Myth 1: Adoptive Parents are Abusive: Adoptive parents are far less likely to mistreat their children than biological parents. Adoptive parents have to have criminal background checks and child abuse clearance, financial disclosures, medical examinations and court required home studies. Children who are adopted are assured of safe, secure, loving and caring homes.
Myth 2: Adopted Children Hate Their Birth Parents: In my 20 years of experience, this is the fear most often heard from birth parents. As an adoption attorney, I know this is completely untrue. Adopted children realize as they mature the sacrifice their mothers made. Many realize their mothers could have aborted or kept them in an unhealthy living environment. Once they realize the opportunities they’ve enjoyed and the security and love given to them by their adoptive parents, they respect and love their birth mothers for their courageous and unselfish act.
Myth 3: Adopted Children are not Well Adjusted: This is false. Most adopted children have questions about their heritage and where they come from, but this doesn’t prevent them from living happy, successful and fulfilling lives. This is why we encourage birth parents to put together a diary and or scrapbook to pass on to their child. As time goes by, myth, mystery and misinformation develop.