What is Gestational Surrogacy?

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Almost every surrogacy procedure is a gestational surrogacy procedure. In this type, a surrogate carries a child that was conceived using eggs and sperm from a couple or from donor eggs and sperm.

In traditional surrogacy the surrogate carrier’s own egg is used and combined with sperm from the male partner through intrauterine insemination (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF). In this case, the surrogate is biologically related to the child.

In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate is not biologically related to the child. Gestational surrogacy is considered less risky since the child she is carrying is not biologically related.

To protect the rights of all parties, a contract must be drawn up before beginning the surrogacy process. The couple will pay the surrogate a fee that is agreed upon before the procedure begins. The couple may also pay for preparation, screenings, pregnancy related expenses, medical expenses, agency fees, delivery fees, etc.

The ideal surrogate has had her own child or children and should be an adult. Using a surrogate that has had a child shows she is capable of carrying a child to term and lessens the chances of the surrogate becoming emotionally attached to the child. In order to find a surrogate, many couples consult fertility clinics, websites, lawyers, or other agencies.

When choosing an attorney to assist with a surrogacy matter, do so carefully. Not every attorney is experienced in surrogacy. Tommy Taneff is a former Probate Court Magistrate who has handled surrogacy matters for years.

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Surrogate Will Help Mother Create Grandchild Using Deceased Son’s Sperm

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A woman recently lost a son who died in a night club fight. That grieving mother is now preparing to create a grandchild using her deceased son’s sperm. Shortly after Marissa Evans’ son died, his sperm was collected and will be combined with an egg from a donor and implanted into a surrogate.

Nikolas died after he was struck outside an Austin night club. The son hit his head after falling to the ground and died approximately 10 days later. The mother chose the egg from a donor who resembled her deceased son’s facial features, education and interests. The egg donor and the surrogate who will carry the child are two different people who live in two different countries. The egg donor is from Russia.

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House Bill 92

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House Bill 92 now allows an adult to be adopted if the adult is the child of the spouse, as long as the adult child consents to the adoption.

This means that a child can finally become a regular member of the family. Previously under Ohio law, an adult could only be adopted if he had established a parent-childlike relationship as a minor. If a couple had married and decided they wanted to combine their families, parents could only adopt the other parent’s minor children. But what to do in a situation where you have remarried and your new spouse has an adult child who wishes to become bound to this family? Previously under Ohio law that adult child could not be adopted.

Now House Bill 92 allows each spouse to affirm the other’s children and put all the kids on the same footing.

To see House Bill 92 as passed by House, cut and paste the following link to your browser:

http://www.lsc.state.oh.us/analyses129/h0092-ph-129.pdf

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Don’t Forget Your IRS Refund for Adoption!

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The Federal adoption tax credit has been enhanced for adoptive parents and prospective parents. The adoption tax credit has been increased to $13,170.00. It is now fully refundable! This means even if you did not owe federal taxes, you will get a refund.

You can qualify for the adoption tax credit whether you do a domestic or foreign adoption and whether or not the child has special needs.

The expenses that qualify include legal, medical, adoption fees, Court costs, and travel expenses. The IRS outlines what qualifies at their website. You must have documentation for your expenses with receipts. Some parents who are in higher income tax brackets may not be eligible.

Disclaimer. I am not a tax preparer. This information is presented for you to share with your tax preparer.

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Couple Put Up Billboard to Locate a Baby for Adoption

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In Michigan, a couple who is looking for a baby for adoption, put up a billboard advertising their attempt to adopt. Rather than waiting to locate a baby through an agency, they decided to become proactive to find a prospective birth mother on their own.

Although the couple was also networking by asking family, friends and relatives to help, they decided to expand their efforts and target a much larger audience by buying a billboard ad and putting it up on Interstate 75 in Grand Blanc, Michigan. The billboard message was simple. It read “LOVING COUPLE LOOKING TO ADOPT” and listed the couple’s names and phone number. The couple stated that since posting the billboard they have received numerous calls.

Under Ohio law, such advertising is considered illegal. Although many of us lawyers consider the Ohio law that prohibits advertising to be a violation of first amendment rights, to my knowledge this has yet to be challenged.

Ohio law does recognize networking efforts to locate a child. Some couples even decide to advertise out of state. Aggressive networking does work in locating prospective birth mothers interested in placing their baby for adoption.

When choosing an attorney to assist with an adoption matter, prospective clients should do so carefully. Not every attorney is experienced in the adoption area. Just because an attorney has done a step-parent adoption does not mean he is familiar with the intricacies of a private/independent adoption.

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Adoption Tax Credit Expanded

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IR-2010-100 – The Internal Revenue Service issued guidance on the expanded adoption credit included in the Affordable Care Act.

The Affordable Care Act raises the maximum adoption credit to $13,170 per child. It also makes the credit refundable, meaning that eligible taxpayers can get it even if they owe no tax for that year. In general, the credit is based on the reasonable and necessary expenses related to a legal adoption, including adoption fees, court costs, attorney’s fees and travel expenses. Income limits and other special rules apply.

In addition to filling out Form 8839, Qualified Adoption Expenses, eligible taxpayers must include with their 2010 tax returns one or more adoption-related documents, detailed in the guidance issued today.

The documentation requirements, designed to ensure that taxpayers properly claim the credit, mean that taxpayers claiming the credit will have to file paper tax returns. Normally, it takes six to eight weeks to get a refund claimed on a complete and accurate paper return where all required documents are attached. The IRS encourages taxpayers to use direct deposit to speed their refund.

Taxpayers claiming the credit will still be able to use IRS Free File to prepare their returns, but the returns must be printed out and sent to the IRS, along with all required documentation.

Related Items:

  • Notice 2010-66
  • Revenue Procedure 2010-31
  • Revenue Procedure 2010-35

Disclaimer: Please consult with your tax preparer.

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How to Avoid Adoption Scams

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Adoption scams are rare, but occasionally happen. Usually when prospective adoptive parents are desperate to adopt they fail to do due diligence and the necessary homework.

To minimize the risk of being scammed in an adoption, the following suggestions should be considered:

1. Ask tough questions and question the qualifications and methods of locating a baby with the professionals you may work with.

2. Never pay large up-front fees.

3. Only work with professionals whose information and qualifications can be verified.

4. Avoid working with individuals with untraceable telephone numbers.

5. Avoid the urge to wire money to someone who needs it immediately.

6. Get specific answers to all of your questions.

7. Avoid individuals who give evasive answers or few details.

8. Beware of anyone who guarantees a baby within a specific amount of time. Most professionals will not made such promises.

9. Avoid anyone who is pressuring you.

10. Use your common sense and always go with your gut feelings.

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Social & Medical History: About Adoption Birth Parents

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When prospective birth parents are met with, social and medical histories are collected. Medical releases are also requested and may be forwarded to the birth mother’s doctor and hospital before or after the delivery to obtain medical records. All history is sent to you so you may share this information with your doctors. Every attempt is made to get an accurate history, but we rely solely on the birth parents for this information. Therefore, history provided cannot be guaranteed. We do not withhold any negative information. You may consult with independent medical, genetic, and social work experts regarding social and medical information.

Some information about birth parent(s) may be verified using other services. Approximate costs are:

  • Drug Screens - $50 – 100
  • Criminal Background Check – $50 – 100

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The Surrogacy Alternative to Adoption

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Many childless couples and single parents choose surrogacy so they can have a baby that is genetically related to one or both of them.

Surrogate means substitute. A surrogacy involves an agreement where a woman agrees to become pregnant and give birth to a child for the intended or contracted party. Typically a surrogate is compensated for the service of carrying a child through delivery.

A donor egg IFV involves the process where the egg from a donor is mixed with the sperm from a biological father in a laboratory. If an embryo is produced, it is cultivated or grown in a lab dish and then transferred to the recipient’s uterus.

Typically an egg donor is chosen by looking at a donor with similar traits, such as hair and eye color, height, talents, intellect, and/or athletic ability. A typical surrogate is 21 to 35 years of age. Some may be married and may have had previous normal deliveries and healthy babies.

The surrogacy process involves a screening of the surrogate for infectious diseases and genetic conditions. Surrogates should also be tested for addictions and/or substance abuse. A complete social and medical history is obtained. A normal obstetric history is preferred. A thorough physical examination is also done to maximize the chances of success.

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Adoption Tax Credit Gets Better

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In 2010 the Adoption Tax Credit now becomes a refundable credit. This is fantastic news for adoptive families.

This means families can now claim the credit in one lump sum on 2010 taxes even if their total tax liability is less than the adoption tax credit.

It gets even better. The change also applies retroactively to families who finalized their adoptions as far back as 2005 and who still have the adoption tax credit to carry forward.

The maximum adoption tax credit per child increases to $13,170 in 2010. Under the expanded benefits, the refundable tax credit allows families who owe no taxes to receive the funds from the government.

Disclaimer: Please consult with your tax preparer.

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Post Adoption Release of Information

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Procedures and information available differ for pre January 1, 1964, adoptions; January 1, 1964, to September 18, 1996; and September 18, 1996, and thereafter adoptions.

R.C. 3107.38 provides that for adoptions prior to January 1, 1964, the adopted person may submit a request to the ODJFS for a non-identifying copy of the adoption file or file a petition with the Probate Court pursuant to R.C. 3107.41.

R.C. 3107.41 provides that for adoptions between January 1, 1964, and September 18, 1996, an adopted person twenty-one years or older may file a petition with the Probate Court for the release of certain information.

R.C. 3107.45 to R.C. 3107.53, and R.C. 3107.66 liberalize access to post September 18, 1996, adoption records. An adopted person age twenty-one years or more, an adoptive parent of an adopted person eighteen to twenty-one years, a birth parent or sibling age twenty-one years or older, may obtain from the ODJFS information authorized by other parties.

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Open Adoption

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An attorney or agency arranging an adoption has a duty to advise the parties of the right to enter into a non binding open adoption.  Open adoption allows the exchange of information, including identifying information.  The Probate Court may not refuse to approve an adoption because of an open adoption agreement.  An open adoption is not legally enforceable.  An open adoption agreement cannot:

  • Share parental control
  • Deny access to social or medical history
  • Deny adoptive parent or child a copy of child’s adoption file
  • Deny parties non-identifying information
  • Provide that open adoption is binding or enforceable

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Post Adoption Contact With Birth Parents

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The birth parents are given no identifying information about the adopting parents unless you have arranged an open adoption. Birth parents may inquire through our office about the child’s well-being or request a photo. While life may go on for the birth parents, the pain does not end. The exchange of status letters and photographs between the birth parents and the adoptive parents can be arranged through the office. For many prospective birth parents, the knowledge that they may have this type of exchange will not only ease their minds, but it may help them to make the decision to follow through with an adoption plan.

I know you will be preoccupied with the child. However, please take time to remember the birth parents. Many times I am asked by the birth mother, “how are they, how is the baby, are they happy, are they excited?” but my words are not good enough. Please send the birth parents a nice note and picture of the child if the birth parents request for this wonderful gift of life. This small token of appreciation is priceless. It assures the birth parents that the emotional toll taken to go through with the adoption was worth the pain and that they chose the right adoptive parents.

It is wise to mark your calendar and provide a status letter and photographs at one, three, six, nine and twelve months. There is no legal obligation to do so but one should always keep a moral commitment.

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GETTING A SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER AND EXEMPTION FOR ADOPTED CHILD

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After finalization of your adoption you will need a Social Security Number to take a personal exemption for your child. Because adoptive parents often do not have necessary records (Adoption Certificate or new Birth Certificate) this can be a problem. Some adoptive parents have successfully obtained a Social Security Number by walking into their local Social Security Office using the Adoption Placement Certificate or Final Decree of Adoption.

Another option is to obtain a temporary Social Security Number also known as an adoption tax payer identification number (ATIN) for a child without these documents for parents who are awaiting a Final Order of Adoption. They can claim the child as a dependent and take the child care credit if available. To obtain a ATIN, contact the IRS for Form W-7A. For more information, consult with your tax preparer.

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Insurance Coverage for Adoptions

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A large portion of adoption expenses for a newborn are for medical costs. Most of the time there are insurance and/or other sources available, such as:

  • Birth mother’s insurance through employer
  • Birth mother’s parent’s insurance if she is a minor or student
  • Adoptive parent’s insurance
  • Adoptive parent’s employer benefit programs
  • Adoptive parent’s 401K plan
  • Medicaid/Healthy Start coverage if birth mother is low income
  • Child may be eligible for ADC/Healthy Start coverage. If child is ward of an agency and/or special needs, a targeted adoption through an agency may be received.

Although a birth parent may be covered by Medicaid/Healthy Start, there have been cases where the Department of Job & Family Services has denied or refused to pay for coverage or where the hospital/doctor has declined to accept Medicaid payment for medical services in an adoption. The rationale behind these occasional denials is that it is unfair to obligate taxpayers with the responsibility of paying for your adoption medicals.

If your insurance covers the child, determine whether coverage begins at birth or date of placement. Unfortunately, most policies only provide coverage effective as of date of placement which may affect payment of the hospital bill. Insurance coverage for adopted children should cover all pre-existing conditions as of the date of placement. Verification should be obtained in writing.

ERISA

Any group health insurance plan that provides coverage for dependent children should provide the same benefits to adopted children. Coverage should begin at time of placement and not be contingent on finalization of the adoption.

FAMILY LEAVE ACT

The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) requires employers provide time off and continue benefits without risk to losing employment. For information on the FMLA to adoption, ask for a brochure from Resolve at 1310 Broadway, Somerville, MA 02144, Attention: FMLA Guide.

TAX DEDUCTION

Payment for the adoptive child’s medical costs may be deductible. See I.R.C. §152(b)(2), §213 and Kilpatrick v. Commissioner, 68 U.S.T.C. 469 (1977). Consult with your tax preparer.

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THE FOLLOWING ARE TYPICAL EXPENSES THAT COULD BE ASSOCIATED WITH YOUR OHIO ADOPTION

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  • Birth mother’s prenatal care
  • Baby’s hospital expenses
  • Birth mother’s hospital expenses
  • Birth mother’s living expenses
  • Anesthesiologist for birth mother
  • Prescriptions
  • Pediatrician’s exam
  • Prenatal medical records
  • Hospital medical records for birth mother
  • Hospital medical records for baby
  • Counseling for birth parent
  • Foster care for baby
  • Court costs for Home Study
  • Court costs for Petition to Adopt
  • Attorney fees for adopting couple:  Pre-Placement/Home Study Process/Adoption
  • Attorney fees for birth mother
  • Miscellaneous expenses (original birth certificate, parking, mileage, long distance, phone charges, hospital portraits, etc.)
  • TOTAL: $8,000 – $15,000

Effective 4/7/09 House Bill 7 added birth mother’s living expenses to the list of approved payments connected with a child’s permanent surrender, placement, or adoption. The living expenses cannot exceed $3,000.00 and must be incurred during pregnancy and up to 60 days after the child is born. Payments from the petitioner to the birth mother for living expenses must be made through the attorney or agency arranging the adoption.

The total adoption costs depend strongly on insurance coverage. Almost always the birth mother has Medicaid/other insurance coverage and this usually dramatically reduces the estimated medical expenses. Also, the adoptive parents’ insurance usually covers the baby’s charges, further reducing the overall cost of an adoption closer to the average range of $8,000.00 – $15,000.00. In addition, the TAX CREDIT (see below) can reduce your overall adoption cost to virtually nothing!

Obviously, this could vary if the birth mother has no insurance coverage, has a c-section, delivers twins and/or is located out-of-state.

The Federal Adoption Tax Credit IS available to families having an Adjusted Gross Income of less than $182,520.00 annually in 2010. This may reduce the overall expense of an adoption by as much as $12,170.00. A partial credit is available for families with annual earnings up to $222,520.00. An additional $1,500.00 State Adoption Tax Credit may exist. If you earn more, you will not qualify for the credit. Although the credit generally is allowed for the year following the year in which the expenses are paid, a taxpayer who paid qualifying expenses in the current year for an adoption which became final in the current year, may be eligible to claim the credit on the current year return. Any unused portion of the FAT credit the year of the adoption can be carried forward and applied to future taxes for five years. See IRS Publication 968 entitled Tax Benefits for Adoption. The adoptive parents can also take $3,000.00 Child Credit for each child in the year adopted. Consult with your tax preparer.

The adoption tax credit has recently been expanded and increased. The new law increases the adoption tax credit and adoption assistance exclusion by $1,000.00, makes the credit refundable, and extends the credit through 2011. The increase is retroactive, meaning that any adoption occurring after January 1, 2010 is eligible for this higher credit. The credit is now refundable. This means that even families that owe zero taxes can receive the full tax credit in the form of a tax refund to help with their adoption-related expenses.

In the case Adoption of Infant Girl Banda, 53 Ohio App. 3d. 104 (Franklin Cty 1988), the Court stated. . . that the adoptive parents’ payment of fees should not be contingent upon the outcome of the adoption.

According to Ohio Revised Code §3107.055 all costs associated with adoption must be disclosed to the Court. According to DR 7-102(B)(2), an attorney is required to disclose fraud to a tribunal and may refuse to aid or participate in conduct believed to be unlawful despite obligations to represent the client zealously. In other words, passive participation by silence is not allowed.

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HOW TO PREPARE AN EFFECTIVE PROFILE/LIFE-BOOK

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Nothing will ever be harder to do in your endeavor to adopt than to create a compassionate and effective Profile/Life-Book. You are not creating this to make you feel good about you. You are creating this to make the birth parents feel good about choosing you. Remember, a birth mother who places her child for adoption is making the ultimate sacrifice for her child, one that few of us would have the courage to make. A birth mother makes an adoption plan because she loves her baby, not because she is a bad person or an unfit parent. This act is the most unselfish, loving, caring and giving decision anyone could ever make.

The documents we provide at our first meeting may be included in your Profile/Life-Book. They should be typed and may have identifying/non-identifying information. You should also answer the Questionnaire and may write a Dear Birth Parent Letter. Give specific examples about each other and talk about each other. Preparing a Profile/Life-Book will provide prospective birth parent(s) with much more background information. The answers should be warm and address the points discussed in your material. When you are finished, read the Profile out loud to each other. You should also attach/incorporate photographs. Your Profile/Life-Book looks best when it reads, looks and feels like a magazine.

The Profile/Life-Book should project:

  • Family
  • Stability
  • Financial security
  • Sense of humor
  • Strong marriage
  • Love to share
  • Experience with children
  • Why you want children
  • Respect for the birth parents
  • How much you appreciate the birth parents
  • Your goal is not to necessarily make you look good but to make the birth parents feel good about themselves for choosing you!

PROFILE/LIFE-BOOK UPDATES OR CHANGES

Keep in mind your Profile/Life-Book will be given to prospective birth parent(s). We ask you to be open and completely honest. If things change in your life, i.e. you get pregnant/have a baby, you must update your Profile/Life-Book. We cannot present an inaccurate Profile/Life-Book to birth parents. If your life changes (and it will), you must update your Profile/Life-Book so it is honest and accurate.

WILL BIRTH PARENTS CHOOSE YOU?

I have never had anyone not adopt who stuck with it. Every family will appeal to some birth parent. If you stick with it, you will become parents. Waiting for a birth parent to choose you may take longer if:

  • You practice an unusual religion
  • You have a limited adoption budget
  • You have a non-traditional lifestyle
  • You will only adopt a boy/girl

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Couple’s Adoption Wish Comes True On Facebook

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Written by Molly Thorsen Connolly

Molly Connolly is a new parent after adopting a son with her husband, John, earlier this year. After years of trying to have a child, she and John found a birth mother through Facebook after discussing their struggle on the service. This is their story.

On Dec. 30 at 11 p.m., my husband and I were sitting in our basement watching TV. We were both feeling worn out and dejected and were trying to numb our anxiety. I had just recovered from the flu and was feeling guilty about not going home to spend time with my father, who was in the hospital following a serious brain injury and possibly would not live to see the New Year.

The decision to stay in Chicago, as opposed to traveling to Minnesota, was not just based on the fact that I was so sick that I could barely get out of bed. My husband and I were also in the process of adopting a baby boy who was due on Jan. 17. Just three months earlier, we had connected with our birth mother, Valerie, through a group we created on Facebook.

Over Christmas we spoke to Valerie, who had also been in the hospital and doctors were speculating that she might have Crohn’s disease. In addition to this diagnosis, which was causing her extreme discomfort and dehydration, the doctors were monitoring her for possible cervical cancer.

Since our communication with Valerie was sporadic at best, we had no idea how she was doing. She lived in Florida and we had only met her once. Recently, when she did contact us, sounding weak and in pain, she wouldn’t tell us how she was doing, but instead told us that the baby was OK. “Don’t worry about the baby, Molly,” she would say. “He’s fine. They keep checking him and there is nothing wrong with him.”

The only thing that might happen with the baby is the doctors might have to deliver him early. We felt horrible that we couldn’t do anything for Valerie and her pain all the way in Chicago, and we also knew that we might be called at any time to go to Florida.

While John was flipping channels, trying to find something else for us to watch, I struggled to give us both a pep talk.

“She said that at worst, the doctor will induce labor on Jan 25, and she then has a three-day waiting period before she can sign the papers. So, really within 28 days, we will know. We can wait 28 days, right? It’s been years. We can do 28 days,” I said.

I remember John staring at me. Usually at this point he would jump in and we would try to psych ourselves up. “Sure! 28 days! That’s nothing!” he would say.

But this time, he looked pensive. He looked sad. He took an audible deep breath. He looked directly at me, his blue eyes looked dark, his mouth turned down in a frown.

“Do we need to start talking about what we do if this falls through?” he asked.

I closed my eyes. I didn’t want to think about it. At this point, I thought my answer would be no. I didn’t think I could go through it again. The years of “trying”, the medical procedures, the miscarriage and the failed adoption a year before–it was too much.

I opened my eyes and was about to speak when the phone rang. We both jumped. John picked up the phone and checked the caller ID.

“It’s Michael!” he said. His eyes were wide with surprise. (Michael is Valerie’s stepfather who had been in touch with us throughout the adoption effort.)

“Pick it up!” I said. I gestured to the phone anxiously.

“Hello?” John answered. He put the phone on speaker.

“Are you ready to be a daddy?” Michael asked. His voice was filled with excitement and he continued, “Valerie is on her way to the hospital right now. I hope your bags are packed!”

After John hung up the phone, I wish I could have captured the look on both of our faces with words. I have never felt a jolt of relief, disbelief and utter wonder all at once. We both started laughing.

“Really? Is this really it?” I finally said.

In the next few minutes we had a flurry of additional phone calls from Michael and a call from Valerie’s mother, Dawn, who we later learned was driving 90 miles per hour in order to get to the hospital. We could hear Valerie in the background moaning in pain and then Dawn held the phone up so we could hear Valerie.

“I’m sorry!” she wailed. “I wanted you to be here but I’m not gonna make it! I’m so sorry!” She screamed between waves of pain.

“Honey! Just get the hospital and don’t you think twice about us. We are on our way and we’ll get there as soon as we can!”

As soon as we hung up, the whole situation became a comedy routine. We both jumped up and kept bumping into each other.

“You check flights!”

“I’ll pack!”

“Call Patrick about the dogs!”

“We need that car seat from Ann!”

“What are we going to do about our car?”

John called and woke up his 20-year-old nephew who hopped in his car without a second thought to come take care of the house and dogs. I ran around upstairs packing for us, my mind completely blank on what to pack for a three-week trip to Florida in January.

When I arrived in Florida, I opened my suitcase to find not one, but two bathing suits, two wool sweaters, two T-shirts (again for 21 days), 13 pairs of black socks and little else.

John booked two one-way tickets for us to Orlando at a reasonable price.

“Honey this is great,” I said as I looked at the one-way, direct flights. “Except it is for NEXT WEEK!” We scrambled to rebook.

Since the baby would only be 3 weeks old when we left Orlando, we were advised that even if an airline would let him fly, it was not safe to fly with him especially because it was the height of flu season.

We sent a text message to our neighbor who came by at midnight with a car seat for us. We called John’s sister and asked her if she and her husband would drive our car to Orlando if we flew them home. They said yes without the slightest hesitation.

And then at 1 a.m., the phone rang again, and it was Michael. “Check your email mom and dad. I just sent you a picture of your baby boy!”

Epilogue

The most amazing thing for John and me was the flurry of excitement and joy in the days that followed. The core of our story however, is that our birth mother, the woman who brought our darling son into our lives, found us on Facebook.

In marketing ourselves as adoptive parents, we created a group on Facebook in July of 2009 called, “John and Molly looking to Adopt” and we asked our friends and family to join. Our Facebook group linked to our adoption website, www.johnandmolly.net, as well as to our adoption agency.

Back in October, when Valerie decided she was going to place her child for adoption, she asked her mother to assist her in finding a family. Her mother, Dawn, searched for “looking to adopt” and our Facebook group came up in her web search results.

From there, Dawn was able to see our group and link to our page, and subsequently recommend us to Valerie.

Looking back, it’s clear the availability of our public Facebook group in search engines was a key ingredient to our success. But more than that, Facebook provided a way for Dawn and Valerie to see more about who we were because we were open about some information about ourselves on our profiles

They were able to see that we had over 150 friends who supported our adoption efforts and were rooting for us to be parents. They were able to read on the group page about how difficult it had been for us when an earlier adoption fell through, and see how our friends had posted encouragement and support to keep trying.

And when the wonderful day came, when Valerie placed her baby boy in our arms and entrusted us to raise him, we were able to share the good news and pictures instantly with our dear friends on Facebook.

When we returned home to Chicago there were dozens of cards and presents waiting for us. The most amazing thing to me is this event put me in touch with friends from every phase of our lives who were watching the news unfold on Facebook—elementary school through college, previous work colleagues , clients, neighbors, even complete strangers who were friends of friends.

The community of support we achieved, using Facebook, is not just what helped us to find our birthmother, but also what provided us the emotional support to continue our adoption efforts in the first place.

We are grateful to our friends and family, and the wonderful people at Family Resource Center in Chicago and Heart of Adoptions in Florida . We are thankful that we live in an age where communication helped make our miracle come true.

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The Homestudy or Preplacement Process

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Before a child can be placed in a home the prospective adoptive parent(s) must be investigated and pre-approved through a home study. In private adoption, this is usually done by the Probate Court in the county of residence of either the adoptive parents or the birth parent or by a licensed agency if this is an agency adoption. Some Probate Courts accept an agency home study.

A Preplacement Application will be completed with references that are unrelated and able to comment about your ability to be an adoptive parent. After the Preplacement document is completed, it is usually signed in the presence of a Notary.

Also letters of recommendation, preferably from individuals not listed on the Preplacement Application, should address:

  • How long the references have known you
  • Why you would make a good parent
  • How you relate to children

The Probate Court/Agency requires you and any other adult household member have a physical exam within the last year. Please obtain a letter from your physician regarding your health or have the provided medical form completed.

Ohio law requires a criminal background check for every adult household member. All requests for Ohio civilian background checks be submitted electronically through use of WebCheck or other approved methods. There is a $22.00 charge per person for the search. The results take approximately thirty (30) days. There are more than 400 WebCheck locations now available to persons seeking background checks. These locations are listed by county on the Attorney General’s website at:

http://www.ohioattorneygeneral.gov/Services/Business/WebCheck/Webcheck-Community-Listing

You may go to the location nearest you to have your fingerprints scanned. Please then have them forward the results to our office as soon as possible.

Ohio Revised Code §2151.86 requires that anyone who has not lived within the State of Ohio for a consecutive five-year period must also have a nationwide background search through the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI). Electronic FBI submissions can be processed more quickly. The locations mentioned in the website above will indicate whether they can perform an FBI webcheck at that location. There is a $24.00 charge per person for the FBI search.

Convictions for felonies, drug offenses, or sex related charges could preclude a parent from adopting, even if these convictions have been expunged. See Ohio Revised Code §2151.86. If you have been charged, convicted or expunged of any crime, you must disclose this information to our office.

After we receive all of the above documents, they are filed with the Probate Court. Shortly thereafter the Court case worker will call to arrange a home study investigation by a convenient personal visit to review your Preplacement Application, physical and mental health, emotional stability, employment history, and financial matters to determine if a proposed placement would be in a child’s best interest. This may be required even though you may have had a home study on file in another county Probate Court or done by an agency.

If all is well, the Court will approve you as prospective adoptive parent(s) usually within 15 or 30 days. Some Probate Courts will accept another Probate Court’s home study or an agency home study. The Home Study is valid for up to two years. However if you do not adopt within the first fourteen (14) months, it may need to be updated when you do go to adopt your child, with an additional filing fee at that time.

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Adoption: Woman nurses baby before adoption

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Joliet birth mother wants best for her newborn daughter

By DENISE M. BARAN-UNLAND For Sun-Times Media

It never occurred to Barb, 22 of Joliet, not to breast-feed her daughter, even though another family was adopting the baby.

After participating in the Will County Health Department’s WIC (Women, Infants and Children) program, Barb, who wishes to remain anonymous, attended the program’s breast-feeding classes and learned of the health benefits of breast-feeding for baby and mother.

So after Barb gave birth on April 30, she nursed her baby for three days then put her in the arms of the adoptive mother.

Barb continues to pump and dump her milk. She hopes she can find a nearby milk bank that will want her milk.

“There are plenty of babies who need breast milk, but their mothers either can’t or won’t nurse,” Barb said.

Decision questioned

Plenty of well-meaning people criticized her decision to briefly nurse a baby she would not raise.

“They thought breast-feeding would create an emotional bond that would make it harder to give her up,” Barb said. “But I’d been carrying her inside me for nine months. I felt her moving around inside me. That bond was already there.”

Barb and her boyfriend were only 21 when they learned she was pregnant. Both were working. Barb was also taking online classes to become a pharmacy technician. Neither one, Barb felt, was mature enough to provide high-quality parenting to an infant.

“A lot of pregnant 16-year-olds keep their babies, but they want to hang out with their friends all the time,” Barb said. “I think you give up that right when you become a mother.”

Adoption debate

Supporting a baby required making tough choices. Barb would have to quit her job; her boyfriend would have to work two jobs; or they both would work and leave the baby’s care to a succession of friends and relatives. None of the options settled with Barb.

Barb also feared the stress of raising a baby, along with reduced sleep and income, would lead to arguments over parenting styles and their loss of independence.

To prove her point, Barb set her alarm clock to every two hours around the clock and discovered she was not emotionally ready for that lifestyle.

“It would not have been right to keep her,” Barb said. “I love my daughter very much and so does my boyfriend, but we couldn’t be happier for her. Sometimes I get an emotional rush and start crying, but I know we made the right choice.”

Choosing right family

Barb knew adoption was not a dismal option. Her mother grew up with adopted parents.

Barb particularly wanted her daughter to experience a childhood similar to her own, so she requested the baby be adopted by a Catholic family. Equally satisfying for Barb is that the family has a 4-year-old girl; Barb and her sister were four years apart.

With an open adoption arrangement, Barb, as birth mother, is still an active member of the baby’s family. She’s just not the parent who rears the baby.

For pregnant women unable to responsibly raise a baby, Barb highly recommends open adoption. “Adoption is no longer good-bye forever,” she said.

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Foreign Adoptions Tricky

Written by Doris O’Brien

How many times have parents in a fit of exasperation told disobedient children “I’d like to send you back!” The only catch is that there’s no place to send them, except up to their room or into a corner.

Apparently, that wasn’t a problem for Torry Hansen of Tennessee. Eight months into an exhausting struggle with her adopted 7-year-old Russian son, whom she named Jared, Ms. Hansen had had quite enough. For $200 she arranged with airline personnel to see that the recalcitrant kid was flown back to Moscow and met there by someone of authority. (TV footage of Jared in Russia showed him about as fazed by all of this as Macaulay Culkin in “Home Alone!”)

A friend of mine, concerned that her young teen-aged grandson was planning to travel to Chicago alone, asked me what I thought of the little boy sent back unaccompanied to his native Russia. I said there must have been another way to handle the situation. She agreed.

But not everyone does. Another local teacher/grandmother believes there are times when a strange child gets so obstreperous as to be a danger, and that those who handled the adoption surely noticed such tendencies without alerting Ms. Hansen.

No child is guaranteed, whether adopted or birthed. And every parent-child relationship is unique. What distinguishes this one from others, however, is that it caused an avalanche of Soviet anger against America. The incident may now be old news, but it still festers, and will likely bring about changes in the Russian government’s policy for future international adoptions — if any are even permitted.

The trouble is, however, that Russia has an estimated 740,000 orphans, and the natives aren’t taking in enough of them. Americans adopted over 1,500 Russian children in 2009, the largest number after China and Ethiopia. Presumably, most of these adoptions turned out well. But whenever a problem develops, others seem to come to light, like the never-ending procession of Tiger Woods’ romantic partners.

It’s been revealed, for example, that 14 Russian kids adopted by American families have died of abuse since 1996. The fact that many American children suffered the same fate, and that even a larger percentage of orphans were abused by Russian families does not mitigate the tragedy. To some degree, we expect a higher standard of behavior from those who consciously make the effort to bring a child from elsewhere into their lives.

Finding suitable homes for orphaned kids is hard enough. But an added complication is that many Russian orphans suffer from fetal alcohol syndrome. In a past column I wrote about the excessive consumption of vodka in Russia, a dangerous habit that is spreading among our own young people. Babies born with this disease unwittingly suffer the sins of their parents, making them harder to place in adoptive homes. Often the child’s symptoms may not even be revealed for fear of rejection.

That’s basically the argument of Torry Hansen, who blames the WACAP adoption agency for not leveling with her. The agency, in turn, insists that its clients are fully informed about those they adopt, and that Ms. Hansen could have sought help from a stateside representative, rather than take the drastic measure she did. Admittedly, there is little follow-up on adoptions once a child ships out of Russia.

Adoption has always been regarded as a noble act. At its best it brings love, a sense of belonging, and greater opportunity to unclaimed children. Incidents such as the return of Jared — and the attempt of unauthorized church members to spirit children out of earthquake-ravaged Haiti — have unfairly given a bad name to adoption by Americans.

As a result of Torry Hansen’s actions, Russian agencies are keeping some 3,000 American families in limbo about the status of adoptions already in progress. Perhaps if the laws of our own land involved less red tape for adopting U.S. children, there might be fewer reasons for our citizens to face the Red Menace abroad.

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Adoption: Ohio House Bill 411

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Ohio House Bill 411 would amend Ohio adoption law to allow an adult to be adopted if the adult is the child of the spouse of the adoption petitioner and the adult consents to the adoption.

Currently, Ohio adoption law says that an adult can be adopted if the adult is disabled, mentally retarded, had a foster child care giver or child step-parent relationship with the adopters as a minor, of if he or she were in the permanent custody of a children services agency at the time he or she turned 18 and consents to the adoption.

In some situations after a couple marries they may want to combine their families. Under current Ohio adoption law, the other spouse’s adult child cannot be adopted if they were 18 at the time of the marriage. If, for example, a husband and wife get married and one spouse wants to adopt the children of the other and the other spouse might have some children that are minors and some that are adults, only the minor children could be adopted and not the adult children. Or, if a spouse remarries and changes her name, she may wish to have her minor children adopted and their names and birth certificates would be changed. However, if there was an adult child in this scenario, the adult child would be excluded and left out.

This pending legislation would cure this defect in Ohio’s adoption laws.

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Navigating the Foreign Adoption Process

Daytime Columbus Interview regarding navigating the foreign adoption process

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More Teens Choosing to Forgo Adoption

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Posted: Jan 08, 2009 on NewsChannel10.com

Texas boasts one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the nation, and more of those teen moms are opting to keep their baby.

Nationwide, including the Texas Panhandle, adoption rates are at their lowest ever, with fewer than two percent of pregnant girls choosing to go that route. Catholic Family Services says they think part of the reason teens are choosing to keep their child is because there is not the teen pregnancy stigma there once was. Perhaps another reason… Teen pregnancy is often glamorized in the media, with more and more young, unwed movie stars having children.

Adoption Supervisor Holly Campidilli says, “these babies still cry, they still get sick, they still need formula, they still need diapers, and a lot of teens and single parents aren’t in the situations that these stars are in with a lot of resources, so definitely I think they’re seeing the positive.” The latest teen birth rate numbers we have are from 2006, but in that year, there were 63 births for every 1000 women, between the ages of 15 and 19.

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New Adoption Law Will Help Foster Parents and Pregnant Moms

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By Mandie Trimble, WOSU (2009-01-28)

A new state law aims to make adoption easier in the state of Ohio. The legislation makes it easier for foster parents to adopt and could lessen burdens on mothers who choose to give up their babies for adoption.

Ronda Hobbs and her husband, Robert, had their first child 15 years ago. But the couple felt their family was incomplete, and they started trying to have another baby. But Hobbs could not get pregnant again. So the couple decided to become foster parents in hopes of being able to adopt one of them. Six years and ten foster babies later, Hobbs said it happened. They were able to adopt a little boy named Samuel.

“It’s been a roller coaster,” she said.

Up until now state law has not made the process any easier. Under the old law, foster parents had to wait a year before they could apply to adopt a foster child. The new bill, signed by Governor Ted Strickland earlier this month, cuts that waiting period in half.

Hobbs said the new bill would have been particularly helpful with their second adoption in 2007.

“Our Joseph, his parents just abandoned him. They never came back, never called to even see anything about him. And he should have been able to be adopted at six months,” she said.

Columbus adoption attorney Tommy Taneff worked on House Bill 7. The waiting period for foster parents exists to give birth parents and other family members a chance to regain custody of the child. When asked if six months was too soon for a foster family to adopt, Taneff said, no.

“If it was up to most people they’d want the adoption done within a month. They can always ask for more time, and the probate court always has discretion to give more time especially if it’s in the best interest of the child. So, I’d rather see the law shrink the amount of time that a child has to wait for permanency, for finality, for a permanent family,” Taneff said.

The state also could save some money. As a foster parent to an infant, Hobbs said she received up to $12,000 a year. In theory, the state will save money by allowing foster parents to adopt sooner. But Hobbs underscored it’s not about the money, it’s about the children.

“The children deserve to start their life as soon as possible. The children are in limbo. A few of the children that we had, they were older, and we would drive them down to visit their parents and they just never would show up. It’s devastating to a child when their birth parents do not show up and just walk away from them. And to do that for longer than six months? It’s sad,” Hobbs said.

The Bill also helps pregnant women who choose adoption for their babies. Old law prohibits birth mothers from receiving any money other than reimbursements for medical and legal expenses. The new bill allows for adopting parents or agencies to pay up to to $3,000 for living expenses during pregnancy and up to six months after birth.

Taneff said because of the old law up to half of local pregnant moms choose out-of-state couples for their child because those states allow for living expense payments.

“We have Ohio couples that want to adopt. And why shouldn’t they be allowed to adopt babies from Ohio birth mothers. It makes sense whenever we can keep Ohio birth moms’ babies in Ohio for Ohio couples. It just helps everybody all around,” he said.

A 22-year-old woman living in Marion was in that very situation five years ago. She asked to be identified only as Kelley for privacy. She was a junior in high school when she got pregnant and chose to put her child up for adoption. But because of the cost of the pregnancy, Kelly said she chose a couple in Texas to adopt her daughter. Texas law lets pregnant birth moms receive payment for living expenses. She said if that had been the case in Ohio her daughter could be living in-state right now.

“I would have greatly reconsidered placing my child in Ohio if I would have gotten help. It would have paid for gas in my car to get to the doctor’s appointments or to school. It would’ve helped for maternity clothes because those aren’t cheap and you only wear them for a couple of months,” Kelley said.

And for birth mothers who choose an open adoption the bill may make it easier to keep the child in Ohio and easier to stay in touch…something Kelley wishes she could do.

“Placing her in Texas it’s kind of difficult because I don’t really get to see her. I mean I talk to her parents a lot and they e-mail me, and they send me pictures of her and stuff which is really nice. But it would’ve been nice for her to be in Ohio I think looking back now, but…”

The bill goes into effect in April.

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Adoption agencies break rules, escape punishment

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AJC investigation: Weak oversight on private adoption agencies

By Alan Judd, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

She was 24, a fair-skinned, curly haired brunette from California’s San Joaquin Valley. She quit school after the 11th grade but wanted to go back to become a teacher or maybe a corrections officer. She said she liked “shopping, swimming, going out.” Her favorite food: Mexican. Her favorite places: the mountains and the beach. She smoked while she was pregnant.

For Krista and Luis Arduz, she represented their best hope for a baby.

Early last year, the Kentucky couple agreed to adopt the California woman’s infant through a Georgia adoption agency. Like many modern private adoptions, this was to be a complex multi-state transaction, conducted mostly through e-mails and cellphones, Web sites and text messages — not to mention wire transfers involving thousands of dollars.

And the way it unraveled sheds light on the state’s weak oversight of the 336 private agencies that arrange adoptions and foster care and operate group homes in Georgia, an investigation by The Atlanta Journal-Constitution shows.

Just three times since 2008, the Journal-Constitution found, has the state imposed penalties against agencies that exclusively handle adoptions: two fines and one license revocation.

The newspaper’s review of more than 1,500 reports of inspections and investigations found that regulators repeatedly forgave violations of rules fundamental to safe adoptions: failing to check parents’ criminal records, for instance, or not documenting safe environments in adoptive homes.

Several agencies received citations for failing to show that payments to birth mothers covered only legitimate medical or living expenses. At least one agency — Valley of Hope Adoption Inc. of Woodstock, with which the Arduzes worked — was cited for having money for a birth mother’s expenses deposited into its executive director’s personal bank account.

None of those violations resulted in penalties.

State law allows fines as high as $25,000. But officials say they prefer to persuade agencies to comply with the rules than impose harsh penalties.

“We try to work with as many agencies as possible so there are viable options for Georgia’s children,” said Keith Bostick, director of the Office of Residential Child Care, which regulates adoption and foster care agencies.

“It is a balancing act,” Bostick said. “Often it’s not black, it’s not white — it’s gray.”

Valley of Hope is one of many agencies that existed in the gray area.

The agency eluded punishment for almost two years, even though state officials knew it was violating adoption rules. But the state didn’t share information about the agency with the public until late 2009.

Erin Chaffee, Valley of Hope’s founder and executive director, declined repeated requests for an interview. In an e-mail to a reporter late Friday, she said, “Adoption is a highly personal and confidential business and for those reasons it is not appropriate for me to engage in a discussion with you.” In another e-mail Saturday, she added, “We have helped over 100 clients adopt successfully and only a handful of clients have had failed adoptions.”

The Arduzes knew nothing about Valley of Hope’s regulatory history when they made the first of several payments that were to total more than $31,000. Neither did Brea and Jonathan Freeman, a Nashville-area couple whose own attempt to adopt through Valley of Hope overlapped the Arduzes’.

In late 2008, the Freemans decided to expand their family of three biological children and one adopted child. They considered several adoption agencies before settling on one that had only recently gone into business: Valley of Hope.

“We found them on the Internet,” Brea Freeman said recently. “I could find nothing bad about them, at the time.”

‘Free gift’

Valley of Hope broke the rules even before it completed its first adoption.

Chaffee, a licensed social worker who had worked for another adoption agency, established Valley of Hope in January 2008 as a for-profit business. State law requires adoption agencies to operate as not-for-profit organizations to guard against the appearance of baby selling.

Chaffee accepted the agency’s first adoption application fee from prospective parents in June 2008 — two months before Valley of Hope received a state license allowing it to do so, records show. In her e-mail Saturday, Chaffee said regulators “had trouble understanding” that she was working with those parents through a separate consulting company.

As at other agencies, an adoption handled by Valley of Hope could be expensive — $40,000 or more — and lacking guarantees. Birth mothers may change their minds at any time, leaving adoptive parents with little to show for their financial and emotional investments.

But on Valley of Hope’s Web site, Chaffee reassures both prospective parents and birth mothers. She describes Valley of Hope as a Christian mission offering the “free gift” of “everlasting life.” All children, the Web site states, are “wonderfully made by the Creator.”

Elsewhere Chaffee takes a more secular tone:

“So many couples come to us after spending a lot of money on their adoption without success, or they tell us they have been waiting forever to adopt and nothing has panned out,” Chaffee writes. By working with birth mothers in “states that have favorable adoption laws,” she says, prospective parents could expect a “match” in four to six months — half as long as at many other agencies.

On the Web site, several clients praise Chaffee and her agency.

“We were so happy with the level of personal service and support we were given at Valley of Hope,” a couple identified as Paul and Miriam of New Jersey say. “Erin was always available to talk to us, and seemed almost as excited as we were about the whole process. We could not believe that she found us a match after TWO WEEKS!!”

Another couple, identified as Pamela and Jason from Canada, wrote to Chaffee: “When we contacted you, we had come close to losing the dream of becoming parents. Now the pain is almost forgotten.”

‘My baby’

Krista and Luis Arduz also dreamed of becoming parents once more.

But Krista, a physician’s assistant in a dermatology practice, was in her 40s, and her last pregnancy and delivery had been difficult. She feared she would not be able to conceive again. Adoption, she said recently, seemed the best alternative.

In early 2009, the Arduzes hired an adoption facilitator to help sort through the Internet’s hundreds of posted “situations” — pregnant women offering their babies for adoption. The couple settled on what seemed to be a good match: a baby due April 17 to a 24-year-old California woman offering her child for adoption through Valley of Hope.

Chaffee faxed the Arduzes a contract, which they signed Feb. 13, 2009, the same day they wired $12,500 to Valley of Hope for the adoption fee. A few hours later, Krista Arduz said, Chaffee wanted another $2,000 sent immediately for the birth mother’s expenses. It was Friday afternoon, too late to send the money from the Arduzes’ credit union. Chaffee wouldn’t wait, Krista said. So the Arduzes wired the money from a Western Union outlet.

The birth mother, by then seven months pregnant and living on food stamps and Medicaid, remained in her small, remote hometown. She was married and had two boys, a 3-year-old and a 10-month-old. Her husband, who was not the father of her sons or the unborn child, did not know she planned to give up the baby, she wrote in a birth-mother questionnaire that Valley of Hope shared with the Arduzes. The biological father, whom she knew only as “Joe,” wasn’t aware of her pregnancy.

The birth-mother form posed a question: “If you could, what would you tell the baby about yourself and your decision?”

She answered: “I love you and I think I did what was best for the future of child.”

The next question: “Why are you placing this child for adoption?”

Her response: “I am not in any way financially stable or in the position to bring a baby into this world to suffer because I can’t provide.”

Still, she wrote that although she would allow the adoptive parents into the delivery room, she wanted to hold the baby first and to spend time alone with the child. She said she would let the adoptive parents name the child, so long as they told her what they planned to call “my baby.”

From the start, Krista Arduz said, everything was complicated and confusing. The Arduzes had so many questions: When should they buy airline tickets to pick up the baby in California? How long should they expect to stay there? What kind of relationship might they have with the mother?

“No guidance,” Arduz said of Valley of Hope’s responses to their inquiries.

“It would be nothing to call them two or three times and never hear back from them,” she said. “We were very frustrated.”

Cautionary tale

In Nashville, Brea and Jonathan Freeman were frustrated, too. When they began working with Valley of Hope in late 2008, they had been impressed. Brea Freeman had imagined Chaffee as someone who could be a close friend if they lived in the same city. And Chaffee had called frequently with possible adoption matches, exuding what Freeman called “a sense of urgency.”

But, she said, Chaffee began asking whether the Freemans might exceed their self-imposed $20,000 cap on adoption expenses. After they said no, Brea Freeman said, they heard from Chaffee less often, a criticism made by others in complaints to state regulators. “If there was a chance you might be willing to spend money,” Freeman said, “she would call you back in 30 seconds.”

Freeman took copious notes of her conversations with Chaffee and saved dozens of e-mails. Her documentation, which she shared with a reporter, depicts an increasingly muddled and contentious adoption.

The Freemans thought they had been “matched” with a birth mother in Atlanta. Valley of Hope later told the couple the match had been only preliminary.

By early April, the Freemans were worried. The birth mother’s due date came and went. Chaffee was supposed to arrange a telephone conference call between the birth mother and the Freemans, but that fell through. Communication from Chaffee became less frequent.

“When you get matched with somebody, it’s like being pregnant and waiting to give birth,” Brea Freeman said. “To pull the rug out from under us, it was devastating.”

On April 5, Chaffee e-mailed the Freemans to say the birth mother was waffling. But she said she hoped to keep the adoption on track by acting “more like a friend” to her, and reminding her that by keeping the baby, she would forfeit the money for her expenses.

“She made comments like, ‘I have to do the plan,’ meaning the adoption plan, and then later said, ‘I really don’t want to give up my baby,’” Chaffee wrote in an e-mail to Freeman. “I explained to her in great detail about the benefits of an open adoption.”

Freeman felt uncomfortable with Chaffee’s strategy. The next day, she and her husband backed out of the adoption.

The woman kept her baby. After Freeman complained about the outcome, a Valley of Hope caseworker sent her an e-mail describing the woman as “not stable,” adding that her erratic nature was why the agency had not asked the couple to pay fees in advance.

By e-mail on Saturday, Chaffee said: “I have never pressured a birth parent to place a child.”

Freeman discussed the episode at length on her blog. She sees it as a cautionary tale.

“I couldn’t imagine,” she said, “looking my child in the eye one day and saying, ‘You know, the agency pressured your mom to give you up.’”

‘Everything was fine’

The Arduzes’ birth mother was due April 17. Krista Arduz booked a flight for April 15, reserved a room in the town’s new Holiday Inn Express, and waited for word about the woman’s latest visit with her doctor.

With five days to go, Luis Arduz e-mailed Chaffee: “I wanted to inquire if you have had contact … after her doctor appointment.”

Chaffee replied from her BlackBerry: “Her mom told me everything was fine at the appt, but no details.”

That weekend, the Arduzes got a call from a California lawyer who was handling legal work on the adoption. He had just heard that the baby had arrived at least a week earlier — and the birth mother had backed out of the adoption.

The child was born, the lawyer told the Arduzes, before Chaffee purportedly spoke with the woman’s mother.

The news enraged the Arduzes. Why, they wondered, had Chaffee not told them about the birth? Did she even know about the baby? If so, why had she misled them about the birth mother’s appointment with the doctor?

Chaffee says that when birth mothers change their minds, “the adoptive parents are notified as soon as the agency has confirmation of the decision.”

Regardless, last April 13, a Monday, Krista Arduz sent Chaffee a seemingly innocuous e-mail: “Wondering if you talked with [the birth mother] to find out about her visit to the hospital this past week. We’re anxiously waiting to know how she’s doing and would appreciate any info you have (even if you haven’t spoken with her).”

Chaffee wrote back: “I spoke with her Tuesday and everything was good. … Her doctor’s office said there was no new information since her last visit.”

On the telephone that evening, Luis Arduz confronted Chaffee about the mother’s decision. Chaffee, the Arduzes say, repeatedly said she didn’t know what she could have done differently.

Luis Arduz was incredulous.

“You,” he asked Chaffee, “are the last one to know?”

No evidence of fraud

Later in the month, Krista Arduz filed a complaint against Valley of Hope with Georgia regulators. Already, they were looking into a similar case that had been reported in March.

It wasn’t until July 7, though, that an inspector visited the adoption agency’s offices in Cherokee County.

Generally corroborating the Arduzes’ allegations, the inspector found numerous rules violations: a failure to document why money was wired to birth mothers, the depositing of mothers’ expense money into Chaffee’s bank account, a variable fee schedule that suggested different prices for different babies.

Other citations alleged that Valley of Hope had not adequately screened adoptive families. For instance, the agency didn’t check whether at least one prospective parent had a criminal record, didn’t document another’s mental health evaluation and could not show it had confirmed the character references for a third.

And, the inspector said, Valley of Hope still was operating illegally as a for-profit adoption agency. (It changed its corporate registration to non-profit in December 2009, records show.)

But the inspector recommended no punishment; she found no evidence of fraud, and concluded the agency had not intentionally broken rules.

Chaffee now denies violating the rules, although she never contested state citations.

By this February, officials determined Valley of Hope had neither corrected deficiencies nor submitted a plan to do so. “All of it added up to something that didn’t look right,” said Bostick, the chief state regulator.

On Feb. 15, the state revoked Valley of Hope’s license.

As far as Bostick is concerned, the agency is out of business. But its Web site is still active. It is advertising three “situations” to prospective parents on adoption sites, although Chaffee says her company is accepting no new clients. Regardless, she continues to operate her separate adoption consulting firm.

A closed chapter

The failed adoptions left the Freemans and the Arduzes in different places.

The Freemans worked with another agency, in Houston, and adopted a child later last year.

The Arduzes hired a lawyer to request a refund from Valley of Hope. Finally, they got back $3,000, half the money they had paid for the birth mother’s expenses. But they still are out $15,500.

With that, the Arduzes gave up on adoption.

“We lost so much money that I’m still paying for,” Krista Arduz said. “We sort of closed that chapter.”

Shortly after the adoption fell through, Arduz’s appendix ruptured. In bed for weeks with plenty of time to think, she wrote a letter to Chaffee — “woman to woman, mother to mother,” she said. She asked for a full refund, or at least an apology.

She never heard back.

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Russian girl survives awful first adoption to find love in a new home

By Jeb Phillips with The Columbus Dispatch 

Irina Palmer, 10, survived her experience with her first adoptive parents, Gary and Amy Thompson, but her adoptive brother, Liam, did not.

These are the facts in the murder of 3-year-old Liam Thompson:

Gary and Amy Thompson of the Far West Side traveled to eastern Russia in April 2003 to adopt a little girl and a little boy. They already had two biological children – one together, another from Amy’s first marriage – and wanted to expand their family.

By summer, the Thompsons were sick of the adopted kids, according to a diary that Amy kept. Even though they weren’t biological siblings, Amy wrote of them as a pair. Liam had a cleft lip and palate that had been badly repaired in Russia. Amy wrote that she felt nothing but indifference toward the girl.

She and her husband had considered getting rid of the adopted children “like dogs in a pound,” she wrote.

On Oct. 11, 2003, Gary put Liam into a 140-degree bath and held him there while he struggled. Amy, a licensed practical nurse, was at work at a nursing home. The Thompsons never took Liam to a doctor or a hospital for his severe burns.

During the next five days, as the boy’s skin peeled off, Gary kept Liam on a mattress in the basement. He died on Oct. 16, his third birthday.

Gary Thompson, now 38, pleaded guilty to murder and was sentenced to 15 years to life in prison. Amy Thompson, now 39, pleaded guilty to involuntary manslaughter and endangering children and was sentenced to 14 years.

The older of Amy’s biological children went to a foster family. The younger went with relatives. But there was a little Russian girl in that household, too, the one adopted with Liam.

The girl’s name never became public in all of the media coverage of the case. Investigators said she wasn’t abused, but the Thompsons had neglected her. She was small and weak. Columbus homicide detective Patrick Dorn, who handled the case, remembered her as “abnormally withdrawn.”

Her name – once Irina Alexandrovna Pavlova, then Irina Thompson – is now Irina Elizabeth Jean Palmer. She’s 10 years old and is so strong that she can push herself up from a headstand to a handstand. She’ll let you feel her biceps, just for extra proof.

Pink is her favorite color. She wants to be a veterinarian or a zookeeper. She once ate five clementine oranges in a single sitting. She likes Taylor Swift.

“And Justin Bieber,” says her sister Cache Palmer, 9.

“And Miley Cyrus,” says her other sister, Jessica Palmer, also 9.

The Palmer girls are not about to let one sister talk without chiming in. While Irina answered questions on Wednesday evening about her favorite sports – lacrosse and gymnastics – Cache left the room for a minute and then reported that the girls have 32 trophies among them. Jessica said one of her trophies is the shiniest.

Don and Nadine Palmer already had adopted Jessica and were foster parents to Cache when Irina arrived at their Powell home in November 2003. Liam had died about three weeks earlier. Irina was about to turn 4.

Don, who is now 57, has two older children from a previous marriage. He thought, once upon a time, that that was plenty. The girls make fun of him for that now.

A caseworker with Franklin County Children Services who knew the Palmers thought they might be a good fit for Irina. Don, a retired manager for UPS, is the quiet, big-lug type. Nadine, 52, who once worked as a paralegal, smiles and laughs and talks every bit as much as her girls.

“They just have this warmth and this love,” said Thomas Taneff, the Columbus lawyer who handled the adoption case.

When they heard Irina’s story, the Palmers wanted to take care of her.

Russian adoptions occasionally end in horror stories like Liam’s, say Taneff and others who deal with them. Russia threatened to suspend adoptions to the United States this month after an adoptive mother from Tennessee put her 7-year-old on a plane, alone, back to Russia. She sent a note with him saying that he had psychological problems and she no longer wanted him.

Barb VanSlyck, a Columbus-based adoption counselor, said some Russian children develop emotional problems living in orphanages, and adoptive parents might not realize that. Health records and information about biological parents can be spotty and don’t prepare adoptive parents for the difficulties they might face, VanSlyck and others said.

In her diary, Amy Thompson wrote of Liam and Irina that “I am mad at them for being so much damn work, (angry) at them for not just fitting in and for having no personality.”

Irina was sweet from the time she joined the Palmer family, but she wasn’t affectionate the way Jessica and Cache were, her mother said. Jessica and Cache have been in the Palmer family since they were babies. For a long time, Irina didn’t quite trust that the Palmers were her “forever family,” her parents said.

She constantly seeks out people, making new friends, looking for more attachments, Nadine said. Before Irina talked about her favorite color and the sports she plays, she talked about her best friend, Haley, and a lot of her other friends. The next day, she got her mom to e-mail the names of friends she had forgotten to mention.

Irina also wants to know about her “tummy mommy” and what she looked like as a baby. The Palmers have no pictures of her before she came to them and not much information about her family in Russia.

But she knows that she is a Palmer now, and a gymnast, and a lover of sleepovers with her friends. Her parents call her “Irina Beana” and “Bean Bag.” Her father has laid down the law for all of the girls – no boyfriends until they’re 19.

“We’ll see how that goes,” he said. He sounded hopeless.

Irina remembers Liam. She remembers the basement he was kept in after he was burned. Nadine used to walk by the girls’ room and overhear Jessica and Cache:

“Tell us about Liam,” they would say.

Irina also remembers Amy and Gary Thompson. She knows what they did.

When their names come up, her parents – who have raised Irina and the two other girls to be cartwheeling, chattering, loving daughters – try to focus on the good.

“We always say that if Amy and Gary hadn’t gone to Russia, we wouldn’t have Irina,” Nadine said.

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BUDGET CUTS TO OHIO’S ADOPTION SERVICE HURT CHILDREN WHO NEED HOMES

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Budget cuts to Ohio’s adoption services will make it more difficult for the 3,000 children who need an adoptive home.

The state budget signed by Gov. Ted Strickland cut $43 million (or 40%) from adoption services, decreasing financial assistance and training available to prospective adoptive parents.

The most damaging cut removed the state Website that displayed photos of foster children and stories about them. The Website is one of the most effective tools. Because we live in a technological society, most prospective parents use the Website to find out about potential children available for adoption or foster care. The State Website has been replaced by a directory of county agencies.

Many adopted children have special needs and go to families of modest incomes. The cuts will decrease adoption as an alternative to foster care, which costs taxpayers significantly more. Cuts in subsidies to parents who adopt are also likely to decrease adoptions.

Thomas Taneff was admitted to the Ohio Bar in 1988 and has been practicing law for 22 years. He is a graduate of The Ohio State University and Capital University Law School. Mr. Taneff was a Judicial Law Clerk and Franklin County Probate Court Magistrate. He practices in the areas of estates, probate, estate planning, guardianships, adoption and surrogacy throughout the State of Ohio, including interstate and international adoptions. He has handled more than 2,000 adoption cases and was awarded the United States Congressional Adoption Award in 2005. He is also the Macedonian Honorary Consul to the United States.

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Adoption: Am I Too Old To Adopt?

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No. You are never too old to adopt. Anyone who is legally competent and at least 18 years of age or older is eligible to adopt. In fact an age limit on adoptive parents has long since been repealed.

The age of prospective adoptive parents has been creeping up as baby boomers put off having children until they either finish school or got into their careers. Also, many prospective adoptive parents didn’t find their present partners until later in life.

One of the advantages of adopting later in life is that older parents can offer emotional and financial stability.

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Adoption: Safe Havens for Abandoned Infants

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In 1999, the Texas legislature enacted the first law addressing infant abandonment. Nicknamed “Baby Moses laws” after the biblical story of Baby Moses whose mother placed him in a wicker basket to save him from death, infant safe haven laws have been enacted in roughly 47 states and Puerto Rico. The purpose of safe haven laws is to encourage parents who abandon their child to leave the infant with persons who can provide the care needed for their safety and well being.

Ohio’s Safe Haven Law

No two state safe haven laws are exactly the same. Safe haven laws vary in the maximum age at which an infant can be surrendered, who may surrender an infant, and to whom the infant can be surrendered. Most states exempt parents who safely surrender their infant from criminal liability by either declining to prosecute a parent for child abandonment or providing that the surrender of a child under these circumstances is an affirmative defense in any prosecution of the parent or his/her agent for any crime such as abandonment or neglect against the child.

In Ohio, an infant who is thirty days old or younger may be voluntarily surrendered by that child’s parent to a peace officer, hospital employee, or an emergency medical service worker. Prior to the enactment of Amended Senate Bill 304 of the 127th General Assembly, Ohio would only permit an infant seventy-two hours or younger to be voluntarily surrendered without the threat of criminal penalties. The intent of the bill, which became effective on March 24, 2009, was to allow a parent more time to safely surrender the infant rather than abandon the infant under unsafe conditions or subject the infant to potential abuse or neglect.

 Unless the infant has been surrendered in a condition that reasonably indicates abuse or neglect, the parent who delivers the child is not guilty of a criminal offense, is not subject to criminal prosecution, and has the right to remain anonymous. Once the child is delivered, a rebuttable presumption is established that it is not in the child’s best interest to return to the child’s natural parents.

The safe haven provider (i.e., peace officer, hospital employee, or emergency medical services worker) to whom the child is delivered is required to perform any act necessary to protect the child’s health or safety and must notify the local public children services agency that a surrendered infant is in their possession. The provider cannot coerce the parent to reveal the identity of both parents or pursue or follow the parent after the child has been delivered. If possible, the provider can make available to the parent forms that are intended to collect medical information, as well as provide written materials that describe services that are available to assist parents and newborns, but cannot force the parent to complete the forms or take the written materials.

The public children services agency takes emergency temporary custody of the infant and must prepare case plans, conduct investigations, conduct periodic administrative reviews of case plans, and provide services for the surrendered child as if the child were adjudicated a neglected child. The infant may then be eligible for placement in foster care and ultimately for adoption.

Criticism of Safe Haven Laws

While safe haven laws appear to be a safe and humane response to the problem of child abandonment, they are not without their critics. Safe haven laws have been seen as a “band-aid approach” to a much larger problem. Many child welfare experts, for instance, cite the lack of a comprehensive strategy for the prevention of infant abandonment and the need to integrate these laws into a much larger effort to improve services for those women most at risk of abandoning their child.

Others question the effect on fathers’ rights. The abeyance of criminal prosecution and the anonymity enjoyed by the abandoning parent or their agent can often conflict with the rights of the other parent. The father may not even know that he is a parent or that the mother is abandoning the child. Critics believe that safe haven laws should provide the unwed father his due process rights to notice and an opportunity to be heard.

Some adoption advocates have their reservations about safe haven laws as well. Safe haven providers cannot compel an abandoning parent to disclose family and medical history information and the lack of this information can affect the child’s adoption prospects later on.

Others believe that these laws encourage abandonment by women who would not do so otherwise because it seems easier or less invasive than receiving counseling, help with parenting skills, or making an adoption plan. Safe haven laws have been said to propagate “baby dumps” by making it convenient for mothers to abandon their infants and shirk their responsibility. It is thought that these laws send a signal that there is no need to assume responsibility for actions taken and that discarding one’s child is acceptable behavior.

The most damning indictment of safe have laws is that they simply don’t work. In spite of the number of states who have enacted safe haven laws, abandoned infants continue to be found on porches, doorsteps and near trash piles.

Throwing the Baby Out With the Bathwater?

The abandonment of children is certainly not a new phenomenon; reports from the mid 1800s indicate the occurrence of over 900 abandonments over a period of ten years in New York State alone. Safe haven laws, then, may be seen as a new(er) approach to an age old problem. They may not be able to completely prevent the unsafe abandonment of children, but can serve as a valuable part of a comprehensive strategy addressing the issue of abandonment. Admittedly, safe haven laws do have their disadvantages, but when the lives of children hang in the balance, their value cannot be disputed.

In spite of its critics, safe haven laws do work. In Ohio alone, the Department of Job and Family Services found that 63 babies have been safely surrendered since enactment of Ohio’s safe haven law in 2001. While Ohio’s safe haven law didn’t prevent the recent abandonment of a newborn by the side of a road, it has resulted in the safe surrender of children who could have been left in a much more vulnerable location or under dangerous conditions. Ohio has been pleased with the success of its safe haven law and has recently extended the time in which a parent may safely abandon an infant to an authorized safe haven provider from 72 hours to 30 days to encourage more parents to pursue this option.

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Gay Adoption: The Latest Across the Country and In Ohio

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On several different fronts the battle for and against gay adoption is once again being fought across the country. From the polls in Arkansas, to a Florida courtroom to the floor of the Tennessee legislature, people on both sides of the issue are fighting it out. Each battlefield however is producing very different results.

On November 4, the country’s primary focus was understandably the historic election of Barack Obama. But in the state of Arkansas the electorate wasn’t only casting votes for its elected officials. Voters there also passed a measure banning unmarried couples living together from serving as adoptive or foster parents. The measure, which was aimed primarily at keeping gays from becoming foster or adoptive parents, surprisingly received nearly 57-percent support.

The measure’s sponsor, the Arkansas Family Council, positioned the measure as a battle against a “gay agenda” and the strategy appeared to have worked. Exit polls taken on Election Day showed the measure was supported by residents identifying themselves as evangelical or born-again Christians. Rural voters by and large also supported the measure.

Those who opposed the ban included Arkansas Governor Mike Beebe. Opponents like Beebe pointed to a current lack in foster homes as reason enough to vote against the measure. With its passage they now fear children in need of homes will be the ones who suffer the fall out. According to state officials, 1000 children in Arkansas are presently waiting to be adopted. The ban will in effect reduce the number of homes available. Children in need of parents and guardians will now likely have to wait even longer.

With those concerns in mind, opponents of the new Arkansas law filed a lawsuit at the end of December, asking a judge to strike the measure down. The lawsuit contends the new law violates federal and state constitutional rights to equal treatment and due process. The suit also argues the measure disregards the best interests of children while keeping children in state custody at additional and unnecessary costs to taxpayers.

Very similar arguments are what compelled a Florida judge to overturn her state’s long standing gay adoption ban. Ironically, the Florida ruling was handed down just three weeks after the Arkansas vote. A Miami-Dade Circuit Court judge found a Florida law that has banned adoptions by gay men and lesbians for over three decades unconstitutional. The judge said prohibiting homosexual adoption was not in the best interest of children and that the law violated equal protection rights for both children and prospective parents. Advocates for gay adoption say the Florida ruling also makes very clear that the evidence points to the fact that children raised by gay parents fare just as well as those raised by straight parents.

And now, the Tennessee legislature is weighing in on the issue. On January 30, a bill was introduced that would prohibit Tennessee couples-both gay and straight- who aren’t married from adopting. Unless a couple is actually married, they would be prohibited from adopting. The bill does not affect singles who adopt.

In fact across the country gay individuals have a far easier time adopting than couples. However in more than 20 states, it’s ambiguous as to whether the second person in a couple can also adopt their partner’s adopted or biological child if the person is gay. States like Utah, Michigan, Mississippi, and New Hampshire all have laws that do ban joint adoption.

It has been two years since the Ohio legislature took up the gay adoption issue. A bill introduced then would have fallen in line with the measures Florida recently overturned. Its intent was to bar all adoptions and foster care by gays and lesbians. The bill didn’t go far though, never even making it to the hearing stage. Presently Ohio permits single adoptions by gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender individuals. Ohio law does not clearly prohibit joint gay adoption either. However, second-parent adoption, where one parent already has legal rights of the child and a second parent is petitioning for joint rights, is not allowed.

Ironically adoption advocates on both sides of this issue often cite the same concern when arguing their position on the subject of gay adoption: The quality of a child’s life. Advocates of gay adoptions claim that thousands of children need loving homes and to forbid gay adoption is to reduce the overall number of homes available. However, groups against gay adoptions contend that gay adoption is an affront to conventional family values and that it’s in every child’s best interest to have both a mother and a father. Some of those same anti-gay adoption groups insist children raised in homosexual homes, especially females, act out sexually and that self-identity issues are prevalent. But The American Academy of Pediatrics and other gay adoption advocates point to the fact that there is no credible evidence that shows having gay parents harms children. Proponents also argue that for the children who never get placed in an adoptive home the future is often bleak and many of these children who leave the foster care system without ever finding a permanent family end up on the streets, or in jail, without a job or family to support them.

In the meantime, statistics provided by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services indicate there are approximately 129,000 foster care kids across the country. It is these children who hang in the balance, all in need of a stable home. For each of them, these continuing battles may very well make the difference as to when they finally find it.

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