law, birth parents must file a Release of Information with the Bureau of Vital Statistics, where they can indicate whether or not they want identifying information to be released.

I was adopted many years ago and now have children of my own. One of my children recently needed medical attention and I was required to provide medical history on my parents. How can I obtain my family medical history? I have no desire to know identifying information regarding my birth parents.
Contact the attorney, agency or probate court in the county where the adoption was finalized.

Can adoptive parents force a birth parent to disclose information under any circumstance?
Adoptive parents can force a birth parent to disclose information only with a court order stating that obtaining this information is medically necessary and in the child’s best interest.

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Law Standardizes Ohio Adoptions

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Ohio House Bill 419, signed into law in March 1996, has resulted in many changes in adoption procedures. In addition to shortening the time a child must wait to be adopted and making adoption information more accessible, the law attempts to make adoptions safer and to standardize the way adoptions are handled across the state.

What has been done to increase safety and standardize adoptions in Ohio?

Many changes have been made, including the following:

  1. No training or experience had been required for those who conducted home studies to “check out” potential adoptive families. Now the law identifies who can conduct a home study and requires that these individuals be trained. In addition, a uniform home study process must be used for all adoptions in Ohio.
  2. Before the new law was adopted, there was no requirement that birth parents receive information while they are making a decision about giving up their child for adoption. Now, birth parents must receive information about Ohio’s adoption laws, the adoption process, and must have access to counseling 72 hours before signing the surrender or consent for adoption.
  3. Birth parents are required to appear before probate court when voluntarily surrendering their children for adoption through a private attorney.
  4. While there had been no listing of the factors to be considered when a court makes an adoption decision based on the “best interest of the child,” H.B. 419 provides a list of factors. Also, the court is now allowed to make a determination about what is in the best interest of the child in cases of contested adoptions.
  5. The law also requires that an adoption petition must now be filed with the court within 90 days of a child’s placement in an adoptive home.
  6. Before, instances in which a child is conceived through an act of rape had not been addressed. The new law states that, if the child was conceived by rape, the father’s or the “putative” (presumed) father’s consent for the child’s adoption does not have to be obtained if he has been convicted of or has pled guilty to rape.
  7. More common instances in which the birth mother simply does not know the whereabouts of the putative father are also addressed by the law. While there had been no set procedure for informing a man about the possible adoption of his natural child, the law now requires that a Putative Father Registry be established.

    A man who has reason to believe he may become or may already be the father of a child can add his name to the Putative Father Registry, which is confidential and not open to the public. When an adoption involves a putative father, the Registry is checked and the father can be located in this way to obtain consent for adoption. If the father adds his name to the Registry up to 30 days after the birth of his child, his consent must be obtained unless the Probate Court finds he has willfully abandoned or failed to care for and support the child. If the father does not register, his consent for adoption is not required.

  8. A separate attorney must represent the birth parents and the adoptive parents in adoptive proceedings.
  9. The new law requires the Ohio Department of Human Services to develop a standardized definition of a “special needs” child which applies to all Ohio adoptions. Before, each county operated under its own definition.
  10. While there had been no clear state policy on “open” adoption, the new law defines open adoptions as strictly voluntary adoption agreements which are not enforceable and from which parties may withdraw at any time. With this new clarification in Ohio law, Ohio adoptive couples are losing fewer birth parents who might previously have chosen to place their children in out-of-state homes to obtain more open adoption options.
  11. Birth parents must now be given copies of everything they sign having to do with surrendering their children for adoption.

What is an open adoption agreement?
Open adoption allows the birth parents to receive status letters and pictures on the progress of the adopted child. Some agreements even arrange for visits or phone calls. All of these agreements are purely voluntary and legally unenforceable.

What may be paid for or provided for birth parents?
Medical expenses, counseling, court costs and attorney fees. Everything must be approved by the Probate Court. Gifts or incentives are illegal and cannot be provided.

What are the birth parents’ rights or options if they change their minds and choose not to place their child for adoption?
Birth parents may change their minds prior to signing a consent to adopt (usually signed 72 hours after birth). They may opt instead for single parenting, or for giving a suitable adult guardianship or legal custody of the child, or for filing a parentage action in order to establish paternity and support obligations.

Can a birth parent name the baby on the original birth certificate?
Yes, the birth mother may do so, but after the adoption is finalized, the original birth certificate is sealed by the Bureau of Vital Statistics and can only be opened by court order. The birth father may add his name to the original birth certificate if the birth mother allows it. If the mother refuses and the father wishes to pursue the matter, he would have to initiate a Court action. A new birth certificate is created for the adoptive parents with the child’s new name. On occasion, the adoptive parents may agree to use the name chosen by the birth parents.

(Law You Can Use is a weekly consumer legal information column provided by the Ohio State Bar Association and the Ohio State Bar Foundation. This article was prepared by Thomas N. Taneff, a Columbus attorney who concentrates his practice in the area of adoption law and has served on the Ohio Adoption Commission. Articles appearing in this column are intended to provide broad, general information about the law. Before applying this information to a specific legal problem, readers are urged to seek advice from an attorney.)

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Parents May Network To Find Child Available for Adoption

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We have a neighbor whose daughter would like us to adopt her baby when he or she is born. Can we adopt her child, or must we go through an agency to find a child?
Until recently, it was unclear whether or not Ohio law allowed the kind of “open” adoption you describe. Now, however, the law clearly allows you to adopt her child. Although you do not have to go through an agency to identify a child who is available for adoption, you must go through the court in order to make an adoption legal. It is wise to consult an attorney when going through this process.

Friends of ours want to advertise in the newspaper for a child. Can they do this?
No. No one who is not certified by the Department of Job and Family Services may buy advertising for adoption purposes, nor may a person offer money or other inducements to parents to part with their children, or in any way knowingly become a party to the separation of a child from its parents or guardians, except through a juvenile court or probate court commitment. Whoever violates this law may be found guilty of a first-degree misdemeanor, which is a criminal offense.

What are our friends allowed to do to find potential birth parents?
Ohio law allows “targeted” or “identified” adoption referrals. For example, your friends may know a doctor, lawyer, clergy person, counselor, or other person who has learned about a birth mother seeking to place a child for adoption. Your friends may be able to adopt such a child. Keep in mind, however, that the birth parent may choose other adoptive parents. The birth parent’s wishes should be respected.

Another option for your friends is to network for adoption possibilities. For example, they may send letters, post-cards or e-mails to family, friends, and co-workers, letting them know of their interest in adoption, and asking informally for referrals, and encouraging them to pass the word.

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Ohio Law Permits Adult Adoptions

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I just learned that it is possible to adopt an adult. Under what circumstances is this done in Ohio?
There are several reasons why adult adoptions may be undertaken. The most common reason is to formally and legally recognize an existing parent/child-like relationship. Among the benefits of a formal adoption is the ability of the adopted person to inherit from the adoptive parent. An adult adoption also may be used to provide protection for a person of diminished capacity or abilities. Once adopted as a legal family member, such an individual may then be assured of lifetime care under family insurance, or through inheritance. Finally, a stepparent-stepchild relationship can be formalized through an adult adoption.

Does every state allow adult adoptions? What does Ohio law say about adult adoptions?
Adult adoption is handled differently in every state. Some states only allow for adult adoptions if the person to be adopted is of diminished capacity. Other states require a spouse’s consent if the person to be adopted is married. Some states require only the consent of the adult parties involved, while other states, like Michigan and Nebraska, forbid adult adoption entirely.

Ohio law allows adults who are totally and permanently disabled or mentally retarded to be adopted. In addition, Ohio law permits adult adoption for any adult who has established a relationship with adoptive parents through a child-foster caregiver or child-stepparent relationship as a minor, assuming the adult child consents to the adoption. Generally, an adult may be adopted only if a child/foster-parent relationship was established when the person to be adopted (”adoptee”) was a minor child. If, however, the adoptee is totally and permanently disabled or determined to be mentally retarded, an exception may be made, assuming the relationship between the prospective adoptive parent and the adoptee can be shown to be a nurturing, parent/child type of relationship.

Does the procedure for adopting an adult differ from the procedure for adopting a minor child?
When adopting an adult, the prospective adoptive parent must prepare, sign and file a petition with the probate court. The court will then set a date for a final hearing, at which time it will make a determination about whether the adoption serves the best interests of the adoptee. Assuming the court approves the adoption, the court will order a new birth certificate for the adoptee.

Unlike the procedure used for the adoption of a minor child, the court generally will not require a home study in the case of an adult adoption; also, no waiting period is required before an adult adoption can be finalized.

What does the court consider before granting an adult adoption in Ohio?
Before granting an adult adoption in Ohio, the court must determine whether a child/foster-parent relationship existed while the person to be adopted was still a minor. To make such a determination, the court will look at the types of nurturing that was provided to the child, including the provision of emotional and financial support, food, shelter, discipline, guidance, education, religious training, medical care and love and affection.

Are adult adoptions permanent?
Yes. When a minor child is adopted, the changes that result are permanent. The same can be said for an adult adoption. As in any adoption, the existing relationship with the biological parents is severed. An adult adoption creates a new parent-child relationship. A new birth certificate is issued for the adopted person, showing the adoptive parents as the legal, birth parents. The last name of the adopted person also may be changed to that of the adoptive parents. The record involved in an adult adoption will be sealed according to the state’s laws, even though the parties involved are adults and are aware of the family details.

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Insurance May Cover Medical Expenses in Adoption

We are planning to adopt a child. Might the baby’s or birth mother’s prenatal or hospital expenses be covered by insurance?
Possibly. You should consider the following sources in determining whether or not the baby and/or birth mother will be covered by some form of insurance, including:

  • the birth mother’s insurance if she is employed;
  • the birth mother’s parents’ insurance if the birth mother is a minor or a student;
  • the birth mother’s Aid to Dependent Children (ADC) coverage, if the birth mother is indigent;
  • the child’s ADC coverage, if applicable (if the child is the ward of an agency and adoption is “targeted”);
  • the birth mother’s Healthy Start coverage, if the birth mother’s income is low;
  • your own health insurance, if your employer is covered by the Section 609 of the Employee Retirement Income Security Act (ERISA);
  • your employer’s benefit programs, if they have adoption benefits;
  • your 401K plan.

We think our insurance policy covers adopted children, but what about coverage for medical expenses before the adoption is finalized?
Most insurance policies provide coverage that goes into effect as of the date of the child’s placement with the adoptive parents. However, you should ask your insurance company whether coverage begins at birth or at placement. Insurance coverage for adopted children should cover all pre-existing conditions as of the date of placement. You should obtain verification of coverage in writing.

I understand the birth parent may be covered by Medicaid. Is that possible?
Yes. However, in some cases, the Department of Job and Family Services has denied or refused to cover expenses for a child placed for adoption. Also, hospitals have, in some cases, declined to accept Medicaid payment for adoption expenses. The theory behind these denials is that it is unfair to obligate Ohio taxpayers to pay for medical expenses associated with adoption. The reality, however, is that the hospital only gets paid at Medicaid rates.

How does coverage under ERISA work?
Any group health insurance plan that provides coverage for the dependent children of plan participants must also provide benefits to adopted children under the same terms and conditions that would apply to biological children. Coverage begins at the time of placement, which is defined as the time the prospective adoptive parents become financially responsible for the child. According to Ohio law, financial responsibility may begin at birth if an agreement to adopt the child exists. The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPAA) amended ERISA so that coverage no longer excludes government employees, but is now available to all adoptive families covered by group health plans as soon as those families assume financial responsibility for their adopted children. Group plans also must give employees the option of enrolling adopted children in the plans immediately, instead of waiting for an open enrollment period.

Might the birth parent be stuck with medical costs even though the baby is being placed for adoption?
On rare occasions, such as when an adoption opportunity comes up suddenly or unexpectedly, adoptive parents may receive a child before they have arranged for coverage of medical or legal costs by signing a fee agreement or posting a retainer (deposit) with their attorney. If, after receiving the child, the adoptive couple fails to pay these costs, creditors may begin trying to collect from the birth mother. If such a situation occurs, the birth parent’s attorney may advise her to consider other options, such as keeping the child or looking for another couple, if things cannot be worked out with the adoptive couple. Many probate courts will require the adoptive parents to pay for and be responsible for all of the adoptive child’s medical bills as well as those of the birth mother out of their own pockets because the birth mother is not a dependent of the adoptive parents and would not, therefore, be covered by their insurance.

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Demystifying International Adoptions

What countries most commonly provide children for adoption by prospective parents from the United States?
The top three countries are China, Russia, and Guatemala, followed by Korea, Kazakhstan, and Ukraine.

How long is the international adoption process from start to finish?
The process can take anywhere from six months to two or more years, depending upon the particular country and upon the time clients take to gather the paperwork, time for referral of a child from the other country and the length of stay in other country. Also, countries can arbitrarily stop the adoption process, which adds unexpected wait time.

What must prospective adoptive parents do to adopt a child from another country?
The adoption must be approved at the state level (through a home study), at the federal level by the U.S. Immigration Office, and at the international level by the other country. Many of the same documents are needed for each level of approval, including: marriage certificate, divorce decree, current income tax return, employer letter, reference letter, local criminal record check, birth certificate, financial statements, fingerprints, medical reports, fire inspection report and child abuse clearance. The documents are compiled into a “dossier,” authenticated and translated, and then sent to the other country for approval.

Must the adopting parents travel to the child’s birth country and, if so, how long must they stay?
In most cases the adoptive parents must travel to the foreign country to adopt.

Depending upon the country, the length of stay varies. For example, China is a one-trip process that usually takes two weeks, while the one-trip stay in Guatemala may last from three days to two months, and the stay in Brazil is generally one month. Russia requires a two-trip process – an initial one-week trip and a second trip of ten days to two weeks.

How much does an international adoption cost?
Cost varies greatly, from about $11,000 to $32,000, which includes costs of dossier preparation, home study, U.S. Immigration application, agency and program costs and travel.

Are there any programs to help with the costs of an international adoption?
If your adjusted gross income is $155,860 or lower, the federal government allows you to subtract $10,930 of the adoption expenses per child from your total federal tax liability. This adoption tax credit is reduced for those with incomes of $155,860 to $195,860 and eliminated for those with incomes of more than $195,860. In addition to the federal tax credit, Ohio allows a one-time credit of $500 per child, with no income limit. Employers frequently offer help with adoption expenses, and adoption grants and loans also may be available (visit www.angelfire.com for information).

Are there any restrictions on the age and marital status of the adopting parents?
Yes, and they vary. For example, China requires the parents to be between the ages of 30 and 50, without history of cancer or serious illness, and single parent adoptions are restricted. Russia allows adoptions between the ages of 25 and 60; single women are permitted to adopt, but not single men. Single women, as well as single men, may adopt children from Guatemala and Brazil.

How do U.S. families learn about children who are available for international adoption?
First, officials in the other country usually match the child’s specific characteristics and needs with a family that has requested and been approved for those characteristics and needs. Then, the other county (e.g., China, Guatemala and Brazil) will send a photo or a video with medical information for the American family to review and approve before traveling to the other country. Since 2000, Russia law has forbidden any adoptive family from receiving information about a child until after the family has made an initial visit to Russia.

What is the legal status of the adopted child upon return to the United States?
Any child adopted legally by a U.S. citizen, and who lives permanently in the United States, automatically becomes a full (not just naturalized) U.S. citizen. Therefore, the child need not be re-adopted once the family returns to the United States.

Though citizenship is automatic, the family still must file the appropriate form with the U.S. Immigration in order to get proof of citizenship. Then, to get an official U.S. birth certificate for the child, the family must complete and file a simple form with the probate court in the jurisdiction where the family lives.

Can an international adoption be contested?
It is possible, but very unlikely that anyone will contest an international adoption. The United States will not qualify a child for entry into this country with only the consent of a birth parent. Rather, the child must be a “true orphan,” and must have both parents’ death certificates or proof that parental rights have been terminated.

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